Is the fact that I love rough sex intimidating for some guys?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I do like rough sex
That's one of the first questions I will ask a girl
And when she tells me rough sex
I just kind of shake my head yes ok

But what I find really strange is that foreplay will start start making out and start out in slow motion and work your way up to slow motion and deep

And there's been a couple girls that says go faster harder and I will say okay but I still go slow motion and push deep and about 5 minutes will go by and I can see the color of her cheeks has changed her eyes are open wide she's breathing harder and she's moving her hips with me and I can tell right then and there that it's time to go a fake go though.

And I will start to pick up speed and move her around a little bit and she will grab a hold of me rapper legs or arms around me and said don't go fast just keep going slow

I really believe that a lot of girls nowadays have not had anybody make love to them they've always just been pounded which is fine but I mean as a guy I want to make her come both ways in slow motion and deep and with a good hard pounding

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

No. It's just exhausting, hard work, for some.

They know they need to be creative, but in control. Which is not something most find easy when ball deep in someone, while whipping them like you are their pimp.

It's why only certain caliber of characters can get into BDSM, and of those only the darkest hearts get into masochism.

On the lighter side, people who talk about "rough" rarely know anything about it. It's just porn fantasy they have. In real life it's not as staged as you see in porn.

Most seem to think a few slaps on the bum class as "rough sex". When in fact it's more towards "call the ambulance, if you cannot make it to Accident and Emergency".

It's why orgies and BDSM clubs are not daily events - takes a long time to actually recover...

Samantha36 · Accepted Answer

Yes. Iv asked guys before to give it to me ruff and they don't feel comfortable with even spanking me. Having said that... one guy choked me, slapped me round the face and pulled some of my hair out. It scared me! Iv found out that what I actually mean by ruff sex is, take control, be forceful but don't hurt me. Make me take it, spank me hard and pull my hair. (Not pull it out).

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Well, many men don't have what it takes for that.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Um, under what circumstances are they finding out? Is this a "when we're about to have sex" conversation, or a "it just comes up naturally while we're talking" one? Because if it's the latter, it's FAR more likely that they're just put off by you bringing up something so personal so quickly.

BadApple69 · Answer

Not intimidating but many guys don't want to do anything that they feel might hurt their girl. So it depends on how rough you are talking. I once I used handcuffs and they were too tight. It left marks on my girl's wrists. I felt really bad about it but she was absolutely fine with it. So what do you consider rough?

Apple1996 · Answer

No I think that's normal

Billlewis · Answer

For those of us for whom it's intimidating, like myself, most of us knew we aren't worthy of you to begin with;)

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've had stitches twice from sex before. What are you calling rough?

pierre7i · Answer

Actually I would find that intimidating

To be completely honest, I cannot understand how some women love rough sex?

I guess I'm not aggressive enough sexually ! Firm sex, uninhibited sex, passionate sex, romantic sex, those are the sexual lovemaking 'variations' that I really love & enjoy.

But rough sex? It's not for me.

To each their own of course !

slatyb · Answer

Maybe. I would want to know what you meant by rough.

havingfun2023 · Answer

It's not something that I would be into. 😄so sure.

Bricealan · Answer

My thought is that guys are intimidating by a woman they view as  liking sex too much!  I base that on knowing women that really like sex but tend to experiment around with other men on the side. I think most men are intimidated by that, not so much just rough sex

glennos89 · Answer

It doesn't intimidate met at all... it's more likely turning me on and tare you apart asap 🫦💯

Anastasiya_25 · Answer

I love the rough sex and want them use me as they wants.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That kind of thing doesn't intimidate me, but I would have to have a lot more trust and connection with you before having rough sex with you.

exitseven · Answer

I dont think it is. As long as there is not whips involved.

elizamichale1 · Answer

In my experience guys actually like tht

stratford · Answer

How rough do you like it?

TaureanBull81 · Answer

It depends on the guy really.  What's your definition of rough sex @theanswerisyes?

tfan1 · Answer

Explain rough please.

DextroShade · Answer

It means you are likely unsuitable for LTR or marriage because people typically don't enjoy that stuff unless they have been fucked so many times that "vanilla" sex doesn't do it for them anymore.

smilelots · Answer

I have no problems with rough sex, but it depends on how rough I will not hurt someone it’s not a turn on for me but a spanking pulling of the hair a little things like that as long as nobody is getting hurt can be exciting depending on who you’re with in the end, it’s all about pleasure or it’s supposed to be for me anyways giving and taking