Is the reason that me and my boyfriend can't do most sex positions due to his small penis?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is on the smaller side. He's the smallest I've seen but I still love him and it doesn't define our relationship. I love him and accept every part of him. However, I've noticed that when we try sex positions, it never works. We can basically do doggy, missionary, girl on top. That's it. We've tried probably around 15 others and every time it's just impossible and he can't get it in right. It's quite upsetting because I want us to try other things but it just doesn't work! I've tried all sorts of "easy" and "standard" positions and even they seem too advanced for us and we are unable :( So my question is, do you think the reason for why we are so limited is due to his small penis or am I doing something wrong? Is there anyone who has advice?

[Monty35792]

Man these guy answers are mostly douche answers so far. Must have struck a little nerve! : ) Anyway, From what I can gather so far it seems like you have the same problem me and my wife do and it has nothing to do with my size. She weighs about 300 pounds and I am 170 so that is another size difference that one must consider. If that is the case the smaller partner is the one that must get creative and try variations of the positions that work best. Slowly move with each other into the desired position while he is firmly inside and once you get there make sure you do not move too much from where you started or he might start pulling out too far by accident. Regardless of what the problem is just try to communicate about changing positions while he is inside of you and you will most likely have a lot more luck that way! It worked for me anyway.

[Anonymous]

I am compact and we are limited as well. Missionary, Legs up missionary and Cowgirl. She can't come from intercourse alone so it's not that important to us. She can from Cowgirl because I can directly massage her clit while she thrusts. So that's what we do.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. :)

[Goldie757]

Have you tried...

Reverse cowgirl: Your guy lays on his back while you sit on top of him but facing away from him. This is good small penis sex because either of you can provide clitoral stimulation.

Spooning position: This position works because it narrows the vaginal canal. It helps you feel his penis inside you, and it helps keep a small penis from falling out.

Butterfly position: Putting your legs around his neck can also do the trick if your heights allow it. You can do this while lying on a table while he stands up, or you can be on the bed with him kneeling. As he lifts your hips, you put your legs around his neck. Keep your thighs closed tightly to make him feel bigger while he’s inside you.

[Anonymous]

quite possible that in some positions it is impossible with the size is. However I find that different positions work with different partners because of different shapes and sizes. Try some of these... there is 20 of them.
sex.sofeminine.co.uk/.../...nis-d49607c580544.html

I was going to suggest something similar to the crossed keys - I tried this with my last boyfriend but uncrossed legs without knowing its for a small penis, it hurt because he had a fairly big penis.

I was also going to suggest trying to spice things up not by just changing positions but what about varying other things - e. g. have sex in different places, role play, use props (e. g. feather, scarf, blind fold, mirror, food items),

[IAmNotAnElf]

Yes, I think it might be since me and my boyfriend have the same deal. We try a lot of different stuff but only a very few positions work, we have tried some that technically works (f. ex reverse cowboy) but I can't do them more then very few minutes do to being way to weak in my core muscles.. But one of my favourite positions is when he's on top and I have my leg (or legs) on his shoulders. Maybe try to find variations of the positions that work?

Otherwise I would say that rather then playing with new positions, try explore different places around the house!

[Asker]

How long have you two been having sex? You don't have to answer if it's too personal. I'm just trying to understand if this is a sexual inexperience thing or what. I'll definitely try your tips. I've been wanting for us to try different places around the house :P

[IAmNotAnElf]

Don't you worry, it is an anonymous sight after all ^_^ we've hade sex for alost 2 years now, and I have been sexualy active for 3, he for 10 and he do admit to having problems with it also before he met mee

[IAmNotAnElf]

But you will get used to adapting, because it is as you say not about it being small in the since that detrimen if it's good sex or not. But one likes to try new things and experiment just as "everyone else" does

[Asker]

Agreed with everything. Thanks for your advice. Only person that actually tries to help. I suppose it's a taboo to ever mention a small penis.

[IAmNotAnElf]

Yes, unfortunately it is. But if it would be a guy saying he wanted to pay for his girlfriend breastfeeding implants since she only had a b-cup he would get so many comments about how she should have owed him both this and that and he's the best boyfriend ever ;o

[jesshkah]

That might be it unfortunately :/ there are some that just work and some that don't because it's harder to get the right angle. Have you just tried googling "sex positions for a small penis"? I know it sounds lame but there might be some ideas there lol

[tinyclit]

For sure if you want to do all those exotic positions, do them while you're young. Once you get older you won't be flexible enough to do them and it won't have anything to do with his penis size.

[purple_stripes]

When you say that in other positions he can't get it in right, do you mean he slips out, or doesn't go deep enough to thrust without being pushed out?

[Asker]

His penis doesn't seem to reach me properly in most positions. When he does, it's often the latter that is a problem.

[purple_stripes]

Then it does sound like length could be the reason, though curvature can sometimes be a factor too? If you're looking for new positions to try that would work out, look for anything where the angle between your body and his dick is more or less perpendicular.

[Capree]

I can feel the tire marks from the bus over his back... damn, lol. Just tossed him under the bus.

[Asker]

Why is it a taboo for a woman to ask a question about her boyfriend's penis. Like low and behold a woman says something about a small penis. Why can't it be discussed. Do I have to lie and pretend that he is big is or what?

[Capree]

No, i just thought it was funny. I have no problem with you asking or about whatever size he is, but i can see how my joke was insensitive and unnecessary, so for that i do apologize.

[Capree]

No, i just thought it was funny. I have no problem with you asking or about whatever size he is, but i can see how my joke was insensitive and unnecessary, so for that i do apologize.

[abc3643]

Is he Japanese? Does he not have a gargantuan American penis?
southpark.cc.com/clips/103420/japanese-charm

[Amanda2]

No, I do not think so.
I had a boyfriend that did just that too and he was no way small, its just preference

[DomAlderson273]

Poor guy 😕 It's probably due to size, certain positions just won't work without a specific length

[amy-louise-H]

I think one of the problems is that because a certain position hasn't worked it may be playing on his mind, so stick to what does work for you's for a while so that he builds his confidence up before trying a different position.

Of the three you have listed " doggy, missionary, girl on top" that do work, I would go for being on top, but with him giving you lots of oral before and after xx

[PizzaEveryday69]

Oh fuck! Putting that teeny tiny penis on blast for the internet to read lolololololol

[HGStebbins]

Sounds more like a lack of flexibility and sexual chemistry.

[Asker]

I would have agreed with the flexibility but the thing is, like I said we have tried even the very basic ones other than the 3 I mentioned and it still doesn't manage to get in or stay in. Our sexual chemistry is definitely strong. We have a very healthy sex life and I'm very much sexually attracted to him and vica versa.

[HGStebbins]

"Basic" is a pretty subjective term. It could be penis size. It could be any number of things. The term you used was "easy" though, not basic. It can simply be the way your bodies are shaped don't allow for easy access. Without seeing it in person there is no way to actually answer this question satisfactorily.

[Asker]

I see what you mean. There could be other factors like height. I'm about 5'7 and he's 5'9. I don't know if that could be a problem. Is there any advice you have for us?

[HGStebbins]

Nope, not without knowing what the actual problem is.

[worldscolide]

I would say yes.

[slimstiffy]

Yep. You need a aide dick ;-) . lol jk
I dont know that small could cause that much of a problem. I always tought it was the angle. Are you sure its his size?

[Asker]

I was also thinking it could be the angle but then I was like "how is it possible that most positions don't work". Like how can the angle be wrong in almost all positiions we try :/

[slimstiffy]

Well that depends what is his angle as in how far way is it from the belly and much to the sides?

[Lessthanaveragr]

Probably, that's the reason most positions don't work fur me

[Satisfyd]

Are either of you overweight at all. Cause a little belly can get in the way. How does he feel about your sex life? If he's happy then you may have to live with it. So, yes size can limit many positions. Keep trying different things. Try not to obsess on the issue then it will become a problem. Also understand that if he's small, he knows it. Try to only look at the positives for both of you, that will keep things good.

[123456789912]

no its cause your ignorance, you need to look it up on youtube

[Asker]

Ignorance? How does that make us physically unable to do certain sex positions? Please explain. This should be interesting.

[123456789912]

dont blame a penis or your boyfriend. If you don't know how to have sex with him then it's your problem. he will find a better girlfriend who is not obsessed about his penis size and you loved him you woudnt have brought this topic.

[Asker]

We love each other and I'm not "obsessed" with his penis size. It's because I love him that I want to know how to improve our sex life and I want to understand WHY we are struggling hence why I'm asking this. I'm a great girlfriend so stop talking shit. You don't know anything about me or my relationship. I love my partner to the moon and back and would do anything for him. I just seek advice on where the problem is because I want us to have a awesome sex life. Why can't you understand this?

[123456789912]

great girlfriend? you showing off? and if you really want to try other sex positions... fuck... I thought girls like just their boyfriend and not sex... and if you want to try and you think he penis is small then try to buy a dildo and teach him how to use that and what makes you feel great in bed

[Asker]

Clearly you have insecurities and don't like the idea of someone commenting on a smaller penis. I'm sorry but reality is that sometimes a guy can have a smaller penis. That's a fact, not a opinion. That doesn't take away from the love I have for my partner. Just cause I'm stating a fact, doesn't mean anything. No need to take it so personal.

[123456789912]

I just dont like when girls bring up the topic of penis sizes. My penis is 7 inches and its ok. But would you like if your boyfriend asked here question and it wuld be like: I like boobs in general and boobs make me hard I like big ones but the thing is my girlfriend tits are tiny... what do I do? I love my girlfriend

[Asker]

You don't understand. I'm on here trying to get advice on how we can improve our sex lives. Boobs have nothing to do with sex or penetration. There are many factors with having sex and i'm trying to understand what is contributing to our struggle. We both deserve a good sex life don't we? Now why is it that I'm not allowed to ask about whether his penis size is contributing? Why should that be a taboo to you? I can't help but wonder why feel threatened over a girl stating a fact.

[123456789912]

boobs hvae nothing to do with sex? my girlfriend gets wet from sucking her boobs. And what you can do? get his penis bigger? how? its only surgery. Whats your point of asking?

[Asker]

God, how many times do I have to explain. I'm trying to find out what our problem is!!! I'm not asking him to change or get surgery. I want to know WHY we are struggling and if it his penis size then it's okay and fine. I'm not asking for shit. Please take YOUR ignorance somewhere else. Just cause a girl asks something about a small penis doesn't mean she wants him to change. You really take things way too personal and I'm not sure why.

[Starex]

Is He uncircumcised or circumcised

[Asker]

He is uncircumcised :)

[Starex]

The same my Penis. How size big it😊

[Starex]

I am uncircumcised and my Penis is Not big. with soft 5 cm with erection 10 cm

[Starex]

I have a tight foreskin

[Starex]

What can we do

[Starex]

Is it pleasure for you with make sex

[mayingyinn]

Yes. I think. I am not satisfy if it is too small.

[JHAYES317]

@mayingyinn maybe your vagina is too big…

[Goodadvicegonebad]

I used to be big, as well as my ex. Most positions didn't work, EVER!! Also, the angle of her vagina didn't help. Our sex life was really limited to the same as yours. Fast forward a few years, I've lost lots of weight, my new lady is really small. No position is off limits. So, his penis size might not be 100% of your issue. Body size and angle of your vagina could be killing your fun!

[Anonymous]

Can you give examples of what doesn't work, because most things are sort of variants of the big three you've listed.

My guess is that with his shorter length you need to be more precise about the position of your legs so that he can get close. In some cases that means your legs need to be open wider and in others it means your knees need to be closer to your shoulders.

If you give specific examples we could give specific suggestions.

[Anonymous]

small penis and a big vagina haha nah try it in the booty?

[Anonymous]

How small is he, in inches? I really need to know, because I'm small myself, and I have no experience.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure oral sex is easier, try 69ing but yeah other positions would tricky for him to not slip out but if doggy and missionary work then why do you need so many more?

[Asker]

3 sex positions... How is that not going to get boring.

[Anonymous]

What's his size? How small is he?

Yeaa I think it's because of the size... That's you are not able to achieve the positions you want