Is there a double standard when it comes to shaving and hygiene?

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Men always expect women to be hairless but their junk usually look like it has a freaking Afro and expect us just to cough up fur balls and some men never shave their chests or back either, which in my opinion looks gross , unless they’re older, then it’s kinda expected.

NotTacocaT6969 · Accepted Answer

Yeah.  My ex demanded that I shave but refused to shave his balls because he was afraid of getting cut. 🙄

Date_a_Snob · Accepted Answer

Definitely double standard

MrOracle · Answer

I'm not an overly hairy guy, but most of the girls I've been with would NOT want me to shave anything but my face, and many specifically said that they felt that men with shaved chests, etc. - unless they had a job that required it - seemed un-masculine to them. They could understand that bodybuilders or swimmers might shave, but otherwise, they didn't like it.

And this isn't a generational thing, either. My most recent serious girlfriend was 22 when we got together, and my current girl is 31 - both have talked, unprompted, about their dislike of guys who shave or wax their bodies.

That doesn't mean you can't have your own preferences - I'm not shaming you for liking what you like - I'm just pointing out that your preferences are a lot less common than you might realize.

Honestly, what you need to do is share your preferences with your guy and ask him if he could make some adjustments for you. Given that what you want is the exception, not the rule, you can't expect most guys to ALREADY do what you prefer, when that would go against mainstream opinions.

PositiveFlight · Answer

Hair on men isn’t “gross” it’s masculine and natural. Just like pubic hair on a woman isn’t gross either. What are we, still in middle school? As a man, I want to actually look like a man and not a little boy who hasn’t hit puberty. There is no reason to remove hair from a man’s chest or his pubes, or legs, or anywhere else for that matter. I understand that women like to feel smooth and don’t grow thick hair on their legs or elsewhere other than her pubes. But at least let the pubic hair remain natural. It’s healthy and symbolic of womanhood and just looks much more aesthetically pleasing to have signs of maturity.

Long answer short, yes there is a double standard, but I certainly do not hold such a double standard. I want both of us to be hairy down there. If she doesn’t want to shave her legs or armpits, I’m not going to make a deal out of it. Although I know most girls want those areas to feel soft. But I’m more likely to make a deal out of it if she looks like a little girl in her private area

summiter · Answer

I agree with you 100%. Do most of your current or previous boyfriends trim or shave down there? I do...

inhua · Answer

double standards exist everywhere.  there's no shortage of short women wanting tall men when they aren't tall themselves. that being said, too much hair is uncomfortable to sit on.

Berethor · Answer

Yea double standard, but not out of nowhere, as men tend to be more hairy naturally too.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

Yes but I think it is gradually changing. A lot of guys who are actually worth their salt are happy to remove their hair for a beautiful woman.

slatyb · Answer

Always? I don't and my wife leaves hers alone

Dargil · Answer

How about we all groom as we choose and take our chances?

Orion76 · Answer

I don’t know what you are talking about luv! I’m not sure how often but I do my manscaping periodically whenever I feel is needed even when I’m single I won’t feel right otherwise. Lucky for me I don’t have back hair, chest hair trimmed as well now I do this for me ever since I can remember and I honestly I thought all guys do so, you need to tell the person how you feel about that if they don’t get it if my girlfriend or wife wanted me to shave I would. What’s expected with older me.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

There’s definitely a double standard that branches off into multiple stereotypes for men.

You do the bare minimum personal hygiene? You’re seen as dirty. Shit, some females like it this way because it’s “masculine.”

Too clean? You’re “gay” or “not masculine” or are a “pretty boy.”

I find it funny tbh. I’m always washing my hands, using lotion, maintaining hygiene to very high standards, shit I even take care of my nails, cutting them, filing, etc. If that makes me gay, so be it

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sorry, I prefer men to look like men, not little boys.

stratford · Answer

I would not expect my partner to shave anywhere without being prepared to do the same myself.

In this modern age I expect you are just as likely to find a guy who shaves his balls dating a girl who doesn't want to shave hers.

es20490446e · Answer

I like women to have their natural hair.

Redhawkedancing · Answer

I love a smooth pussy, but I also respect other choices. It's her body. I keep my pubic area smooth, by my choice.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

But you still have sex with them. So why should they change?

LiamJHayden · Answer

lol I started removing my body hair for water polo and have never stopped, so that has not been an issue for me

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah I try to keep my junk nicely trimmed so it doesn't look like a forest. I also trim my armpit and luckily I don't really grow any chest or back hair.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

It depends on preference. If a partner wanted me to groom, I would.

OnTheLevel · Answer

I'd agree there is an expectation for girls to trim or shave, but lots of guys do as well.

Amur8711 · Answer

Have you not seen the manscape commercials at all?

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