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Is there a legitimate reason Adult Friend Finder would pop up in the address bar as a recently viewed website?

Weekend trip with my fiancé. He let me borrow his laptop to complete school work. I’m typing in the address bar to bring up my school’s page and Adult Friend Finder comes up as one of the recently visited pages. Instead of snooping, I ask him about it. His response (yelling) is that he wouldn’t have let me use the laptop if he had anything to hide. Says he uses it for porn and nothing else. I started crying and he immediately stopped yelling and said he’s not using the site, doesn’t know how it’s on there, there’s nobody else, I’m the one he wants. I get in the shower and he comes in, kissing me and touching me very passionately... more like how things were at the beginning of our relationship. All the rest of the day he’s telling everyone in our group that I’m his wife (not married yet), that we get along great, I’m a keeper... I just keep overthinking it. Is it possible he’s being honest? I set up an account to check it out myself and once the account was set up, the address showing in my address bar was very similar to the one that popped up on his. Or am I just being really naive, hoping he’s telling the truth?
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Just to give clarity, he said he uses the laptop for porn, not the AFF website. He consistently denied using AFF at all
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  • Well, I don't think there's too much to worry about it. Since it's showing in recent visits, yes, he's definitely opened the site for sure. Now how long has he been there, what's the frequency, what's the reason, without knowledge of all this, it's difficult to come to a conclusion.

    * He could've accidently or purposefully clicked an ad on a porn site
    * He could've searched/ opened the site out of curiosity or anticipation, but without actually wanting to get indulged
    * He might have opened the sight to check out things but not logged into the site
    * He could've been using the site just for 'window shopping'. And since he said he used it for porn, then may be this is the reason. He might be imagining for some real girls for pleasure than just pornstars.

    I'm saying this because I can relate to it. I used the site out of curiosity, though didn't use much. I used it earlier sometimes when I'd be bore with porn and looking for something in real. I'd login there.. go through few profiles and then just masturbate and forget it. I didn't find it wrong because I knew the profiles there are for those who're looking for casual sex and so didn't find it taboo to masturbate over them.

    So I think you should consider it more like a porn for him. The only thing you should check, may be, is that whether he's a paid member, which I doubt.

    • Update: * It could be that he used for pleasure reason as I explained you above and is afraid to tell you as you won't understand. * Sometimes when you click a video on free porn sites, that video opens on a new page and the old page automatically opens an ad page, which in this case could be AFF. I suggest you guys do role plays periodically.. May be weekends or once or twice a month.. as per your liking. Do a role play wherein you meet as strangers.. sometimes just as friends and end up having sex or as if you met through a hookup site. This way, even if he has a fantasy of doing so, he'll be satisfied by the regular roles and possibly won't do it live.

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  • If it's listed as recently viewed is because he went there. In the old days, I would say "It was probably a pop up. Those happen a lot on porn sites." But I don't think I've seen a pop-up since 2009. I don't think those are a thing any more. Or maybe I'm not going to seedy enough sites. Anyway, I'd think he got there by clicking on an advertisement. Maybe accidentally, maybe on purpose. Maybe he made a mistake and forgot to clear it from his history before letting you use his laptop.

    I believe in giving the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he really did end up there through an accidental click, a misleading link, or looked at porn so hardcore he went to a busted site that somehow still has pop-ups and he ended up there. Maybe. Sure. I'd give him one. But be sure if it happened a second time, that'd be it.

    • Well he clearly didn’t clear his browsing history as porn sites were popping up, too. I’m not really concerned about the porn, but a hookup site is taking it too far. I get that men look but we agreed no actual contact (female friends being the exception, of course).

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  • Any pop-under advertisement will go into history as a visited website.
    It's those pages that you may see suddenly loaded in your browser in another window.

    These sorts of trashy websites are common as annoying ads on porn sites, so yeah, it's entirely possible a bunch of those can be in your history for "legitimate" reasons.

  • I have bad news, OP.

  • Hopefully you scared him a bit. How is your sex life with him? Is he feeling like he needs more?

    • Well I thought great, but now I’m not so sure. 1-2 times a week. I’d prefer more but he’s older... BJs whenever he wants. Ugh. I’m an idiot.

    • You are not an idiot!!! Maybe try increasing the amount of sex with him?

  • Yes, he visited it.

  • Sound suspicious. Maybe create false profile and see if you can find an account for him on the site?

  • That’s because he’s been there don’t be fooled by a liar

  • There is a chance that he could have clicked on an ad accidentally and it took him to that site.

    Or maybe he intentionally clicked on an ad for that site and then he left it when he realized what was happening.

    Or, worse case scenario, he was actually looking for another woman to have sex with, or he is actually cheating.

    I don't want to say he's automatically guilty.
    But at the same time, I don't think you should brush it under the rug.

  • He could be cheating, but I agree about him not letting you use his laptop if he was cheating. But keep both eyes open for signs of cheating.

  • Ooof. The naivete of OP hurts.

  • One of you was looking at it

  • when watching porn that site is a frequent pop up

  • He is lying to you get out now before you catch him with the other woman/women/man/men.

  • The bigger red flag was him shouting about it. But he did tell you that he used the site for porn, then he changed his story saying he wasn't using the site and didn't know how it got on there. This means he's a liar, and tells you what you want to hear. Therefore if you marry, or get deeper into this relationship there will be no foundation. You've been warned...

  • He either looked at that site on purpose or clicked on an ad for it by mistake. There are many deceiving links especially on porn sites. Another reply said they haven't seen pop-ups for years, but I still see them. The only way to really tell is to check the browser history to see if he was looking at pages on that site or if he only opened the home page and moved onto another site.

    • Thanks. Do you think it would be an unreasonable request for me to ask him if I can look at that? I’m an honest woman at heart & I don’t have it in me to go through it behind his back. Just wanting a guy’s perspective on how you might take it if your partner asked

    • I'm sure he'd be upset if you asked to see his history. He likely has already cleared it. The way he behaved after you saw AFF as a recently visited site seems like he's over compensating. I suspect he was doing more on that site than he is admitting but feels guilty and doesn't want to lose you. You may want to let him use his get-out-of-jail free card this time, but keep a close watch on him before taking the relationship to the next level especially if there are other problems such as him not being interested in having sex with you

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