Is there a way to tell a guy I want sex without sounding too desperate?

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  • I doubt most guys will think badly of you for wanting sex. You don't really have to even "tell" him, just get alone in the right place and make a move. He will get the picture. If he does not respond, there are many other fish in the sea.

  • This is one of the subjects that doesn't require talk, just seduce him. If you aren't in the position to actually physically do that. You shouldn't really have sex with him.

  • Well, when someone asked me they simply asked if I'd ever considered a friends with benefits situation, she didn't come across as desperate or clingy. It was simply a question. Whatever way you choose to ask, good luck!!

  • Yep, easy tell him you wanna smash, that's it don't say hey I was wondering noo, come over bring and wear whatever it won't matter walk in the door and smash right there take control he will love it and think he did something

  • After you dating? Do you have a place of your own? Invite him in. Then..."Would you like to stay?"

  • Depends how well you know them and how close you are.

    Telling a stranger "will you come to bed with me?" isn't always going to get the right reaction as telling it to your husband or lover.

  • Interesting question, and I had an example of that about two years ago. I worked with a girl, several years my junior, in a state office, and one evening after work we went out to dinner, as "friends". We had never talked about sex or sex partners et cetera.
    Before getting out of the car, she said to me, "You know, I haven't had sex in 10 years!

    (No sure her age, but younger than I, 35?) She was not someone I would want to have
    sex with, although pretty, she was a big girl, and not my physical type. I did not know how to respond.

    Right after that she said: "Why is it, when a guy is hitting the exact right spot, he stops?
    At that point, I was really at odds as to what to say, as I did not want to start something I did not want to finish, no COULD finish at that point. Had I DONE anything, I did not want any kind of DRAMA in my office with her as she was not exactly a really emotionally stable girl at that point in her life

    Based on YOUR question, THIS girl wanted to have sex, but did not really know how to approach me or any other guy.
    I guess to answer YOUR question, you have to be more discreet about the time and place you make your intentions known to the guy, and maybe not say how long since your last sexual episode. Her comment about 'hitting the right spot" was a good lead in and might be a way to make your interest/desires known to YOUR friend of interest.
    Hope that is some help.

  • Start kissing, then rub his dick through his pants then hand in his pants wear a short skirt without panties spread those thighs inviting him in.

  • A man will never see that as desperate.

    • But we are conditioned to believe that women don't want or like sex.. So that would be a huge shock to a man

    • You're both right, I used to get shocked and now never see it as too desperate.

    • @Guy__ you have had experience with a woman wanting/asking for sex?

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  • The best writers know to how to show, don’t tell

  • Just say, "I love your body." He'll get the hint.

  • I sincerely wish to meet such a girl telling me explicitely she wants sex. That sadly never happened ever... Please ladies, just tell me if you're in for some intimate fun with me :0)

  • Just tell him straight up and 90% of men will probably agree without giving it a second thought.

    In no circumstances they will think you are desperate anyway 🤷🏼‍♂️

    We lack the brain capacity to think that in such moments because the blood will be send downstair instead of to the brains 😂😂😂😂😂

  • Just sauce, for some reason desperateness is seen more on men than men see on women

  • Rub his inner thighs and tell him your lady parts are bothering you.

  • Snuggle up to him for a while, let him know you feel comfy with him, if you get the chance, look into his eyes for a moment and then slowly get close enough to kiss him passionately.
    I thought girls knew all this shit!

  • Just tell him

  • I would make out and grind a little. Gets them going. Then it's up to him. Where to go from there.

    • Very true! Grinding is an undeniable come on

    • Or maybe show lot of skin of legs and thighs and start rubbing his legs with your legs

  • ask if they wanna fool around or not. if they say no then just play it off as a joke. that or just be straight forward with what you want. if he's interested in you he'll likely go with it.

  • Yes, but you highly likely are a transgender boy.

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