Is there really a benefit for women if we do cohabitation with bfs and lots of sex?

Since the topic about men's fear of marriage (feeling forced to follow the woman's agenda) has already been talked about, I'll now switch the question. I know what's it like being used for money too. An ex boyfriend scammed me with nearly 1/2 of my savings on another account I'm never getting back. When I noticed my money missing, lets just say it was the loudest horror scream ever. I wanted to faint and strangle (not serious) that bastard.

Be honest, besides lust and ''oh the passion, my love my life, enjoying the moment'' is there really a benefit for women if we do cohabitation with several bfs and have lots of sex, all ending in break-ups, no real security of a commitment? Besides sex (an overwhelming attraction, that's not love) do women really benefit from that? I see none. Since many men are willing to give us sex, how can that be a benefit for us? So by following the man's agenda (only cohabitate, lots of sex and be prepare for him to always have one foot out the door), isn't that them also forcing their agenda on us too?

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  • I mean realistically the only difference between that sort of cohabitation and marriage is on paper. The only real benefit you get from being married to somebody other than the social aspect of it is you can share the same insurance company and if they're in the hospital you can visit them. Or become the beneficiary of any life insurance or property if they pass away. Otherwise it just ties two people together in their property and position in our society. You are right it is a lot easier to leave a relationship than it is to leave a marriage. Also, different people have different sex drives so I've known a fair amount of women who have had much higher sex drives than their partners so they wanted more sex out of the relationship but the guy just didn't. I'm all for people doing what makes them happy, if you want to get married then be open and honest that the relationship that you're in you want to end in marriage, and if the guy gets scared off by that... Good! That means you're not going to get married to some idiot who's going to resent you for it. I want to get married as well, who doesn't want to spend the rest of their life with their best friend.

    • Yeah if he's scared that's on him. I have no problems signing a prenup. I have my own property too and still recovering from the money I lost. That bastard that cohabitated with me wasted my effort, time and didn't stop at just sex; he took my money too. Horrible person.

    • Yeah, some people don't want an equal relationship. As a rule I just don't live with anybody before I feel like I would be comfortable marrying them. Like, it's definitely part of the chemistry to figure out so I don't want to wait until I get married to cohabitate and then find out that they are a hoarder or incredibly messy or bad at sharing space and they get resentful.

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  • Here is the thing. While you’re living with him he is paying your bills or half (which usually it’s all) so you’re benefiting from that, ur also benefiting from the sex, not just the guy. You have that protection, because if someone breaks in or try’s something while ur out it’s him protecting you.

    • In my case, I actually got screwed. I didn't move in to his house. It was my house and still is. When I came back, I found out I've been scammed and he ghosted me.

    • I didn't benefit in anything with that user.

    • This doesn’t sound like an issue about cohabitation this is an issue that you’re just dealing with a scam artist. Look my thing is this, I’m not supporting cohabitation. My problem is I feel marriage has no benefit for a man. Because had you been married, and you divorced him for scamming u, you would’ve taken everything he’s worth plus more. So he would’ve gotten screwed. Not u.

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  • I guess it depends what you like.

    Personally I enjoyed living with a woman for many years before we got married and during the marriage. I liked the intimacy, the companionship, going everywhere together, even making out while we shopped for groceries. I like to be in love, and be inseparable. The idea of sleeping around with friends with benefits just seems empty and dangerous to me. There's no comfort in it, and no future together. It's just sex and not a very efficient way to get it.

  • i mean typically you pay only half the rent of living individually plus you get all the sex you want. what more of a "benefit" do you need?

    • Security and stability. I actually didn't move into his house. I like my house. For doing this cohabitation and placing my dedication and trust meanwhile all he was thinking of sex and getting my money. I came home one day and he ghosted me and my money was gone.

    • if you already own a house, that's a different story.

  • At your core, what do modern women really have to offer other than sex?

    • In my case, he didn't take just sex. He took my dedication, time, trust, support and lastly MY MONEY I'll never get back.

  • I don't know where you are getting the "forcing her agenda" thing. That is not the primary issue with marriage today for men. The real problems are:

    1) Marriage does not offer the same value to men that marriage of the past did.

    2) Marriage is very costly and risky to men now. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file the vast majority of those divorces, and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody settlements.

    3) Sex, one of the biggest benefits of marriage for men, is readily available now outside of marriage without all the risks and costs of marriage for men.

    If a man does an honest, logical, unemotional cost / benefit analysis of marriage versus the alternative, it's almost impossible to come down on the side of marriage. That's what we are seeing today, and it's why marriage will soon be a thing of the past in the West.