Is there something wrong with me if I'm too promiscuous?

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I've been hooking up with random guys too much recently. Always use protection ofc and I'm on birth control (for other reasons but yea). One of my friends thinks it's troubling that I'm behaving this way now out of nowhere because I literally used to never have sex before. I think I'm fine and she's just feeding into the stereotype that sexually active girls need to have some sort of mental disorder or whatever. And ofc that isn't true all the time but I'm not sure if there may be an underlying cause as to why I keep doing this now when I would've never even considered doing so before. I also have a submissive fetish and like to call guys I'm fucking daddy and be treated roughly.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Yes. The fact is data consistently shows that promiscuity causes issues, it definitely hinders future relationships and is most often caused by personal issues. For instance having had sex in your teens is a predictor of promiscuity, the younger you where when you first had your sexual experience the more likely you are to be promiscuous, if you have a poor or no relationship with your father you are more likely to be promiscuous etc. In fact one psychologist stated he believed it was a version of self harm. We know that those who are promiscuous tend to be more depressed then those who are not, are more likely to abuse alcohol/other substances, they are more likely to be unhappy in long term relationships, more likely to cheat, more likely to divorce, more likely to partake in thrill seeking behavior (in fact if you look at pornstars for instance, the top forms of death are suicide, drug overdose and car accidents (thrill seeking behavior). So yes I think their is something wrong with it and we have ample evidence to show its negative effects. Its a form of self medication, a way of coping with issues and such. Does any of this sound like you? Be honest with yourself when answering that question. Your friend is looking out for you, some times what we need to hear and what we want to hear are two very different things.

H2OHydrox · Accepted Answer

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all. That said, if you did go through some emotional trauma recently, and are using this as a coping mechanism, then by all means speak to a professional. Otherwise, keep doing what you’re doing, Princess.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is no universal rule about how promiscuous one can be - some say you must be chaste until marriage, some say people should never have sex at all (there's none of them left), and different people have all kinds of different opinions on this.

So, what you feel about yourself is all you can really go off of. If you're being responsible, never having sex with anyone too intoxicated to consent, never harassing or assaulting anyone, and being generally decent to your partners, then I have no problem with how many of who you are sleeping with.

But, do you feel like you're being driven to this sexual life by something sick or not right within you? It sounds like you're worried that may be the case. If you think you have a problem, it's a great idea to read-up about sex addiction, ethical sexuality, and similar topics. Maybe see a therapist if you feel like it's that big of a problem.

In my mind, you can do a lot worse than fulfill some emotional needs through sex. It's better than shooting heroin, or becoming violent. Probably better than hoarding rescue animals - and there are people out there who do that.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

nah, there's nothing 'wrong' with your having a sex drive and wishing to explore it. I mean.. guys do that all the time and even praise each other for it so I can't see why you shouldn't join in on the fun.

TheBlondeBrunette · Accepted Answer

As long as you’re playing safe and no one get hurt, nothing wrong with it :)

PhenomenalPancake · Answer

Nah, nothing wrong with it. If it's what you like, do it. No harm in it.

Gynophile · Answer

Its the social norm for you to remain innocent since you're a woman. Have fun. Stay safe. No problem. Just dont expect others to understand. As far as the daddy thing, thats a gateway kink. Slow slippery slopes my friend. Haha. My personal opinion. you're young. there's time. Slow it down a tad. Anything can become bad when overindulged. Life is about balance, and restraint in some instances.

silverqueen · Answer

No. Have fun

JayCasper777 · Answer

Do what you want to do, but be ready for consciences.  Its like smoking or drinking, not too much but on occasion yeah why not.

thomascale18 · Answer

So long as you use protection its ok. Its alright to have sex all the time.😂😂. Thats the dream life.

AlexT91 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with a healthy sexually open person. But the daddy thing sounds kinda... Not cool.

AustinTXGuy · Answer

Horniness ebbs and flows over time. Being promiscuous isn't a bad thing as long as you take away positive feelings from it. If it makes you feel negative about yourself its unhealthy. It doesn't seem like that's the case. As for being submissive is this a new phase you're exploring? Maybe that's the reason for being more active lately? It can also be caused by continually having a great time each time, it makes you hungry for more of the same.

mattjash · Answer

These are normal ways of life, the only warning that there really is, is be careful for health reasons or entering an abusive relationship.

Zebadee88 · Answer

Just have a little respect for your pussy. Don't feed it with strangers all the time, let her get to know one person at a time.

Cale19 · Answer

Nothing wrong with it, you just have a high sex drive

gobsmacked3 · Answer

21st century- women are allowed to be sexually free  as long as you practice safe sex and are respectful to all involved. there is no issue

Stan_Control_ · Answer

Sex is great. You keep doing it because it feels awesome.

AlphaStyles · Answer

Then stop hooking up with strange dicks STD is real

cancan73 · Answer

Nothing wrong here just be careful

Dimmu · Answer

It's called leftover

jyotiraditya101 · Answer

That sounds hot and natural, healthy. Keep having fun just stay safe and tc

Medieval12 · Answer

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your behavior as long as it is done in a safe way. You seem to already be enforcing the safe sex aspect of it. As a Daddy dom I can tell you there is a whole world out there that you would fit right into.

CT_CD · Answer

Yes. Most women who are overly promiscuous have issues. Mental disorder, isecure, low self esteem and feels that sex is a way to get attention and to feel noticed.