Is there something wrong with me wanting a dominant husband?

Is there something wrong with me wanting a dominant husband?

Dont get me wrong I dont want a BDSM thing. But I want him to be the head of the house. I want to have a say in things and be heard/reasoned with but he always has the finale say. I want their to be rules that make sense that he explains. Rules like no showing cleavage outside house, no lying, no missing house chores etc. And if I break them I get spanked or some other form of humiluating and painful punishment in private with him alone and after he'll hold me tight. I want us to be able to be happy together, make jokes, laughing etc. I want him to stay calm and talk steady when I'm hysterical crying or angry. I want him to be romantic and show me the way to God. I wanna overflod him with affections.

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I'd NEVER want this type of relationship you are weird
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I'd WANT this/has this
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I wouldn't want this but it's okay
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So far most men want/has this type of relationship but no woman does.. I must be one weird woman..
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  • I want something close to this, though there would be some differences. Regardless, there is nothing wrong with you

    • What differences would their be if you had that kind of relationship?

    • It would be less heavy-handed. They wouldn't be any kind of humiliation or punishments unless the punishments were actually just teasing. I am the leader, and she submits to me, but I hold her thoughts and feelings in utmost importance. I think of us more like a team rather than me ruling her. We may do some intense dominating stuff in the bedroom, without anything degrading or unkind

    • Alright, I mean I wouldn't want any BDSM but okay I see.

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  • No, its just what turns you on, and that's great as long as your husband is into it.

    • Alright I guess

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  • No there is nothing wrong it, I would love my girlfriend to dominate me in the bedroom, such a turn on. Its so hot.

    • Well why dont you tell her?

    • I do tell her, just cause you don't like it, does not make you a weird women. Everyone has their preferences in a relationship, but you communicate your needs to make sex exciting for both of you, and not uncomfortable for either party in the relationship. Communication is key to making a relationship healthy and strong, rather just assuming.

    • Alright, well I haven't written anything about in the bedroom but yeah communication is important

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  • Most of it I want and have but maybe to a lesser degree. Except, no spanking or any form of abuse.

  • I think it’s rare that a woman wants this. I have never met one

    • Really? Is it a good or bad thing?

    • It’s good! It’s your personality. It also sounds a little kinky….. like light bdsm !

    • Oh okay thankyou

  • If you want to be spanked, that's the BD and DS part of BDSM. The term usually used for the relationship you are describing is "Taken in hand." It's a large sub-genre of romance fiction.

    • I was spanked by my ex too if I had an attitude

    • I take it you were happy with that.

    • I needed it...

  • I don't mind being first among equals, but I'm not a dictator

    • What do you mean?

    • She makes many/most daily decisions. She defers to me on bigger ones.

    • Yeah that make sense. Ofcorse it won't work if I'd call ask about every little thing haha.. that was implied

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  • I've had a chic say similar, but it didn't take too much coaxing to turn her into my full blown BDSM Sub.

    She initially said she wanted to be exclusive monogamous, but that changed too, she would play with other hotter chics I'd find for us.

    • Okay sounds a bit much for me

  • I can't deal with hysterics.

    • I'm not a hysteric lol.. Just have 2 days/month I'm very down and low energy.

  • I think a lot of women want to be submissive to their spouse.

  • The type of man that are going to be so insecure that they don't want you to show cleavage outside of home are probably not going to be very compassionate or understanding dudes 🤷‍♂️

    • *type of men

    • I disagree. I think they care more about me.

    • Really? It shows they don't trust you.

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  • As for me being a Man this is a very good deal for me because it's what most of my Women are like an that's what I look for in a Women.
    God Bless

    • Thank you, God bless you too! You said ""most of my women"", are you married to more than one woman or what did you mean?

    • No I am not but I do have more then one girlfriend that live's with me at a time. God Bless

    • Alright I see. God Bless you too.

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  • Actually a bit. But not really a huge issue as long as both are content with the plan. And there no changes of the mind.

    But meek people seek out dominant folks. You see it all the time in serial killer docs. Like Karla and Paul Bernardo.

    I would venture most couples have a ying yang version of Dom/Sub. I do financials. My wife is better at DIY and even mowing the lawn (I know a masculine bastion!).

    • What are meek people?

    • Subs

    • Alright yeah I think im a bit more submissive than most maybe. But I would never be with a man that I can't look up to. And serial killers are so far under my feet

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  • it sounds so sexy to me to be sub and equal with me..
    but u r a bit into sub

    • So you like being sub too?

  • There is nothing wrong in wanting it, but a lifestyle like this requires commitment, I have been in one and I know if boundaries are not set properly or not followed properly it can ruin the relationship and no matter how much you love one another it breaks your heart too

    • Alright why would it break your heart? And what type of boundaries?

    • Well any relationship is important to you that's why you are in it and when it doesn't work it breaks your heart cause you loved the other person. As for boundaries that's a long topic of discussion so not going to dive into it here, if you want to know feel free to text me. And about your update I don't think you are weird, it's just that your choice is different from others.

    • Alright make sense. Thank you

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