Is this a weird preference in sex?

[Anonymous]

Apologize first to be explicit, but when I am with a sexual partner, I really like to use my hands to hold her labia open and just look inside. The view itself already turns me on greatly. I like to do it for a very long time (opening the labia, explore things there, and just watch all the details), even for half an hour or so. I have only done this with my girlfriends who were already comfortable with me. But sometimes I wish to do it a bit more without sounding too selfish or creepy. So, is this generally an acceptable behavior in sex? Girls, if your partners ask you to let him do this, would you find it weird and off-putting (I know especially you probably don't get anything from it)?

Sometimes I even just wanted to do all these without initiating any actual sex behavior. For example, just let my girl sit over there and open her legs. It's like I am a doctor haha. Would this sex preference sound very unusual and make people uncomfortable?

[zollo]

Definitely a bit strange, like someone else said about looking at it once but looking at my vag for a straight hour a couple days a week is kind of strange. And if anything though I would almost prefer it if no sexual acts were initiated because it's almost like blue balls in the since that I would get horny but then you would sit and look at me vag for 30- 60 minutes. If that was your thing I wouldn't mind doing it a couple odd times but it wouldn't be a multiple days a week occurrence. Also would it turn you off if she was just chillin' reading a book while you looked inside her lol?

[Asker]

Sorry, maybe I exaggerated a little bit, it's not like hour straight every time, or very frequently everyday in a week, but definitely it will be an explicit behavior in our sexual relations (like once in a while, and the intention is clear). Would it still look strange? Yes, I do like it even without other sexual activities. But it's not that I am going to just go for this. I am not just turned on by the view but also the tension and vibe involved when I am doing this. Probably will be turned off if the girl is reading a book. Will you start to have opinions on me if I propose this? If I want this, should I propose this a bit later once a relation is a bit stablized?

[zollo]

I think it would still be a strange thing to do even if your both into it just because of the act itself. Also when doing this are you jacking off and is it kind of expected that your going to have sex after this? Like is this almost like extended foreplay to you or in the case of " just let my girl sit over there and open her legs" would you just do your thing and then it's all back to normal? Also in the case of not initiating sexual behavior would it turn you off for the woman to not be aroused in that case because there is not sexual behavior?

[Asker]

I guess when I am doing this, my hands are busy... so probably can't in any way masturbate, but I will be very hard and get great pleasure from it. I think it all depends, sometime it could be a foreplay leading to sex, in this case probably it won't be too long before we start taking more "actions". But at other times I would also be happy to do it just for the sake of doing it, and hopefully the girl can understand somehow. Do you feel you will be completely turned off by this? If the girl doesn't get too much pleasure I think I am ok with it, but I will be turned off if she obviously acts against it, like looking sleepy, doing other things, getting distracted... etc.

[zollo]

At least for me it wouldn't be that big of a turn off because in some way I would get pleasure out of it from the light touching and just the fact that your enjoying yourself but in the instances when it's more of a casual spread of the legs with no sexual follow through I would want to read a book or something to sort of preoccupy my mind. With no physical stimulation and staring at the ceiling it'll really start to feel like i'm at the doctors or dentists lol XD. But just because I would be reading or something doesn't mean I wouldn't be enjoying it, i'm just enjoying it on a smaller scale. It's like a snack! A snack isn't filling like a meal but it's still enjoyable and you usually sit down to have a meal but with a snack you can be doing other things while eating it. Like I wouldn't try to eat spaghetti and read a book at the same time but I could definitely eat a granola bar and read a book at the same time. You know?

[Asker]

Haha thanks! Then it's very accommodating and I think I will be happy about it as well. We can also have some conversations during it, just over random things. Or if the girl is ok with it, I can describe what I see to her as well if it is fun. All these intimate atmosphere makes it great for me. Glad you are not so against to it and don't find it a big no!

[Dipta78]

U can do this once just to knw how it is inside bt doing same thing everytime is weird

[Asker]

But if I bring this up, will you reject it (say I am your boyfriend or partner)? Will you hold additional judgements on me because of this?

[Stellargasm]

You should maybe just save that for when you watch porn, girls have to do that when they go to a Gynecologist so it’s prob not a turn on. There’s probably a shitload of videos of just that you can watch without weirding out a girl who’s willing to have sex with you.

[Asker]

I am not sure there are many videos online about this. Most porns are just "actions". But it's not like I am just going to inspect, like a doctor. I also hope there's some intimate vibe involved. But yes, you're right. Probably it will weird the girl out. Thanks!

[ecfresh]

Yes half an hour is way too long and I haven’t heard that particular kink before. I mean if you are going to spend half an hour down in that area there are more fun things to do in my opinion

[Asker]

I feel this intimate vibe knowing that I am doing it only for the sole purpose of looking gives me great pleasure also

[ecfresh]

Oh, there are many other things you can do to create and enjoy intimacy. Lots of women feel insecure and if you are down there staring for half an hour she likely has some concerns in her head

[Asker]

I feel doing other things probably is more about enjoying things together. But this act shows that I have the direct lust for her, her body and genitals. It's very intimate to me. But I get it, probably will make a lot of women insecure

[ecfresh]

Such direct focus of her genitals makes it odd. I know you want it to feel like desire to her but it comes off as selfish to your pleasure. The thought is right, just change the execution. You probably already know but there are 1000s of other ways to show you desire her and many of them don’t even require you to be next to her. I would suggest doing some of those more mainstream techniques and saving this kink until you are either married or in a 100% secure and trusting relationship. Like you said those other things are mutual enjoyment.. that’s better as your romance grows in a relationship. Anyway Kudos for finding something unique that turns you on. Keep exploring sexuality.

[scotcheggs]

yes kind of weird lol

[Asker]

Is this weird to the point that if I bring this up, you will reject it and have opinions on me? (Say if I am your partner) But thanks!

[scotcheggs]

i mean people have their strange sex kinks so i wouldn’t change my opinion on you as a person. i think i would be surprised but i’d appreciate that you felt comfortable enough to tell me.

[Asker]

Thanks! It's very nice of you to say so

[scotcheggs]

no problemo

[Cherokeehp]

That’s weird asf.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's weird...

[Asker]

Ok.. get it. But is this a big turn off to you? Will you reject it right away, and have negative thoughts on me if I proposed this to you? (say I am your partner)

[Anonymous]

Yes and yes

[Asker]

Thanks!