Is this behaviour correct during ED problems?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend said he had some ED problems that he can't get it hard
I told him he needs to see a doctor asap
But i think i should also say that im here for him if he needs relax or stimulatio, not just sex
I just said that he needs to see a doctor and i won't preassure him
I think i didn't make him feel good as a man
Or its ok?

[Markie-mark]

Keep supporting him, have him do some workouts or heavy labor

[Asker]

He already does at work But i felt like i wasn't enough... i dunno why. Im afraid he will think i dont want him as a man because of this I do want him, tho very much so

[Markie-mark]

You're doing great as a support, if it's not testosterone I heard online it could also be stress maybe he's super stressed or something, don't take that and run with it but think about it a little if he's been having a rough time lately

[Asker]

He said he is depressed because of his moron brothers being dicks to him and insulting his dead fsther, they have different fathers But i want him to know that he doesn't need to cut it off with me or be just friends Im his girlfriend He is very sad lately

[Markie-mark]

That can explain it, that's fucked up to have happen those brothers need to be cut off from, you're a great support as it is I wouldn't press him to talk about it but try to let him heal, let him know you're there for him, nudge him the right direction; do some things he might like and well... If he even does open up, do as you always do and listen, he'll probably talk about his dad

[Asker]

What about sexual part? Hoe do i reassure he doesn't need to break up o be fruends only I want him to know im HIS WOMAN Even tho now he is sick How to make him understand this?

[Markie-mark]

Tell him upfront! Tell him you're not leaving even though things have taken a hard turn, you love him past his penis and let him know it'll be temporary, it's not worth killing everything for that

[Asker]

I was talking to him and put my hand on his legs And asked if he is ok with it since he said he doesn't want a relationship (sex) because he fucking can't And he said... no it doesn't need to be like that

[Asker]

I said : "Remember we started as friends. I knew yiu like me but we started as friends first. So if now i need to be a frind i will be be but im your Friend-Girlfriend. When you feel good again the girlfriend part will naturally cime back"

[Markie-mark]

I mean that kinds makes things a lot more complicated and distant than just loving him through his temporary ed, but at least you're telling him you're gonna stay and not back out, this relationship means more than just good cock and little pleasantries

[Asker]

What things make it more complicated? What should i do then

[Asker]

Should i offer hand job to try to kift it up Or not for now?

[DonkeyDan]

I think your response is fine.

[DonkeyDan]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

When i saw him las Tuesday i told him i touched myself thinking of him hehe Wanted him to know he is hot

[Mitt15]

You are absolutely bang on , you just need to support the guy , and leave the decision part to him , also tell him if he wants to discuss anything he can approach you and feel free to discuss.

[Asker]

What bang on means? Im supporting and told him im there for him If he needs a pause to cure himself i see no problem Yiu knw what he said?"I thought you want it all or Nothing" He thought i will leave him because of it I totally said no Im not just his woman but a supporting friend I told him that I just dont want him to think i dont desire him anymore

[Mitt15]

Well in that case just let him know your views to him , I think he reacted awkwardly as he was not happy with himself , may be i am not sure.

[Asker]

Yeah you are right he totally did He was very weird lately and didn't want to talk to me One day got angry and shouted if you want we can break up I was sad i knew there is something he doewnt want to tell me And this is it... He is insecure i think

[Mitt15]

He is clearly not happy with himself , give him some time and space , he will figure out by himself , you giving in advice will make him more uncomfortable.

[Asker]

Should i keep saying i love and want him as a man and if he wants try other thing or whatever, not just sex Im willing to do it Or for now is better not to say that

[Mitt15]

Don't say to him directly you love him , i would suggest help him feel happy and know him that you are there for him , eg by cooking his favourite dish , going to places where you both enjoy , ... Let him understand that a bad event in life doesn't mean that life is over.

[Iron_Man]

Send him to a professional ED specialist doctor

[Asker]

I know Im talking about what attitude as a woman i must show him So feels good and secure i still love and desire him and support him

[Iron_Man]

Just feel supportive basically it’s just like going in for a tuneup and he’s fine again

[Asker]

How do i reassure him i still desire him as a man Without being pushy or hurtful

[Iron_Man]

By living with him in person

[Asker]

We live in diferent towns now

[Iron_Man]

Oh wow