Is this considered rape if it was my boyfriend and it was my butt?

So at a party with my boyfriend of 2 months. I went to bed earlier and he was drunk when he came to bed. We started having sex and then he tried to put his penis in my butthole (I’ve never had anal sex ever in my life) and I told him no, and backed away. He pulled me back and tried again, again I said no and pulled away. So he went for my vagina again and then a few minutes later he tried for my butt again, here I pushed him off. He tried sticking it in without any lube or anything and it didn’t feel right so again I said no! And few minutes later he tried again and I guess I let him for a a couple minutes but it was so painful I pushed him off again and then it all ended. The next day my anus is torn and bleeding all day, and two days later still faintly and hurts. When I brought it up to him he said he didn’t remember but I know he wasn’t that drunk because he remembers our conversation from around that same time of the night.
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  • You said you let him for a couple minutes. That's consent. You were not raped.

    • by that logic if someone wants to rape you and eventually you become too tired to fight and just let him do it that becomes consensual😂

    • @jspl90 yeah for real wtf

    • Yikes... no @dudeinohio that's not consent! That's coercion, and acting under duress. This is actually how rape occurs most times because when the victim feels [she] has no choice and it happens because fighting her perpetrator off is either very scary or not working - or both.

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  • More like indecent assault..

  • Once you say "no" and he continues then its rape at that point.

  • Yes its rape if you say no

  • I mean by all means yes, he was drunk which is why its best to stay sober when around girls so that this doesn't happen. I mean you can call the cops on him if you want to but in the end its your call

  • Under UK law it's definitely rape,

  • It's not rape at all if you allowed it and you didn't say no any sexual act that you want and you don't say no it's not rape

    • Let me tell you about consent using tea as an example: If you came over to my house and I offered you tea and you did not say anything, would I just make tea? Or would I ask you again, just to be sure you actually want it before I make it for you? And if I did make the tea, even when you did not answer, should I then proceed to poor it down your throat? Cuz you did not say "NO" to the tea when I asked you.. Apply this to all scenarios: insert tea with sex. Would you poor tea down someone's throat while they are unconscious? No! Would you keep offering tea when someone said "no thank you"? No! Well then, it is the same with sex..

  • You said no repeatedly and tried to push him off. That's rape.

  • So you want to have him arrested?

    • No I don’t

    • So why even post the fucking question? Are you just dying to claim victim status?

    • No I just want to know so if I’m ever in a situation like this again or no of someone who is, it’s good to know. Why does everything have to lead to some result?

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  • Yes that's definitely rape and he wasn't drunk he just wants you to think that. Your boyfriend is a major dick dump him if you don't it will only get worse

    • Now that you know what are you gonna do

    • So this was actually with an ex boyfriend of mine. I had never considered it rape until I brought it up to my friend recently and he told me it was rape so I was curious what others thought. I am not with that man anymore, he did end up being more abusive and I left and yeah

    • It’s been 2 years actually

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  • Yeah... rape... it’s illegal even for couples... dump him... report him.

  • That’s something only you can know, if it was against your will then it was rape , but again he was drunk and if u didn't keep proof then you got nothing on him legally so its not a good situation, my advice is seek therapy you may be in denial and refuse to accept what happened

  • That’s disgusting and something I would never do.

  • Yes, and honestly this is saddening when people dont take the necessary precautions to have anal sex, it can be pleasurable but there is a hug caveat to that. Need a lot to reduce the pain and need to talk to a doctor or anyone in the medical field

  • Sounds like rape to me and be careful you could get an infection from an open sore back there

    • I hadn’t thought of that, I will be watchful thank you

    • Your welcome

  • If it’s not consensual it’s rape.

  • Yeah it is..

  • Yes that is rape. You told him no several times. Leave him immediately and press charges.

  • Sounds like it to me

  • I don't know! but if he was not drunked then it is surely rape.

    • It's rape regardless of if he was drunk or not. Being drunk is never an excuse for that.

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