Is this man using me for sex?

we hung out six times, we usually just get something to eat or drink and go to his place. He always pays for everything and when I offered once he just grabbed my wrist and tapped his card. He said Thst I could get the movie tickets next time. So we go to his place because we don’t know what to do. And he took me to the theatre once on our third date but I was tired so I wanted to go home. And he said it’s okay although he paid. On our last date he kept trying to grind me and asking if we could have sex. I kept telling him no unless I trust him and that I’m looking for relationship. Since he kept grinding me and stuff at night in the morning I said that I’ll take the bus or Uber to work, as I think that he was using me. I told him I was really hurt, he kept insisting on driving me. And then we got into an argument because I wouldn’t get into his car. He kept insisting to drive me. I kept saying that he’s using me and he said he really likes me. And if he was using me for sex, two times seeing me without sex he would’ve not hung out with me again
And then he said he thought we were a couple already and said we can be girl friends and boyfriends if I wanted. He also gets really jealous and says things like “you ignored me cuz u were on dating apps”, looking through my phone notifications, sayI don’t wanna lose u.
On three dates in he said that he only cares about me, his family and responsibilities. But the last time I saw him he was very sexual. We would always kiss, hold hands. And on our first two dates he would call me beautiful, sexy cute.
And when it’s early in the morning if he can’t drive me he would call an Uber.
He said he was looking for something serious

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  • It’s hard to guess what’s in someone’s head. You say he offered to put a label on your relationship and make you his girlfriend and says he’s looking for something serious. Maybe he’s sincere, maybe he’s not. Who knows? It’s too soon to tell. The fact that he’s looking for sex after a few dates isn’t unusual. Most guys try to do that. If you are interested at all in continuing to see this guy, just be honest with him. Tell him you want to see him but you aren’t ready for sex. It might take a while and you will let him know when you are ready. If he starts pulling away after that, you’ll know he was only after the sex.

    • He agreed to a relationship but we haven't texted since yesterday morning, just to say good morning. I put a heart after the good morning text and he didn't...

    • but the day before that he was loving and used heart emojis, like wtf is going on

    • Yeah I told him that I'm not ready and also i like him

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Yeah he is, it almost sounds like he's treating you like a hooker if he's paying you for it

Most Helpful Guys

  • May be. We guys love sex without commitment. If you make us we do commitment. If we like you a lot. Tell him. The relationship is progressing though skipping important stages and you want that. Since it is going so fast you are not able to gain the trust you would gain at bit slower pace. Can we please take two steps back and have another go at these other critical steps. Please don't get me wrong I enjoy sex with you and I want more not just sex.

  • This dude sounds like an FBoy and player who manipulates women into sex by taking charge and making it look like a relationship before there really is one and lacks manners and is no gentleman. If you want this type go for it. Otherwise, he will take what he wants and move on to the next woman.

    • Sorry could you explain “lacks manners and is no gentlemen”?

    • Yes. A true gentleman respects a woman and doesn’t try to keep having sex with when you’re not willing to go that far. If he was mannered properly he would have backed off immediately and said “I’m sorry, I’m rushing things, let’s not move in this fashion until you are comfortable.” A real man also respects your boundaries and would not go searching through your phone.

    • He said it was fine if we don’t have sex yet but he was grinding on me and made me so uncomfortable

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • hard to tell. his actions are really inconsistent. maybe mood swings?

  • Yeah... dude is not genuine...

  • He may be. He's pushing you to have sex.

  • He pay for everything is actually bribe to you so you spread your legs bloody dumb cunt.

    • awww thats so mean :( its not my fault im attached

    • Your boobs size?

    • 25A--

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  • no..
    i think he really loves u

    • Really?

    • Dude... stop...🙄

    • Yes, this is what I think by understanding what you explained in your question.. Yes, he loves you

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  • Yes, dont you know? We are all pigs, and that's all we care about.

    • lol shit, im being played right

    • Lol, No, stop assuming the worse. Just be confident in yourself. There will always be a struggle when something you want is worth it.

    • so what do u think he wants from me

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