Is this mind games by this fuckboy?

[Anonymous]

From the start he never initiated a convo

-his outside persona is of a shy, introverted guy who barely talks to anyone but he's actually not like that. He's very rebellious, hot tempered, posh, stubborn and does talk quite a bit

- he took hours to reply to me when I first messaged him giving him my number (as he gave me his). Instead he was busy searching me on social media

-never initiates convoz and when I asked if he was free via text, he replied the next day , late evening asking for coffee

- he said he would arrive late, but kept saying how he was sorry and didn't want to keep me waiting. He did arrive and we had a nice date
-during the date he kept asking about how he wanted a break in a cottage in another city with me for 1 week

- he basically looks me up and down, at my thighs and we were nudged into each other, he didn't even move aside. He also looked like he wanted to hug me, kiss me and held me tightly

- didn't message after the date so I did
- no texting on his own

- also told me how he would go to a female friends house after the date who had a "boyfriend". He did go and was offline till the next day.

- during the 2nd time, his attitude was different. Took hours to reply to meet, was cold but came to see me 2 times and hugged nicely

-didn't message me again after the chat
-after the 2nd neet up, he doesn't reply to the texts I sent him

-keeps smoking in my presence

- now when he sees me, he winks and waves, and sometimes comes to say hi
- but no texting when he is online every hour
- throughout the time, he seemed less interested in building a rapport, exchanging views and getting to know each other by talking on various issues and instead changed his attitude

Is this guy a fuckboy, who plays mind games? He's 25

[arodriguez664]

Yes, leave him be. He will only break your heart and lie to you.

[Asker]

I feel so sad and disappointed. I genuinely thought he was a nice guy :(

[arodriguez664]

I know how you feel. I had a very similar situation but I stuck it out in case he changed his mind or maybe if I could just break him out of his shell he'd be okay. In the end he suddenly dropped me without so much as a word as to why. Trust me walk away its not worth the damage to your self esteem and self respect.

[Asker]

He's already not replying to my texts so he's already dropped me. He just didn't even seem to be friends. He doesn't believe in deep connections. But why is he winking when he's seeing me?

[arodriguez664]

People who use others will do anything to keep you just interested enough to continue giving support/positive attention. Usually they will try to keep you when you're just about fed up with the situation. It's a horrible cycle. Just pretend he doesn't exist and find someone who wants your attention. Easier said than done, I know.

[Asker]

went on a date with a guy whose been staring at me for months but wouldn't talk to me. I finally talked to him and he gave me his number. I messaged him giving him my number and he replied few hours later and disappeared for a few days. Never initiated any conversations but was online every hour. Finally I reached out and he replied late evening next day asking for coffee. I met him and he was OK. But I told him about a man who makes me uncomfortable and he had no reaction or concern over it. It was also tube strike and I had to take the bus but he didn't even message asking if I was okay. Instead he told me he was going to a female "friends" house who has a "boyfriend". What do you think of this too?

[arodriguez664]

I'd leave that alone too. He was curious about you, but he clearly doesn't care enough to really engage with you. Especially if you've already expressed that you'd like to interact more. He might be interested in the other girl or he might straight up being seeing someone else. It doesn't really matter all that much the important thing is he isn't meeting your needs, or even halfway.

[Asker]

No this is the same guy as the post above. What do you think?

[arodriguez664]

Leave it alone. Seriously. He isn't meet your needs regardless and doesn't seem very interested in even trying. He sounds manipulative and immature.

[Asker]

Manipulative? How so?

[arodriguez664]

Sending mixed signals is inherently manipulative. You want to keep someone around while you figure out how you feel or because you like their attention. m.youtube.com/watch?v=18ohO2twz_c&feature=youtu.be

[Asker]

Why do you think he's doing this mixed signals?

[arodriguez664]

he's not talking to you outside of physically hanging out, but winking at you and staring at you. People make time for things they actually care about

[Asker]

OK but why this mixed signals? Punishing me or making me wait for him? Overtiink for him?