Is this molestation?

[Anonymous]

My sister's 16 and she just told me that a friend of our family (who's in his late 30s) sexually assaulted her three years ago. It happened in a car while sitting right next to her, he placed his hand on her stomach under her shirt and then went on to touch her thighs with his other hand. At one point, he placed his hand over her genitals and started rubbing it, but when she hit his hand he looked at her confused and asked if something was wrong. She told me the experience sickened her and she had nightmares of it, but since he was being really friendly she didn't really know for sure if it was assault. The problem is that it's been 3 years and there's really no evidence of it.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like MAYBE he got his signals crossed but, even so, he SHOULDN'T have gone that far with her, ESPECIALLY since he's twice her age and she's only 16!! UNLESS 16 is legal where you are. If not, MAYBE you could nail him for child molestation.

[Asker]

She was 13 when it happened, and irrespective of age it was non-consensual

[FunkyMonkee]

Bust him! I was 14 when a guy in his 30's molested me but, I didn't know it was something he could get arrested for or I would've said something to my parents. Maybe that's how it was with your sister, too. I don't know about today but, when I was a kid, parents taught their kids that sex was wrong, bad, dirty, they'd get punished if they talked about it, etc. so, I never talked about it!

[Asker]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. There are 2 things to this issue however. - He tried to sexually assault her, but it was ontop of her clothes, so I don't know if it's valid - It happened 3 years ago, so I don't know if we can legally do anything At the time, she didn't even know what happened was illegal. We're exposed to perpetrators as being on the television, something that happens rarely. I was shocked

[FunkyMonkee]

Thanks! Same to your sister! This guy also got my brother and my oldest sister. The youngest was only 8 or 9 so, she didn't become a victim. Well, you said he reached under her clothes and played with her puss. I don't know if you can, either. There's places online or via telephone where you can contact a lawyer to ask. Maybe the local police can tell you. Yeah, same with me. Like I said, it dealt with sex so, I never said anything about it. This guy, Norbert Carr, got me up into his bedroom and then had me pull my pants down and lie on his bed beside him while he played with my dick and made me play with his. He was built like a bear so, I doubt I could've got out of it. There's an old t. v. show called, "Rhoda" from the late `70's and the lead character has a sister, Brenda. Brenda has a boyfriend who reminds me a lot of Norbert in stature and build but, not so much in looks.

[MTC29]

It is molestation, but three years after the incident? Unless the perpetrator is someone famous, (think Bill Cosby), this is going no where.

[loves2learn]

Yes. That is definitely molestation. She should tell your parents.

[Boromir]

She should tell your parents, even if no charges can be pressed it allows your parents to cut ties with this ‘friend’ and make sure that you or your sister are close again to this creep.

[Boromir]

*never again

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sure is but she can't prove it. Those family friends be the worst.

[jasco]

Without proof their is no chance. So even if it is, it wouldn't matter because it be a he said she said case where it would be a matter of opinion on who would come out on top

[ChiTownLov]

I believe you have 2 years to report it. Maybe I'm wrong. Then 12 from that date to press charges.