Is this normal for a guy to behave this way?

The first time I met we made plans for me to come out and see him for an evening and into the early morning. He couldn't keep his hands off me that first time, we did it 4 times and did oral a few as well, and he loved spanking my bum. The next time I seen him, I had gained a bit of weight from being in college, not a whole bunch all my clothes still fit tho. He flew to see me this time, and we spent 1.5 days together, he only fucked me 1 time, which I thought was a little off since he told me how much he wants me and stuff, but he did fly 12 hours so could easily of been tired, and we cuddled at least.

Well I flew out to see him, he didn't even come get me at the airport so I was in a different country and a bit hurt i flew all that way. He didn't come see me that nigh either. When I finally seen him the next day he gave me a hug but no kiss like he used to. We get to the hotel and we do cuddle and have sex... but it was different, he didn't talk dirty, no moans, didn't really try and do much other than we made out for a bit.. and no spanks like he said he couldn't wait to do. Next night we didn't get to the room till 2 am, he said he wanted a shower and I figured he'd invite me, so he was getting ready so I jump in bed naked. Well all of a sudden I hear him playing porn really loud on his phone and can hear him jerking off and moaning. I held back my tears bc I felt like I was so unattractive that he would go masturbate instead of doing stuff with me. I then thought well maybe he thinks I'm really tired and just wants me to rest, and we'll do it in the morning.. but he gets out of the shower, faces the wall and falls asleep. no cuddles (he got a room with 1 bed... what else would I think we were going to do). Morning came nothing... next night came same thing he jerks off in the shower. I feel so hurt that he wouldn't really even touch me after we talked about all this.. even just cuddles would have been good.
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  • Reading this and your responses to others, I’d say that his behavior is normal for someone who is losing interest in the situation, even the woman as well. The first time was amazing because well, it’s the first time. But if he’s not interested in a relationship or really investing in you, these expensive meets ups will get old very fast. Especially when he’s talking to other women, watching porn, and not wanting to date you, a 12 hour flight for a meet up that costs hundreds of dollars will get tiresome.

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  • This in not normal behavior. He seems to have lost interest in you and should have had the decency to tell you to cancel the trip to see him.

    • I couldn't cancel cause the flight was non refundable... like we are just friends though but we've had the "benefits" part as well... it just kinda was weird walking into a hotel with 1 Bed. if he didn't want me and got 2 beds I wouldn't of been as disappointed I guess... but when 2 days before I left he said he can't wait to do stuff to me and just didn't...

    • I would be very disappointed if that happened to me and would probably be done with them.

    • Thank you for the MHO. 😊

  • No, something's definitely not right there, cut your losses and move on.

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  • Wow…sounds like TLC 90 Day Fiancé gone bad…

    • honestly that's what I felt like... I didn't go in with the expectation to date him tho... I know he doesn't want commitment and I knew he was talking with other girls but it just hurt him doing that all right in front of me. no problem texting the other girls and stuff.

    • Perhaps, the “yes, you can have it and no you can’t and I don’t care about your wants works for him and maybe you?” How old was he?

  • It sounds like he lost interest.