Is this sexual molestation?

Is A girl - 16 years old is left alone with the stepfather for a week for the first time Mother is away abroad.
Stepfather usually sleeps in a separate bedroom but one time decides to sleep in the same bed as step daughter. He says that she is very stressed and that he can give her a massage. Girl refuses several times. Clearly saying no. He then asks again and start massaging the girl's back ( like they do in massage parlours) The girl can feel how his fingertips are touching her breasts slightly (this could be a pure coincidence).
The girl because very uncomfortable because of this and rolls away from the stepfather. She is laying on her back.

Stepfather says that she is still very stressed and starts rubbing her tummy.
Girl is again becoming uncomfortable because with each rub the man's hand is getting lower and lower until it feels like he is almost trying to get down.

Girl takes the man's hand and pushes it away m
She later tells the story to her mother. Mother says she is confused.

Is this just confusion?
Updates:
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I want to thank everyone for your time and answers that gave me some comfort. I don't think I am ready to tell anyone about this yet. I thought I was crazy and it is hard to deal because my mom does not believe it at all which made me think that I made it up in my head but I cannot handle it in my head. He used to abuse my psychologically too. Like shouting at me when no one was around. But everyone is on his side and I am an introvert. Regardless, your answers give me a lot of relief. Thank you
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  • I do not think any of what you said is confusion. It started completely wrong when he decided to sleep in bed with you. That alone is enough to show that he is doing something wrong. Any touches he does that bother you are wrong! Regardless of whether he was trying to touch your pubic area, his touching was all wrong.

    If you are attending school, not home schooling, I suggest telling your school counselor. They are trained about such things and know who to contact to help you. If you do not attend school, then contact someplace like planned parenthood. They probably have contacts they can refer you to.

    Your mother had to know that what he was doing was wrong. Many women are so caught up in pleasing their husband that they will convince themselves that bad behavior is not really bad. She could even see it happening and not help you. You need to find someone who is not family and is trained about such things.

    • If you do not find someone to help you, he will do it more and it will get worse.

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  • I tell many women deadwind you have children you get divorced you have another man come into your life your children come first no matter what and this is the thing I'm talking about your mother should be able to look into your eyes hear you feel you every word that you're saying and not be confused at all I am not confused I can feel you I can feel your energy I can feel your words I can feel your heartbeat as you're telling it and this is where I think parents go wrong it's b******* I'm so sorry this has happened to you I'm so sorry you had to go through this I'm so sorry that nobody believes you I'm so sorry to your mind is where it's at right now because of this non-belief I have a friend that has had the same thing happen to her and it just pisses me off that nobody will listen

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  • Hebis 100% making the moves on you. This happened to me. I wasn't a mi or. You flip the F out on him and threaten to tell your mom. Do this in private.

    Now, if your mom is really into this guy, telling her will lkkely not go the way it should.

    If that doesn't help and he continues what I suggested then you need to record him somehow and make sure you are refusing his advances. Which you obviously will. Then present it to your mom.

    Do you have a relative you can go to to stay over?

    • Oh I didn't read. Need evidence. Mom wants a man. Doesn't want tonlose man. Says cinfused so she doesn't have to face the music. Girl, I am so in pain for you. They are wring. No confusion. He's a dirty dog.

  • This is disgusting and your mom doesn’t want to believe you you should go to the cops I understand you I’ve been there don’t make the same mistake as me not going to the cops

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  • Yes it is and really should be stopped.

    The girl definitely should not be left alone with them.

  • That made me feel sick to read, definitely abuse

  • Yes it is.

  • Honestly no. But I do think it was heading that way but until it’s actually done technically it’s not.

  • Yeah at minimum that’s molestation. Personally I’d class that as a sexual assault.

    • I agree with @hollyf That made me sick to read

  • No. This is highly fucking inappropriate. No man goes pushed a massage on a 16 year old girl and accidentally touches her breasts and moves closer to her genitals. Not does he just go sleep in her bed.

    I suspect the mother doesn't want it to be true and if there's never been any signs it's understandable she doesn't want it to be true.

    • To be clear "no" was in response to "is this just confusion". Your question and the last question in the text are almost reversed. Normally that annoys me but in this case we will blame distress caused by your mother's douchebag partner.

    • This is because I am being told repeatedly that it was just a confusion. The story I wrote before is what happened step by step exactly. I am trying to pin it down as perfectly as I can. Thank you for your comment and support

    • So I am trying to see in which step I might have gotten confused...

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  • That sounds disgusting, report him, she's 16 that's sexual assault AND pedophilia, and for that many details it doesn't sound like confusion. Please don't let her suffer from that trauma in the same house as him

  • It's hard to say whether it happened or not, these two people were working at this Bingo Hall together this girl age 17 and guy was age 19, she liked him so she made up a story that she was sexually abused by the guy when it came to going to court she admitted the whole story was made up.. But in the girl's case with the Step-dad she should report any wrong doing to the police and her mom but I wonder if she's telling the truth or not by all means no guy should assault a girl who is underage?

    • I believe that it happened and It's just sad a man got stoop so low, he needs to keep his hands to himself, we live in a world that is very shady and people don't know what is going on behind closed doors but it's happening and sad

  • Yes it's difficult. But sadly these things happen..

  • I dunno but its fucking gross and borderline sexual assault.. The man should be reported.

  • Women are trash she made this perversion up just to mess with you guys

    • This is exactly why I was afraid to tell this to other members of my family or friends. Because of comments like this. I spoke to my godfather on the phone and he said - you can only trust your family. Your stepdad, your mother, that's it. I didn't say anything to him because my mother reacted the way you did (saying that I am attention seaker). I thank everyone for kind comments and support. I don't think I will tell anyone because I am too afraid to be labelled attention seaker and to hear other family members saying things about me just like the person above.

    • Police report or it didn't happen. We're sick of the #metoo nonsense.

    • What is me too?

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  • Yes like 1000x yes.
    You really need to like, tell someone because most molestation is domestic and an abuser isn't usually able to stop themselves until they're caught.

  • Not that I'm casting any doubt, but if that is truly what happened, it isn't quite sexual molestation, but it is very close.

    • I didn't read the update lol. My b

  • Yes it is and that man is disgusting.

  • The guy should be in jail.

  • Definitely not normal behavior

  • Yes, clearly