Is this the real DIFFERENCE between GIRLS and GUYs when it comes to SEX?

Is this the real DIFFERENCE between GIRLS and GUYs when it comes to SEX?

To GUYS, sex is like brushing your teeth, a normal and natural body function.

To GIRLS, sex is like walking down the aisle in a wedding dress, an emotional commitment.

Is this the REAL DIFFERENCE between GIRLS and GUYS when it comes to SEX?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think the most important difference to understand is this:

    When a guy is dating and he likes a girl and he feels attracted, he wants sex because he feels it will bring the two of them closer together, it will build her trust in him, and it will prove that he cares about pleasing her.

    When a girl is dating and she likes a guy and feels attracted, she becomes concerned about her insecurities. Is my butt too big? Will he laugh at my small boobs? Will he think I'm a dud in bed? Will he want to do something wild and kinky? She's afraid she won't be able to relax and please him. So she isn't ready to have sex until the trust is already established.

    • "she becomes concerned about her insecurities" What a load of shit along with the rest of that.

    • @_Maya_ I appreciate the engaging discourse.

    • Take a look around the site and the "is my dick big enough" "can I satisfy her" "I'm too short to date a girl"... why are none of the guys insecurities mentioned?

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  • It's not like that for all men, even if with "brushing teeth" you humorously exaggerated.

    For me, sex always involves an emotional commitment and I only have sex as part of a long-term relationship. We should have a strong enough connection to even have a child together, though we may decide against that in the relevant phase of our lives or situation (e. g. in university).

    All the women I've been with saw it the same way so I suppose it is more common with women.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't see sex with a guy as an emotional commitment more a temporary shared experience. True there's an emotional aspect but what shared experience doesn't have one?

    It's more like rider and horse. The rider decides direction and pace but the horse can always decline. The horse enjoys being rode but needs to trust the rider and will get confused and frustrated with an incompetent rider. Where as you can drive a car off a cliff you can't a horse.

    • Your analogies are always so insightful. 😉 Only a Welsh farmgirl can equate sex with riding a horse. 😎

  • What about women like me that see sex as being an act of intimacy between two people that are in love

    But also can separate it and see sex as a way to just be physical when I'm horny and when I need my guts pumped?

    Just depends on the situation.

    • @mandyfire98 That is a good assessment of the differences in the genders, I think! LOL...

    • I'm one gender and I view sex in both ways. So I don't know if it's fair to say men see sex as just physical and women need an emotional connection. Because I can see sex as being just physical and for an emotional connection. I can separate the two by situation.

    • My partner and I like to say private workout in-public as some code. I love that.

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  • Sex is a natural part of life. It can be both an act of love, intimacy, and emotional connection, or it can be about pure physical satisfaction and fulfillment of need.

    Both love and lust are equally valid.

    • ☝️ 100 percent this

  • women crave having intimacy with a man... men just crave pleasure and sex.

    • nope not true

  • Until I’m married, I’ll see it as an “in the moment” thing. Its something that happens when we’re both ready and feel like it. But its not something i’d be ready for early on in the relationship nor outside of a relationship. If we’re not married, I dont owe him anything sexually and vice versa

  • certainly not. both see it important but not like a wedding. and some more animalistic than others.

  • No, the real difference is that almost all the risk falls to women. We have pretty good tech for preventing pregnancy and STDs but in general men are dangerous. Most are not, but it only takes one.

  • I think I am out of step with most guys. I know plenty of guys who have that kind of attitude. Come to think of it I knew girls like that too.

  • It all depends but sometimes it's just Stereotyping to identify people's gender like that.

  • Sex is a big deal to guys but remember girls leave guys who show their emotions too much. Sex may seem transactional almost, but we have it as a biological need and are stigmatized for that all the time.

    And that's coming from me, a satyre. (Male nympho)

    We're so punished emotionally and told to man up when we talk about it, that we just don't talk about it and everything goes grey eventually.

  • Girls are receiver, guys are donor

  • i honestly think women find sex less valuable than men do cuz it’s so easy for them to get. They try to play it off like they’re more sentimental about it when it suits they’re purposes but i think they’re more cold and calculated about it than they’d ever admit.

  • no...

  • In today's day and age I think sex doesn't have as much of a commitment feeling fir girls.