Is this too rough?

[Anonymous]

18+

A woman was having sex with a man, not me.

A woman wanted rough sex, not me.

The man goes rough

Probably too rough

The woman has bruises on different parts of her body and has trouble walking and sitting down on certain surfaces afterwards.

Also, has grip marks on her throat from choking stuff

Her hair or head hurts from hair pulling

She cried early in the morning

She said she wasn’t really ready for how rough the man went, not me

The woman didn’t really say anything throughout sex, so the man thought it was okay. She also appeared to enjoy it, but that’s kind of subjective I guess

Asking for a friend

[SaoirseS]

"Probably too rough"

You answered your own question. That aside, whatever "stuff" two consenting adults agree to and carry out is up to them. If it gets out of hand, it's likewise on them.

Rough stuff and gratuitous violence is definitely not anything I'm even remotely interested in. The last guy who put his hands on my throat lost an eye doing it. If there's ever a next time, that would be quick way to find out if heaven or hell really exists.

[JustinTheGreat]

This is why communication is important. If your parent is going something that you’re not comfortable with, you need to speak up and tell them not to.
She asked for rough sex and clearly he didn’t think he was breaking boundaries, so I don’t think he’s in the wrong. It’s only a problem if she did speak up and he continued to do things she asked him not to do.
Then again I think if you’re having any kind of rough or BDSM type of sex, you should try to check up on how your partner is feeling during it. Just a simple “is this okay?” Would suffice. Or they need to agree on a safe word

[JustinTheGreat]

Partner* not parent.

[sirderpsalot123]

Both of them are in the wrong. He should have practiced restraint and she should have spoken up the moment it stop being enjoyable for her.

Out of curiosity, how long have they known each other? It's always a good idea to build up trust and set boundries before trying something like this.

[butterfly113]

the man who is not you hh should ve been smarter being rough doesn't mean you should torture her slapping her face and pulling her hair hard like how could that man feel good and comfortable having sex in such a way.. i feel sorry for her but she had to stop you if you were hurting her during the thing

[PositiveFlight]

Fully agree

[Apple1996]

No that sounds fine if she wanted it rough

[Apple1996]

@EmbraceThePain Honestly this sounds like the perfect dream sex for me. Love all the stuff your mentioning 🖤

[NathanDavis]

when an amateur meets another...

[Avicenna]

Yeah, definitely too rough. I'd turn down any woman that requested rough sex.

[Phoenix98]

It’s on her for not saying anything and not telling the guy to stop or lighten up.

communication is important.

[Andres77]

Self restraint is always a good thing.

there are always limits.

[Andres77]

I just don’t understand the choking. It always seemed like a trap

[Andres77]

I get bruises and scratches all the time.

[GlassTop]

Girls actually want to be screwed rough. Nothing is worse than a completely vanilla relationship. They want to experience being hardcore fucked. Yea they’ll be sore for a bit afterwards but they’ll recover. It’s not like they were scarred. That girl is kinky.

[Emma_Walker]

Sounds like she wanted it that way. but, may not have really liked it.

[Zolly99999]

OMG... thats way too much in my opinion..

[driven159]

Here is why you just don't jump into bed with someone till you know them and before you every have sex you should have a safe word so when it is said they stop that is a lesson for everyone on this site