Is Voluntary Virginity (Chastity) Attractive and Desirable by Girls in Guys?

[CaiusGab]

As a girl, would you prefer the man of your life to have been a virgin before you?

This would be as a result of his own personal choice for the sake of his future girlfriend with whom he will spend the rest of his life with. Not as a result of a lack of sex drive, or an inability to get girls.

Simply as an exercise of self control and to make his one most important relationship the most rewarding emotionally, physically and spiritually. Imagine being chosen by such a guy; would it not make sex and the entire relationship that much more fulfilling and meaningful? Especially considering how rare it is nowadays.

Do you think it shows self control? Which might be an extremely important trait of a married man? This way a man's dedication is proven through action too, not just words and vows on the day of the wedding.

Remember that a guy can be very experienced in helping a female partner reach climax without the need for full sex. We are not talking about a guy with Zero experience, which is admittedly unattractive. So plenty of intimacy can still be achieved without full intercourse.

If girls knew it was not so rare for guys to hold out their virginity willingly, for their future partners (which is exceedingly rare nowadays) would it make girls more interested in valuing their own virginities?

This goes against most Western valued and ideologies. Try and keep an open mind and seriously entertain the idea :)

[SueShe]

If I was into dating, it would have to be with someone that has zero sexual experience, simply because I value my health and life way too much to want to jeopardize it with someone that has STD/STI and a number of other unknown diseases.

Furthermore, a guy that had several partners before is a more of a womanizer and again, I would not really want to be yet just another body count or a trophy on his list of conquered girls.

What makes you so sure that a guy with zero experience is unattractive. It is a little pretentious of you to make this statement. Not everyone shares your view on womanizers.

An 18 year old guy with a body count and trophy list of 2 is already a red flag and a total no go. That is a potential risk for my health that I would never want to take.

Better safe than sorry.

[CaiusGab]

It is well known that girls in general, at least in the West, prefer 'experienced' men. And I can half agree. Women are far more picky and difficult to please sexually than men. But I completely agree with you about the body count; there is something extraordinarily insulting about it. Not to mention the jealousy that comes with it, and the 'dilution' of emotional and physical connection with the person one would marry. Just to reiterate, I actually agree with you, in case you thought otherwise.

[thegirlfromthething]

Not to me. I don’t want a guy with no self control who sleeps with any girl who will have him but I still prefer a guy who has some experience with actual intercourse. As a virgin I’d feel more comfortable if my partner had first-hand knowledge, since I don’t.

[CaiusGab]

Do you not mind the inequality? If you are not a man's first, you are just another girl, at least physically. Sure, emotionally you might be special. But you not being the first does dilute his emotional attachment to sex with you. Why would you not want a guy who is experienced, but not with full sex. And in such a way, a man who knows his way around a woman's body, but hasn't yet had sex for the sake of trying to have it with just one woman in his life?

[thegirlfromthething]

As long as he’s not extremely experienced and doesn’t shame me for my inexperience, I don’t mind. I like the idea of having a “teacher”. And if he’s done everything but penetration with other girls I won’t feel all that special to him, physically.

[CaiusGab]

That is fair enough. What if there was no mouth on genitalia either? Simply fingering and licking/kissing. To me it just feels as though not enough girls prefer a guy who knows what to do, but hasn't gone fully intimate out of respect for his future girlfriend and especially future wife. Do you not wish at all for building a unique bond like that with a guy, to share virginities? Sex is the epitome of emotional and spiritual connections. And for guys it is mainly physical. Would u not want to make it more emotional and spiritual, by having the guy only to have been fully intimate with you? Would you say it's because you don't believe it makes a difference at all, or because you don't think you'd find a guy like that anyway?

[thegirlfromthething]

I’d feel the same way even if he’d never engaged in oral sex. And the idea of taking a guy’s virginity isn’t appealing to me. If he’s already been very intimate with other women I don’t think it makes much of a difference to be the one he has actual intercourses with.

[CaiusGab]

Well, maybe you haven't been intimate with and without 'proper sex' to compare the two. They're a world of a difference, I'd say. But hey that's good for you, you're not gonna feel bad if you don't get such a man; not many around.

[NewZion]

What the fuck. What kind of got damn sissy question is this? Eh fuck it, whatever.

[CaiusGab]

Hahaha alright Alpha boy. Some people have life philosophies that can very often go against the prevailing social and cultural norms. in my opinion our Western culture has gone to shit, as exemplified by your reply here

[NewZion]

I don't give a shit what you think CacacacacaGAB!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zuGpu_Th-Gs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zuGpu_Th-Gs

[CaiusGab]

Loool that vid. But seriously bro, a life best lived is a life given serious thought

[Cryptic-Game]

Women value men who are virgins.

[CaiusGab]

Do they? I've noticed many do if pushed on the topic, bu the initial response is always a 'practical' one which is 'there are virtually none out there'

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't a virgin but I don't want a manwhore either.

[CaiusGab]

Do you just want to be another girl for the body count then? And have sex be something 'normal' instead of something unique and special?