Is watching porn considered Cheating if you are married or in a relationship?
I listened to a a talk show today and this topic popped up? What is your thoughts on this?
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From what the talk show said , it is considered cheating , even if your partner is ok with you watching it or if you watch it together you are cheating on each other , they said it stimulates your mind of wanting more out of the relationship then. What you already have. If you need to watch porn in your relationship then you don’t value your partner so you should reconsider who you are in a relationship with , again this is what I heard on the talk show
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This was a religious talk show my bad on not stating that , On how God / Bible look at Marriages and Relationships
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What Girls & Guys Said
46 71Nah it's not cheating
I don't consider it cheating. I watch porn when I can't see my boyfriend, I know he does the same. I enjoy watching porn with him. If watching some people have sex is cheating, what is it when they look at another person?
Definitely not. I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend was watching porn. I know its just what guys do (AND GIRLS!).
Its natural but what I would mind is him telling me about it or me catching him in the act. Im ok with it but i don't wanna have the mental image of him on my head, you know...
Loool you have a BLOODY problem😂😂😂😂
Ok I will bloody pass the bloody message to my bloody mother. Have a bloody good night😂
Fucking lol this guy 😂
You might want to look into WHAT he sees, and how he objectifies or not.
No, not if it's done openly and not secretively.
No its not.
@AustinMan is spot on. That's what I think too.
Hmmmm hmmmm. Ok, here I go. First off, watching porn is not cheating. Watching porn instead of going to your partner is not cheating. Most things in life are not black and white. If your partner is done with you and sticking around until the inevitable and therfore, watching porn and not having sex with you, the emotional betrayal has already happened, it has nothing to do with porn. Some people, a lot of people, go through things in their lives like depression which effects self esteem, energy levels, stamina, sexual desire, lubrication and the medications that treat them can also effect those things so watching porn in those cases aren't cheating either. In all honesty, I can't think of a senerio where I would consider just the act of watching porn cheating, even if the person was addicted, it's a mental health issue not a fidelity issue, you can't cheat on someone by using drugs can you?
Cheating to me is what you know you should not be doing but do anyway without asking your partner about it first. Not all partners are alright with porn, so telling them you'd like to watch it would be a good idea. If they allow it its not cheating, if they forbid it but you do it behind their back it would be.
I would say any partner that forbids selfpleasure is a partner you should avoid. So if you want to watch porn do it, unless it causes you to not want sex with your partner. In that case your doing something that is bad for the relationship and you should reconsider.
@Adam1978 I agree they should allow it, but discussing it up front is still a better idea than doing it behind anyone's back. I think most partners will be fine with it if its only to satisfy yourself when they aren't willing to do the deed.
Who said the partner forbids self pleasure? He’s just saying the partner forbid porn. You could still masturbate without it. Im one of those people where I just don’t want to catch you watching it. Or hear about it. However, boundaries are important. If you’re in a relationship and your partner considers it cheating, then it’s up to you to let your partner know if you’re gonna do it or not.
No it would be my partner job to try to forbid it and my job to process the request. If it's not been discussed, it's allowed for this case. You don't need to ask to do allowed things.
You don’t need to ask to do allowed things? Mhm. How do you know it’s allowed? Lol What’s cheating to one person isn’t cheating to the other person. In my culture, we kiss people on the cheek when we greet each other. I once got in a relationship with someone who was outside of my race. And he considered it cheating. Even tho, all my life, I was told this is how you greet someone. Friends and family. He considered at physical contact cheating. You don’t know what’s allowed, because you need to set boundaries first. If a person says they consider porn cheating, then it’s cheating to them. And you can’t tell them it isn’t. But at least be honest about doing it or not and then if it’s a deal breaker for the other person, y’all can just break up. But don’t assume it’s something that’s UNIVERSALLY allowed. Everyone has different standards of cheating.
Yes and if that boundaries differ from the local culture you need to set them, otherwise local dictate what is allowed hench porn is legal above 18 where I live so it's I am allowed to watch if I feel like it. If you do date cross culture borders you need to learn their culture and either accept or reject each part, until you do expect them to follow their culture not your.
I think if your using it instead of pleasuring your partner it can be a problem. If your using it when your away or to get more ideas then it’s fine.
You got advice from a talk show. Bruh that’s the first problem. Research a physiatrist that has creditable evidence why it is bad. A religious talk show is like listening to a 2 year old asking for kraft Mac and cheese.
I think it can put a wedge inbetween the relationship. Also, if they are watching women and fantasing about them whilst wanking. I personally feel it is especially when they deliberately act secretive around there phones.
It’s cheating in you’re heart
That is up to your partner.
If it hurts and upsets them you have to decide whether you want to keep doing it.
I think it is especially if you try and hide it
https://www.martyklein.com/nine-absolutely-untrue-myths-about-porn-and-one-fact-we-can-all-agree-on/
This question is not exclusive to just porn, but literature and other softcore. But also no.
I actually think following people of attraction on social media. When that person is obviously posting alluring pictures to show them off, is probably more like cheating than watching porn.
If you are sexing with someone other than your partner then yes. If your are ignoring your partner while watching it then yes.
Not in my book
No. What if you see an attractive person on the street? Is that cheating? C'mon now...
Re your update: "... wanting more out of the relationship..." Sure. Maybe THEM but stating why and how other's think is arrogance. I do not permit that, period. Ah, the religious angle. Christians, right? Their symbol is an instrument of torture, sometimes complete with corpse. Again, if they're comfortable with that, fine. I find it disgusting.
I do feel guilty cheating on my favorite porn star with my wife.
Not even close to the same thing