Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Short answer: It depends . . . but it probably isn't very relevant.
Long answer: I see this question frequently on G@G. When is it okay to ask your SO how many partners they have had? Do you want to know your partner’s number? What number is too high to accept with a partner? Apparently, it is a topic that concerns many users.
First, I want to address the gender issue. The word slut gets thrown around frequently and, if you use the word, many people assume that you are only talking about females. No, not me. There are players, man whores, lotharios, gigolos, etc. just like there are loose women. It really doesn’t matter what you call them. If a guy just wants to run up his total, he gets no respect from me . . . and I am not the only guy with that attitude.
Of course there are some guys who “admire” a 21 year old currently in pursuit of #50, just like there are girls who will defend other girls who join the Three Partners A Week Recreational Fucking Club. But guys and girls who aspire to have a committed, monogamous relationship (and I think that is a majority of users on this site) don’t idolize the champions of the casual sex crowd.
Is there an absolute number that means a girl won’t be a good partner? Well, if a 14 year old girl has already had 3 partners, I would be extremely concerned about her. But if a lady is 62 years old, or even 25 years old, and she has only had 3 partners, I would not be too concerned. So, there is not an absolute answer. "It depends" sounds lame, but the answer really does depend on many variables.
Suppose a 25 year old girl has had 20 partners but 18 of those were before age 20 and she has only had 2 partners in the past 5 years; would you be concerned about having a relationship with her? I wouldn’t be concerned about it (other than being called a pedophile by some users who seem to enjoy calling other users names, and, no, I wouldn’t dream of dating a girl that young. My current girlfriend will be 65 years old next week.)
So what is it that is truly important about the number? It is what that number might reveal about your partner’s attitude about sex and the role that it plays in a relationship. Every relationship has the potential for coming to an end and, if it does, I want to know that I was not just #74 on her list and that she will remember me for the rest of her life.
A few years ago, I dated a lady who revealed, after about a month, that she had worked as a prostitute about 20 years previously. Those earlier years had been a turbulent time in her life and had been filled with lots of drama, lots of problems, and she had been a prostitute. Since then, she had stopped drinking, stopped drugs, regained custody of her son, gotten a 9-to-5 job, enrolled in college, and was just finishing her bachelor’s degree. After making that revelation, she said that I would probably not want to date her anymore. I thought about it. I knew that she had make big changes in her life; in this case, her past behavior was not a strong clue for how she would behave in the future. I continued to date her and we eventually broke up for reasons unrelated to these details. (And we never had sex.)
What is important for most (but not all) of us is knowing that our partner views sex as a means of expressing love in a monogamous, committed relationship. If I know that a lady has that attitude, it doesn’t matter whether she was promiscuous 40 years ago. For a few years 40 years ago, I was promiscuous and I know that having that history did not doom me to a life of being unfaithful, uncaring, and uncommitted. I also know that I would not want be judged on the basis of my history if that history is irrelevant to who I am today.
I am not saying to ignore someone’s history. If they had 5-6 sexual partners last year, the odds are that they are not ready for, or not even wanting, a committed monogamous relationship. But as the history becomes more remote, it is only a clue about the person and it does not trump our assessment of who that person is today.
So . . . when should you ask your partner about their number? Never. Instead, ask them if sex means love (or serious affection) or whether it just means fun. The answer to that question (if the question is answered with sincerity) should tell you all that you need to know.
What Girls & Guys Said
22 36i prefer virgins
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Do you think you will still prefer virgins when you are 27?
i prefer virgins as long as i am one
Are you 27 or 17 ? I am confused. Secondly why this matters if all we need is love? I mean don't you wanna feel good when having sex with your partner?
I'mm 17 lol Yeah but I'm not saying I wouldn't date someone who isn't, I'm just saying that's my preference because I'd enjoy being someone's first and vise versa cause it's cute
Ok thank you for the message
For sex no but for marraige yes. Serial daters and promiscuous women should be avoided, I've learned from experience and the experience of others.
Not for me. I really dont want to know how many pussys my boyfriend has been in. All I do want to know is that he is clean
Same here but vice versa
@bloodmountain1990 Yeah its really no ones business I believe. plus what if the number makes the woman or man feel bad? then what?
I just figure the girl has a past and leave it in the past. I don't like talking about past sex partners just like how I don't hearing about past ex's. I wasn't there in her past. Whether she's been with 1 or 20, I don't need to hear the details. There's just nothing to gain from it. What does matter is how she treats me in the present. It's not even out of jealousy but out of respect. I don't wanna be compared to her ex or past partners nor do I need to hear if it was bad or good. If it ended, it ended for a reason one way or another.
Women who had no prior partner are double as likely to have a stable and lasting relationship/marriage than those who are already just having had two. It just gets worse with each additional number.
While not as extreme, that number is also linked to happiness and depression.
That alone shows how relevant the persons number is. First and foremost due to their view on sex, but there are a whole lot more aspects to it.
Naturally that is not an absolute. Some people change, some people did it for certain reasons, some did it out of mental health issues in the past, but it certainly is a huge red flag.
woah, I don't care about her number, but if she was a prostitute for 1 year plus I'm not gonna be happy. All i would see is old fat ugly dudes giving it to her.
The number is not of great concern to me.
If I had been born a good-looking woman, I would probably have become a raging slut, moderated only by the risk of STDs. - lol
A smart woman will not reveal the true body count to her future boyfriend/husband, anyway.
My greatest concern is STDs and whether or not they have damaged her fertility.
The big risk to girls is a disease such as chlamydia, which more often than not does not have any noticeable symptoms, but destroys a woman's fallopian tubes and renders her barren, without her having a clue what was happening inside her body.
I don't know my partner's number, and I don't care. She doesn't know mine either.
We both know we're healthy and committed and that's the only thing that's important.
Yes it is. I can tell you your life story based upon your sex life in the context of who you are.
Y’all still worry about someone’s sexual experiences? It is 2021 y’all need to stop worrying about someone else’s past that has nothing to do with you
If you actually read what I wrote, you would know why it is relevant. Yes, if you fucked four different guys last week and you claim to want to be my LTR girlfriend this week, numbers are very relevant.
Nope they are not cause my past experiences aren’t you’re Business all that matters is if I’m clean and don’t have any stds
If a woman is going to become a part of my life, her past is my business, just as my past is her business. I know that it is en vogue for young people to want to believe that you can do absolutely whatever you want to do and it SHOULDN'T have any long term consequences for you, but that is not the way people really are. Yes, you can do whatever you want as long as it isn't illegal, but there will always be consequences for your behavior. Learning that lesson is a part of the process of becoming an adult.
Are you making this argument because your number is high?
Her past isn’t you’re business 🤍
@OlderAndWiser wowwww look at youuu assuming 😹can’t say I’m surprised tho
Assuming what? Do you understand the difference between a question and a statement? The question is the sentence that ends with a question mark. You took my question and turned it into a statement. YOU are the one who assumed something.
“Are you making this argument because your number is high?” You assumes that I was making this argument because of that😗don’t try to play mind games
You assume*
No, I did NOT make that assumption, or I would have said something like, "You are only saying this because your number is high." Instead, I thought that it was a POSSIBLE explanation for your response and asked a question for clarification. That is a basic part of communication skills and I am sorry that you are having difficulty understanding that concept.
If you didn’t assume that my number was high you wouldn’t have asked that question in the first place🤍
Cause my number has nothing to do with this conversation 😗so you’re the one who doesn’t even have basic communication skills cause you can’t even keep on track of the convo 😂this is about you’re my take not my sexual experiences
So work on you’re skills buddy better luck next time 🥳
Right. . . troll!
Awww u calling me a troll cause u disagree with me🥺you really need to work on you’re communication skills 😌anyways have a nice day I fwu for trying
Uuuh if the town knows who you are I can't be caught conversing with you, like ever. Im not gonna be the schmuck that wifed up the town whore.
i didn't read it all but of course it's relevant... god damn it... u are a man how can u deny that it's relevant the amount of sexual partners she had? of course, it cannot be a deal breaker if nowadays she has totally changed, almost a saint (at the chrstian point of view)
If you're OCD like me; yes. Her height and age have to be expressable as 7^2 or a multiple of 9log36.
Extremely relevant. I won't have anything to do (romantically) with a man that has a high count. Huge no-no in my book. I would prefer that he were a virgin, but if he's already lost it and only been with 1 or 2 women I would mind it it.
Wouldn't *
It's not relevant at all
I agree with the gist of your take. Unfortunately, many people lie to get what they want. Listen to you gut and watch their actions; they will tell you the truth of their words.
not at all- past is past
Well, it has been shown that a more promiscuous a person is, the less likely they are to have stable relationships/marriages. So there is some reason for concern there, but if you refuse to admit that it does affect relationships then I guess you could claim that you don't care.
Everything we do affects who are, humans are creatures of habit and if your habits are unhealthy then its hard to argue that it won't have a negative impact on your future.
I made sure my girl is a virgin waaayyyy before.
I can care less of how many guys or even girls she has been with it. If she has similar hobbies and likes me, that's I care about.
I've had 3 phone numbers of women before.
u slag XD
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