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Maybe it's the prospect of losing control, or of being desired by someone you love that they disregard feeling like they have to respect most societal norms of otherwise treating you like a delicate little China-doll and just let their primal side come out to play.
You don’t have to know what you want going into it, at all. That’s why it’s considered “play.” This isn’t life, darlings. This is sex, and sex is meant to be fun.
For many, the appeal of BSM is in how much passion it involves. A bit of a kink, for some a lifestyle, in which couples can private explore each other’s bodies. Tracing any marks they have made on each and every curve or muscle. If you and your significant other are into BDSM, that doesn’t have to define you as individuals. It simply means that you’re both interested in expressing your passion and love for each other in a way that is outside of the norm. That for you two, ‘making love’ does not always have to equate to strictly missionary at a slow pace, on a bed covered in rose-petals with soft jazz music playing in the background.
Likewise, rough sex does not always have to equate to ‘fucking like rabbits’, or going at it with reckless abandon. Rough sex is not something always done with a NSA, in ‘fuck and chuck’ contexts. On the contrary, rough sex is generally something people are okay doing only with those who they trust and care for enough that the thought of the line between pain and pleasure being greatly crossed doesn’t even cross their mind.
We all crave having a bond with someone; a union with our respective partner built on a foundation of trust and love, with insane sexual chemistry being like the cherry on top. To some, the ultimate if not only way to express love for their partner is via a more traditional route. The traditional route would be that sex in strictly missionary, with lots of kissing and all, is the ultimate expression of ‘true love’.
Well… what if I told you that for some, there’s no way to feel closer to their partner than through BDSM-inspired sexual activities?
That giving themselves to their s/o, in a very vulnerable state, and trusting that they will still respect each other’s boundary lines and be able to keep their most primal sexual desires in check is pretty damn empowering, for lack of a better word.
Though I once was one of those people who viewed BDSM as something dirty and shameful- mostly reserved for those who have major psychological issues to deal with and such. I’ve since come to see how very mistaken I was with that. Through my own experience, I’ve come to see that you don’t have to have ‘mental issues’ to enjoy BDSM-related kinks, be they bondage, dominance/submission, or even sado-masochism.
I firmly held onto those beliefs until I began dabbling in it myself. Only then did I come to see that, though many parts of BDSM-related activities do emphasize things like both physical as well as psychological discipline, and may involve a bit of a power play, all of those things generally take place only once the couple has a built a very strong foundation of trust between themselves. Nothing is done without full consent from both parties, which in turn will contribute to there being mutual satisfaction all around.
TRUST
The first thing that comes to mind for most when they think of BDSM is abuse and a straight up weird dynamic. Whips? Chains?
Definitely crazy.
In reality, however, it’s anything but. Hell, you don’t even need whips or chains to participate in BDSM. There’s a whole spectrum of kinks that fall into BDSM, most of which are more focused on role-play than the involvement of any props like collars, whips and such.
Contrary to popular belief, the bulk of this kink is built on trust. Trust between two people that is so strong, that the resulting rush you get once you get to experience the incredible intimacy of putting yourself in harm’s way but there being no doubt in your mind that you’ll be perfectly safe is indescribable.
When trust trumps the possibility of harm, the result can feel incredibly intimate and erotic.
COMMUNICATION
To many, the first thing that comes to mind when BDSM comes up is perverted, dehumanizing, degrading, or some variance of that. Many people consider BDSM perverted, dehumanizing, or worse.
To those who’ve taken the time to do some actual research into it versus simply internalizing the general mind-set of it according to society, though, you’d see that in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most nurturing, loving, and intimate form of human contact or adult play possible.
Not that there’s anything wrong with being vanilla af, but people who choose that route will quite often end up having sex with next to no conversation or negotiation. No voicing what they’d like more or less of, or new things that they’d like to try. Especially if you’re into casual sex, you’ll be bumping uglies with zero conversation, or emotional connection.
On the flip-side in BDSM, making sure to arrange things in advance to make sure that communication regarding things such as a safe-word and establishing clearly set boundary lines is essential before engaging in BDSM-play.
Heck, even not so rarely-encountered things like slaps on the bum during doggy, light pressure on the girl's neck when she's on top, nibbles on the earlobe or even edging bordering on orgasm-denial would fall into practicing BDSM and that no longer makes it sound all that twisted, now does it?
You don’t have to be a ‘masochistic sexenthusiast’ to know that pleasure and pain can be felt simultaneously. Funnily enough, I'm sure that 99% of us have enjoyed of the pleasures of a delicious meal laden with spicy chili peppers or the blissful ache following a long-distance run and never looked back.
What Girls & Guys Said
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if im not wrong then its the same thing as it shown in the movie "50 shades of grey" right?
somewhat... It wasn't a wholly accurate portrayal of most relationships involving BDSM, though. If you execute BDSM correctly, there should be clear safe-words and such that are set-up in case on person goes too far. Also, doms (ie. Christian) aren't the only ones who hold power in those relationships. The distribution of actual power between the couple is usually pretty even, the sub merely plays the helpless role in bed. In the movie. Anastasia seemed to be submissive/overly meek to Christian everywhere they went. Which is not an accurate depiction of the reality of BDSM.
oh okay.
It's extreme emotional to me
Love BDSM. One of my favorite kind of sex out there
You just keep getting hotter 😉
@Yynow :):):)
What are others?
@dudegrt09 Like everything lol
Kayla are you also in bdsm if yes what u prefer Dom or sub?
the d&s aspect, yes. I prefer to be sub
If you ever have to switch will u like to try
yeah I already do switch occasionally
Really what role or things will u love to do as Dom. I saw ur pic u have beautiful feet 😊
🎶 love never felt so good
Hell Yeah.
Anybody wanna tie me up and beat the shit out of me? srs
*raises hand up* ooh ooh! me! me!!!
It's very seductive.
Awesome never properly tried yet, you?
Finally a post about sex. I've been waiting.
very very sexy yum
you should be fought for and then fucked
I agree.
Bondage games that inspire your love life
All of the bdsm sex I have is with complete consent from both parties. I'm into a lot of kinky things, from a bit of role-playing to being choked, whipped, spanked, bonded, peed on,... Whatever really. My current sex partner (we aren't in a relationship) is into some of the things, and cannot stand others.
He soon noticed that I wasn't exactly a vanilla person, and then we figured something out. We don't do anything he isn't into (we actually provided each other a list of what we really wanted and what we not wanted at all), and we have a lot of "rules" to make sure everything is safe.
He likes choking me, but once voiced a concern that he might go to far. So now there's a simple sign for "stop choking now". There's also a sign for quitting role play, for quitting spanking, etc., and even one for 'quitting everything'.
We also both know on beforehand what "the plan for today" is, so what's going to come.
I don't think it's abusive at all. Yes, I end op with bruises and scratches all over, but I explicitly stated I wanted that. If he ends up bruised (we sometimes switch), I am sure he wanted that as well. We're constantly concerned about whether it's still enjoyable for the other. There is absolutely no anger or desire to abuse involved.
nice take 👼👼👼
I should let my girlfriend see this.
Send her this link
Well, I like dominant girls, but I don't like painful stuff. Nice mytake anyway :)
That's perfectly fine if you don't like things involving pain. BDSM is like a giant collection of multiple kinks. You could be into dominance, submission, bondage, things like orgasm-denial, sado-masochism (getting off from the mixture of pleasure+pain), or just one of them alone. Thanks, glad you enjoyed, regardless. :)
You're welcome :D
I LOVE getting my nuts kicked.
Well, that's definitely on the rather extreme end. xD Isthis actually a thing youask girls to do or is this more of a fantasy?
@Mártainn No, I never ask girls to do it, because I'm afraid they will think I'm a freak, but the times it has happened to my nuts, I have really enjoyed it.
There are places on the internet where you can find girls who like to do that, I think.
I would do it for free !
@xxmamichulaxx Ahh really? That would be sick. Thanks, girl.
I won't quite go that far but when they've been naughty the need a long slow and severe spanking. One day when I've built up my tolerance a bit more I might want to try having a girl use them as a speed bag from behind.
BDSM totally brings out my submissive side and I love it.