It’s been 6 months and boyfriend said he’s not ready for sex. Does that mean he’s not attracted to me?

I’ve never heard a guy say no to sex. I’m fine waiting but it makes me feel undesirable. Aside from that I know I’m an attractive woman physically. When we make out he excuses himself to the bathroom a lot and he told me he’s a virgin. He’s not asexual either. And yea I’m too afraid to ask.

Updates:
8 mo
Turns out… my partner came out as trans, I now have a girlfriend lol :)
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  • Hmmm that is weird have you ever seen his dick before?

    Couple of reasons I'm thinking, one there's something really weird looking about his dick and he's just not ready to tell or even show you yet.( could also explain why he's a virgin) I don't know maybe it's inverted 🤔😆. 2) he could be really religious but I don't think that's it honestly🤔 and 3) he could just be too nervous about the idea of Cummings to fast maybe? I mean that one don't sound right either cause you're literally his girl. I think that mu fucka got a weird looking dick and is just too scared to tell you and show you it🤔😌

  • A man is always eager trope, yea something is not normal with your boyfriend.

    • As update, came out as trans? WOW, well at least now it make sense, and are you bi?

Most Helpful Girls

  • Have you tried oral yet? If he's still affectionate to you without sex it's normal. Plus he's a virgin and might be worrying that he'll disappoint you in bed. He probably wants you to have a nice experience with him and he needs practice haha.

    • Dang! What a shocking update! 😮

  • No, I think he is attracted. He just wants to wait.

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  • You don't "come out" as trans, you admit to having a mental disorder. What does that even mean in relation to you though? Is he gay?

  • Yes, he's not ready for sex. And it may or may not mean that he is attracted to you.

    I would have an open talk with him. Tell him how you feel, that you like him. And that there is nothing for him to feel nervous about. You can ask him about his past experiences, and totally share.

    Communication is so important.

    • Good for you!

  • That is not what that means. He probably DESPERATELY wants to have sex with you but, like you say he says, he's not ready.

    The important thing, though, is what you mentioned: "it makes me feel undesirable". Part of relationships and crucial to sex is communication. You need to talk with him. While you cannot/should not force him to have sex, neither should he leave you in a state where you feel undesirable.

  • If you’re pushing sex stop. If all you’re wanting is sex this is a problem. You find a guy who ain’t wanting to use you and actually has morals.


    I feel bad for people like you.

  • Maybe he is embarrassed because he is a Virgin and you are not. He does not want to make a fool out of himself in front of you.

  • Could be a soy boy, beta type.

  • Yea something is wring

  • may just take some time his nerves might be getting the best of him

  • 6 months? He's probably legit gay

    • @Op EWW!