Jealousy and possessive issues? Rough sex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. He's extremely caring and a very loving person. He adores me so much and I love him so much. Our relationship is great except for his jealousy issues. Tbh, I am quite possessive about him as well but he's even more possessive about me. 3 weeks ago we had gone over to our friends house and my boyfriend and the guys were joking. My boyfriend is a very witty person but that day I laughed more the jokes of others than him and he got upset. He brooded over it and when I tried to cheer him up, he said I should go over to the guys if I find their jokes funny instead of his. Two days ago , he asked me about my exes and I told him about them but he started flinching on hearing about them and dropped the topic immediately. I have dropped all my male friends because he had problems with all of them and didn't want any guys to be close go me. We ve had arguments over the jealousy issues. I have always succumbed to his wishes but many times he would angry with me, give me the silent treatment or have rough sex with me. Whenever he sees any guys around me, he wouldn't leave me by myself and he indulges in a lot of PDA with me in front of them. This isn't unusual behavior because he has the habit of staring at me or my body and being too intimate. My boyfriend is extremely attractive in looks so I don't understand why he's so insecure about me. Is this okay? And how do I make him feel secure? He's 23 and I am 25.

[ZellRocx666]

I would dump him immediately if I were you. Attractive or not. He's just gonna continue doing this and more and in the end u will feel it was ALL your fault. That kind of relationship doesn't continue for Very long. I'm sorry to say this but your boyfriend is a great example of a manipulative person.

[CrazynKinky]

You can't but you need to understand this sounds like it could become abusive so make sure you don't let them remove you from the world

[Anonymous]

On the bright side, having a jealous boyfriend means that he doesn't want to lose you. However, if it gets too extreme as in your case, it should be solved or it puts unnecessary burden on the relationship you have to talk to him about it and get some third party help if the situation requires it.

[AustinMan]

You can't make him feel secure. He has to do that and it sounds like he's got some problems that are in the way of that.

[AlwaysAGoodDay]

It's possible he has had a bad experience in the past or perhaps for some reason he has issues trusting you or letting himself trust you.

[NJ_Casanova]

Your boyfriend sound extremely insecure and immature. I would seriously think about getting him help with his control issues. You have to evaluate if he is the right one for you and if you could except all that you are missing out on.

[Deconstruction]

You gotta talk to him more about this, heart to heart. Strangers on the internet are hardly going to help you if the situation is that delicate.

[Anonymous]

It will only get worse in time to come.

The part on being rough during sex, does he do it intentionally to hurt or just because its what he likes? How does he respond to you being hurt?