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I had sex for the first time in a year. As it progressed he started to stimulate my ass and even put a finger in. I was totally fine with all of this. Later on he started to put his dick in, with a condom on, I think the very tip opened it up and then I felt it burning so I said it's too much, maybe another time. Then we carried on with what we were doing.

I wouldn't think it's an issue at all I just was caught off guard - I don't know anything about anal. I'm open to trying it, I was just surprised he would try that knowing it was my first time in a long time. He also put his hands around my neck which I liked a lot.

I guess I'm only nervous because no one's ever tried these things before with me even if I secretly want it. I'm also very inexperienced. He's lovely and trustworthy. I'm just looking for some reassurance that this is normal?

Thanks <3

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

Here this is from another Anal Question and something I put down as a reply.

Will link to an article.

A really important part of anal is understanding dilation.

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It’s all about prep work, anal is not like you see in porn, it’s all prep and taking it slow.

It needs to be done in stages, ideally over a number of sessions before any cock to ass penetration.

Anal plugs or small dildos are great, as are fingers.

Not all will like it but I prefer starting with tongue and fingers.

Make it a routine to have a nice bath, shower, get a bulb kit for cleaning your ass.

Get some good quality lube, as an aside (no pun intended) get a different colour bottle, having say the blue bottle only out means just vaginal, where as the red bottle means anal sex tonight please.

Over a number of sessions get used to how your ass dilates.

How things like having it tongued and finger play can slowly tease it open.

Then when you get used to how long it takes to dilate enough, move to dildo and try positions.

You want the position to match how his cock bends as it will be easier, Doggy or Prone, also spoon works as well.

Make sure you have a mattress protector and or towels under you, lube will be used and some can mark bedding.

When using dildo or anal plug use lube and get used to how much feels right.

When he’s fingering and tonguing your ass flavoured lube might be okay.

For your first session, relax, take it really slow, remember everything you did with the toys.

Have him seduce your ass, to live it, too tease it, play with it during foreplay.

Take it really slow, remember dilation.

Also NO ASS TO PUSSY WITH HIS COCK.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Normal. Anal is mainstream these days. I think what he did instead of asking you is just play with your ass first and go slow, giving you the opportunity to say you didn't want to. You did and he respected it. I would probably have asked but whatever. I will just say that if you are interested in doing anal with him at some point you should do some anal training first, or it's just going to be painful next time as well. Train your ass for a while first and you be better prepared and will enjoy it more.

Jessica405 · Accepted Answer

It is very normal these days. You must research first as to the best and safest ways of doing anal. Condom is safest, but NEVER go from bum to vag! You can pick up an infection from the bacteria in your bum. Use loads of lube. Try something small first. I very thin dildo or maybe a finger, until you get used to it. The best position is on your back on a dining table with your bum over the edge and your knees up by your boobs, or even further. That tend to open the entrance naturally, like a guy having a prostate exzmination.

Lowiu · Accepted Answer

If it hurts a lot thats bad if you get small rips there it can get infected if you try anal again use lube and prepare before with fingers or toys it makes it a lot easier

ManWithThePlan123 · Answer

Oh it's normal, the only thing is if you do anal you need lots of lube and lots of preparation time.

Wise4myage · Answer

Since you didn't say anything when he fingered your ass, he probably thought it was ok to stick his dick in your ass. But he should have asked first ffs. Its normal to feel nervous, but talk to him about this.

joeldalton · Answer

Perfectly normal. But you should let him know you're open to anal but want to discuss it prior so you can be ready.

swettannie · Answer

absolutely, seems like he's just a little kinky

lycanthrope3 · Answer

Kinky

kareka · Answer

Girl  Dont do it I did sex with 23 girl Never did anal  Trust me its bad

Anonymous · Answer

usually, when someone starts playing with your ass it means he wants to do some anal, so it's normal
although you should've said something when he was playing with your ass
but it's ok

also if you ever wanted to try anal look for some tutorials online
the only thing I'm certain about is you should do some Anal douching before going to bed and it's better to try fingering yourself so you find your limits

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