Keep riding after orgasm?

[Anonymous]

Few nights ago I was with my boyfriend, I was on top and when he came I kept going, he told me to stop but I ignored him and he totally lost it. Started to moan loudly and grabbed me really hard while he came again. Was it bad? Want to know how do you guys feel about this? Does it hurt or something?

[Mr_Jolly]

Just as it can with women, it becomes very sensitive and we need a break. Sometimes, especially with younger guys, that recovery time can be very quick, just a few moments, and he's ready to start going again.

To get serious for a moment, if someone says 'stop' during sex, and it's not part of a pre-arranged BDSM session or the like, then you must stop. It is them withdrawing consent from continuing. Imagine if it was a woman who said stop and the guy didn't. It's the same thing.

That your boyfriend lost it, that can be because he didn't know how to react from you continuing after he said not to.

Think very seriously about that.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Well, after guys cum, me included, it’s really sensitive and sort of painful to keep on going 😅. Also, if someone says stop, you should stop you fucking bitch ☺️

[Asker]

I know, yeah. I said sorry to him afterwards but he wasn't the least upset 👌

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Sure he wasn’t

[Asker]

Haha.. Well, he could have been.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

You just raped your boyfriend, hope your happy.

[Asker]

Well, actually after a few seconds he asked me to keep going 🤗 so wasn't rape.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

It was the world’s shortest lasting rape

[MoneLise]

I'm highly sensitive to the problem of rape, but this... Don't make her feel bad, you weren't there, I'm sure if it would get bad and hurt he will say something more and she would stop. There's some space between single moan "stop..." and real pain. Please don't attack me for that, as a young woman who gets really gross comments and whistles from disgusting random men, I would never minimize the weight of rape. But they're a couple, she apologised, he (I suppose) does not perceived himself as a victim. Show some empathy, she didn't commit a crime.

[mooky06]

lmfao

[PoliceLivesMatter]

@MoneLise, well, I was mainly joking to be honest but if someone says stop then I think you should stop. It’s funny how if this were to be switched and a man said “well, it wasn’t pain just a single moan ‘stop’..” imagine how many women would say “stop means stop!” Am I right or am I right?

[MoneLise]

I just think that it is possible to tell if the boundary was crossed or not if you're in a close relationship. It can be very blurry, but I can remember some situations with moaning no's and there was no incomprehension. If there is, you can repeat. Anyway, I'm glad you're aware of the problem of ignoring objection, because this is what a society needs for sure, you have to know it :) a little perspective and this one is solved ;) Because joking here is not the best idea. Have a nice day :)

[Wonderer89]

Funny how when it’s a woman as the instigator the excuse of “you weren’t there, you don’t know what happened” and “she apologised” and “space between a single moan pain and real pain” is acceptable. If a man had done this to a woman and used those excuses he’d still be crucified. If rape is meant to be taken seriously it should be done so for both. This girl didn’t have to keep going, she could have stopped and gotten clarification so let’s not pretend this is acceptable behaviour only when it’s a vagina on top. It’s ok for everyone or not at all

[MoneLise]

@Wonderer89 I did not say it's acceptable to keep doing something if the other person says "no". I'll never defend a raper. Here I showed some understanding for that girl to make her feel better and it's all I've done. And I didn't call these" excuses", I was trying to explain the point of view from which you can see she 1. Loves her boyfriend 2. Cares about him 3. Would never want to do harm to him et cetera. That's because I am personally highly aware of how my partner feels, all the time. And I can understand a situation when, for example, one is teasing the other short after that person came and is still very sensitive, because I experienced it and never felt bad , like, violated. I also know that if I would want my boyfriend to stop, I would let him know clearly and he would stop. I'm sorry if you have worse experiences or lack of trust and understanding in a relationship. Everyone should respect the boundaries and care for the comfort of others, especially if they are together.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Wonderer89 is so wise, she should be president 😆

[Wonderer89]

Yeah... there are hundreds of college kids with a criminal record and a permanent placement on the sex offenders registry because they made the same assumption this chick did. The only difference was how their partners reacted to it so I hope you’re out there showing some understanding to those guys instead of labelling them a rapist and help them feel better about what they’ve done. Because you know, hypocrisy and all that. And you don’t need to apologise to me darling, I’m not a crappy person to do things against my partners will, choose to discuss all sexual boundaries before proceeding and have a safe word for those we do try so my trust and faith in my partner is 👌🏼 I’m just pointing out the fact if a man had posted this - he’d be labelled a lot differently but thanks for sticking up for the gals #feminismamiright

[MoneLise]

@Wonderer89 Well, it makes a liiittle difference. For example: spanking in bed? Not a fan of it myself. But you understand the difference between a gross stranger who slaps a girl in the bus and a situation when a pair of people likes this stuff and does that in bed? I didn't apologise to you, I made my statement clear. I approve teaching about respect wholeheartedly and also I think there should be some reason included. Reaction means a lot. Don't assume I'm talking about a victim forced to say "I forgive" and then everything is ok, absolutely not. No one is punished without a reason so no, I won't defend those who get judged guilty of rape, because I am deeply disgusted by the behaviour of those who care only for their "needs". But she do you think her guilt that awful and unforgivable? I agree with you about that men could be judged more severely for the same thing. I don't know whether that hashtag was sarcastic or not, but nevermind.

[Wonderer89]

@MoneLise right, so you’re not a fan of spanking but if your partner - who hadn’t discussed it with you first - started hitting your ass and didn’t stop when you told him to it would be fine. Because that’s what you’re saying here. The end result doesn’t determine whether or not an action was acceptable. Consent is consent, when stop or no is used it should ALWAYS be respected. And of course it was sarcastic 🙄 you’re making a woman try and feel better over behaviour you would condem a man for yet can’t see your own fallacy. Anyway, can’t explain circles to squares. Good luck should you ever be in this situation yourself

[MoneLise]

@Wonderer89 Why do you assume I would condemn a man for doing exactly the same thing just because he was a man? That's your opinion of what I would have done and it's ridiculous and unfair relative to men. And an answer: I've never wrote that I accept a behaviour that does not please me, but if you had read the previous messages, you know that her boyfriend was very quick to change his mind. This is why i wrote "you weren't there", I wasn't there too, so it's not up to us to tell if it was one second or one minute. If that happens and a person says no- then it's no. I don't say "haha, lets continue, tomorrow you'll admit it was great", because writing it now as an example wasn't easy.

[Karl2809]

personally if that's it being raped anytime for me

[Anonymous]

When I say stop or someone tells me to stop, I expect things to stop. It's like him sucking you off till you say stop but he keeps doing it, I will def kill him with my legs choking him lol coz he didn't listen. If he says stop, stop. he needs to recharge for round 2.

[Wonderer89]

It’s incredibly sensitive and bordering on pain.
If someone says stop, you stop. It’s not negotiable unless you’d discussed it previously and have a safe word instead

[Asker]

He's done same to me, it's like a thing we have, but I'd never done that on him, it was an experiment.

[ClaireHofmann]

I only do that when the guy asks me to continue going. If he says stop then you should stop. It can hurt them.

[QueenofCups]

I've been told that when you do that to a guy, the pleasure is so intense it's almost painful.

[AustinMan]

It was very intense immediately after he came but you continuing got him past it and the cave man came out a little and just gave you a hard fucking, no?

[Karl2809]

Yes but it was the best cuz my penis is so sensitive after cum it's awesome

[NightlyCreature]

Doesn't actually hurt, but after cumming the penis is very sensitive, just like the clit becomes sensitive when you reach an orgasm, so if you continue stimulating it, it can be a bit overwhelming, not necessarily bad as you can reach a second orgasm.

[Marcoftheking]

It's just sensitive after. Closes thing i can say is it's like being tickled. It kinda feels good but it's such a sensitive place to touch you kinda don't want it.

[Commander_Courtney]

I wouldn’t say it “hurts” to continue having sex after coming, it’s just the head of the penis is in maximum sensation overload. I find the first 30 seconds after I cum almost unbearable if she keeps riding me or sucking me off. If I can make it through the unspeakable sensations, I usually have a 2nd more intense orgasm.

[Cammy137]

Imagine if a guy had written this comment about a girl "Yeah she told me to stop but I just kept going". I'm targeting your comment because im sure your boyfriend wouldn't class it as rape but there is still a double standard

[therandomguy1]

Wow the divide on female and male opinion on this comment is intense

[sawno]

That hurts severely. Since you didn't stop that is technically rape.

[Deydey12345]

Stop milking him like a cow. You are exploiting him. #menmatterstoo

[Markalfonso]

Can you message me? I have tried to message you but it won't let me

[Deydey12345]

@Markalfonso message you for?

[Markalfonso]

Talk, I like making new texting buddies..

[TheRedLemon]

So... you have no way of knowing this but anything after orgasm to a man is really motherfucking annoying. I can`t describe the sensation but your body is putting a shotgun to your forehead to stop. It`s NOT HURTING him, it`s not even a bad sensation, it`s a really really uncomfortable one wich you feel like you are defenetly not supposed to have so you stop after orgasm.

[Wytdrgn]

If he's still hard keep on riding. You're not there for his pleasure only

[ASH_242K]

That's called Post Orgasm Torture. Everything's at a peak for a guy at orgasm , after that the penis head becomes sensitive due to friction by rubbing. You can still ride or give a hj to your guy , the first 2 minutes will be uncomfortable for many. It's a very intense orgasm after that.

[Crankor]

Yah it's not a very good feeling at that point

[false]

Ask him?

[Asker]

Of course we talked about it, but I wanted a general opinion.

[fredrick27]

No bad, it's just the glans penis become so sensitive, it hurts him but at same time very satisfying, that's why he came twice

[SuccessfulHornDog]

He told you to stop but you didn't. A girl would say that's rape

[PoliceLivesMatter]

That’s a good point

[Asker]

Yeah, that made me feel guilty afterwards but then he said it was fine, he actually liked it.

[Karl2809]

Personally I love my girlfriend continue after cum she make me cum 5-6 times and I told her to stop but sensibility gone after 2-3 minutes so she juste ride me like she want my dick stay up he like that 😘🤤

[Matt-G]

No its just sensitive

[Shan021]

Well it is painful if the girl goes on after he cums... The pleasure maybe great... but the pain is too much... Maybe fr the rest of the day

[cancan73]

It's called orgasm torture and it doesn't hurt it's just stupid sensitive

[Asker]

Omg, I didn't know it actually had a name. Thank you!

[psychosam]

That sounds nice, lucky prick

[Fr3d0m]

Sometimes it can get to sensitive and overstimulating but it sounds like he enjoyed it.