Kicked out after one night stand?

[TomTomTomB]

Hi people, last night I had a one night stand with a girl I had just met after a Uni ball. This happened because we were sharing a taxi planning on dropping her off then going home but she out of the blue asked me to stay at hers. Weird thing was in the morning she said “this will sound really rude but will you leave”. I’m stlightly hurt by her saying that, do you think it would have been because she regretting having it or could it have been because she was just hungover? have you ever did this to someone and why? it was 9:30am and wasn’t like I was staying all day. Thanks

[wankiam]

you have a good night? yeah? so what you quimming about. she probably had shit to do but whatever her reason it was her peorogative which you need to respect... besides 9.30 is more than late enough in the morning to leave. many one nighters end as soon as the sex is done

[TomTomTomB]

true but its never happened to me before, and yeah i left straight after she asked but just hoping that she didn't regret it and want me gone

[wankiam]

well that may be the case but also bear this in mind in future... drunken one night stands are funand i have had many myself but in todays current climate of metoo and sober consent, do be careful you never end up on a rape charge. a few lives of young men have been ruined already by what they saw as a drunken fumble being seen by the courts as sex without consent

[TomTomTomB]

I was just as drunk as her if not more and she definitely wanted it so I am careful in that way

[wankiam]

yeah and thats just where the law gets grey... doesn't matter you was drunk too and it doesn't matter that she didn't say no... come on you are at uni you must know the law surrounding it. dont they even hand out leaflets on the subject. its sad its got like this but it has

[wankiam]

here you go... a link to studentuk site on this exact subject
sexpression.org.uk/consent-in-sexual-contact/

[TomTomTomB]

read that, if someone is legally unable to consent if they have been drinking that would be the same with me though? equal rights

[wankiam]

in law a man cannot be raped by a woman so again its shakey to assume something just because it seems it would be fair... not preaching to ya but just making you aware of the risks... there are some real bitches out there if you aren't careful you could be their victim so please just do your research and dont assume... shit there is even now celeb men who insist on a written consent before they will fuck a fan

[oftheHowl]

She might've just wanted to get up and get ready for the day in peace, not wanting any emotional attachment. The sex was over so some people are done after that and want them gone

[AnnaTheAnnaa]

How drunk was she last night when she invited you?

[TomTomTomB]

she wasn't noticeably drunk and conversation was good

[AnnaTheAnnaa]

Think she regretted it, but not because of you, but because of the implication itself

[NerdInDenial]

People just want to avoid the awkwardness and she probably wanted to do something else

[Shoenron]

She just wanted sex. No strings attached. Get over it.

[winterfox10]

I mean... that's kinda rude, but at the same time it isn't like she knew you at all. She was sharing her bed with a total stranger, and she had stuff she wanted to do and didn't want you in her apartment unattended.

[Leo3572]

I guess she has expected you to leave after she felt asleep.

[SecondGuy]

It was a one night stand! What do you expect? Breakfast?

[TomTomTomB]

Haha not at all, but at least maybe learn something about each other

[SecondGuy]

Why?

[TomTomTomB]

She seemed like a nice girl, just because we had a one night stand doesn’t mean we couldn’t do it again

[doogo]

I had a chick who did that and I got used to it. It sounds rude but we must do that on o e night stands. You don't know the person so no need to get to know each other or have brunch etc.

[Naimed]

Could be both things, probably you're the only one who could tell by the vibes she gave at that moment.

[Naimed]

But either way I think she just wanted sex. If she regretted it or not, that's hard to tell.

[chatwanderer]

Well it's her place

[Anonymous]

Maybe she had someone coming over at her place when she told you to leave?

[TomTomTomB]

that would make me feel better but i dont think she did, she mentioned she was going to go to the beach later but that was it

[Opinion Owner]

Someone may be coming to pick her up?