Kinky dark side?

[bubblly]

How long should it take you after you have committed yourself to one guy/girl should you let them know about your kinky dark side. How do you handle it when they freak out? What pace do you proceed with for the willing and ready

[AustinMan]

I've made it a practice to have a calm, direct, matter of fact conversation about our sexual wants and needs before having sex the first time so there are no surprises. I'm quite kinky, into S&M and a little bondage, so she needs to know she's gonna get those hot, hard bare bottom spankings before I manhandle her over my knee the first time.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

[bubblly]

what she doesn't want to?

[AustinMan]

Then she's taking a big unnecessary risk. A conversation with the caveat that there'll be no judging is the best, and for my money the only, way to get things off on the right foot. Are you dominant or submissive? What kinds of things do you want to do? That makes a difference.

[bubblly]

if dominant?

[AustinMan]

It doesn't really matter. I presume you have reasons to believe he's submissive or at least a switch sexually?

[bubblly]

jst asking

[AustinMan]

The roles don't matter. What's important is to talk calmly, directly, and in a matter of fact way about what you want and need sexually.

[bubblly]

Good point

[JellyBean333]

The earlier the better! Then you'll find out whether you're both sexually compatible before proceeding further and getting deeper feelings :)

[USA1960]

Very true !

[luvitall]

Uhmm I tell my man my fantasies during sex and incorporate him into them to get him excited

[bubblly]

So u r dominant.

[luvitall]

No im VERY submissive when it comes to my man, but im very open with him to fantasies and exploring and new experiences.. we have a very healthy relationship and I feel open freely to discuss this stuff with him because I hae complete faith in him... but I would never explore bdsm and he knows thats the line im not into pain or being humiliated

[bubblly]

oh.. thanks

[luvitall]

If your partner is receptive to your desires include them into whatever process is included into it, when you involve them more they get a lot more excited about it happening... also if they are uncomfortable with it then just move onto a new desire and just touch base back to the first desire... just because they are not receptive to the idea now it doesn't mean later on that they won't be open to it... it takes a lot of balls to openly admit desires even to your partner... maybe you could start out by finding a "dvd" and show it to them and point out the hot scenes and what you like about it and slowly incorporate it into your routine... over all if your comfortable with yourself and your partner you will be able to tell them and trust them... and whatever it is dont be ashamed !!

[Thisisstephypotter]

My boyfriend and I are not into that stuff luckily neither of us had to go down that road

[bubblly]

If somebody introduced you to it, and you found it interesting, would tell him?

[Thisisstephypotter]

@bubblly what do you mean? How could somebody introduce it to me? I am faithful to my boyfriend I would never cheat on him...

[bubblly]

Oh.. what if you jst came across a video or book tht got you intrested?

[Thisisstephypotter]

Okay well yeah of course I would tell him. Good communication is key to every aspect of a relationship, especially when it comes to sex. I'm more open minded than him but if it was something I really wanted to do I am sure he would do it for me. However it's not my cup of tea and I don't want to do it.

[bubblly]

owky

[Quitkyconfidence]

I do it when it's comfortable. I do not have a planned time but I do it while we are into it as it's just something to see if someone is into it. But I do little tricks first to see if they are into that

[lericah]

I think you need to let them know as soon as you feel things are more then a fling. Your kinks are a part of you no matter how you feel about them.

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on the level of kink. You want a threesome? You want leather/latex/heavy bondage? Some types of kink are much more acceptable/within normal bounds than others.

[uknaked]

As soon as possible in my view, no relationship will be completely fulfilling without great communication, together with mutual trust, honesty and respect.
Everybody has fantasies, most never become reality, but they can turn you on, orgasms cumm from your brain!

[2167Phillip]

i guess im pld fashioned when i say that you jave to be gonwst and forthcoming with your partner abput your sexual likes and turn ons. since i am a kinky man, it would be great if o found a kinky woman who shares my turn ons. true it may scare him or her when you disclose this for the first time. or if the other person is open minded it may not matter. if it were mw i wpuld not just drop it on their laps like a bomb. work up to it slowly cautiously.

[bubblly]

Good advice

[Katie2244]

Sooner is better make sure they know what they are getting into, what sort of kinks?

[reixun]

Immediately, just talk about it and figure out what you both like or dislike. Make a venn diagram.

[countrydude]

I think kink can be introduced right away. What are your kinks anyway? How dark is your dark side?

[bubblly]

So dark it wld overpower the light in u

[countrydude]

Lol. Try me.

[USA1960]

I introduce my sexual proclivities before a commitment is established.

[bubblly]

How do u go about it

[USA1960]

Well, of course I don't hit her with sexual interest - until we have dated and both show a desire to be sexual together. About this time I'll be upfront about my "Likes" & "Dislikes", as well as a "fantasy I've held for some time.

[bubblly]

oh.. nice

[CisScum]

Asap even though like all of my kinks won't make anyone freak out LOL. Not like I'm into blood or pain. Maybe a bit weird.

[Yumix]

I'd talk relatively early about it... so he knows what he's getting into. you need to be sexually compatible, else it might be frustrating...

[NajemEddine]

explain further
what kind of kink

[bubblly]

All of it.. Bondage, spanking, whipping, biting, sex toys even those that go up the ass, hot wax.. etc

[NajemEddine]

see if the guy first is vanilla or no

[bubblly]

vanilla?

[NajemEddine]

it means he likes normal sex no kink

[bubblly]

oh.. so how soon should you try to find that out

[NajemEddine]

i would say see his porn browser history

[bubblly]

And then? What if he doesn't watch porn

[NajemEddine]

yes a guy with no porn that exist :p any way if uare a bit busy and in need for some apanking :p ask him 98 % guys like this

[SuitAndTie]

For me I'd prefer after a few dates or as soon as we become official

[Paul09]

Wow, well it depends how "dark" , how important is this "dark" kink in your life? Can you live without it? You should probably tell her.

[bubblly]

Doesn't involve blood

[Underheel]

What do you mean by kinky please explain

[bubblly]

The rougher and harsher kind of pleasure giving

[Underheel]

Interesting u r my type of girl but don't u afraid of pain

[bubblly]

i ain't

[Underheel]

You like to give pain or take?

[bubblly]

A little bit of both

[Underheel]

Hmm how much pain you can give or take

[bubblly]

Any that doesn't involve blood

[Underheel]

Me to don't like blood by the way which is the most extreme things u ever done

[bubblly]

assballs..

[Underheel]

Assballs mean what do you did with ur bf?

[bubblly]

Just some stuff that rlly painful

[Underheel]

Like what? Do you squeeze his balls

[bubblly]

story for another day..😉

[Underheel]

Love to hear ur stories sound interesting

[bubblly]

jst cnt share..

[Underheel]

You know my girlfriend tied my cock with rope and pull hardly slap on my continuously n also kick mercilessly

[bubblly]

u liked tht?

[Underheel]

Ofcourse i like that but what u did curious to know

[bubblly]

Nothng..😊😊

[Underheel]

Do you like to punish cock n balls?

[bubblly]

yea.. Tie them with smthng

[Underheel]

And what you do after tieing

[bubblly]

gudnyt

[Underheel]

Good night kid you are kid for all this things first grown up than think what is wrong or right for u

[bubblly]

oh.. owky

[Nandor]

Men like kinky stuff

[Nandor]

I dont know what type of kinky you mean so its hard to tell

[bubblly]

Do u

[Nandor]

Look i dont judge until its nothing to do with blood. psst (tell me what you was thinking of when you said kinky)

[bubblly]

pain

[Nandor]

femdom?

[Nandor]

What did you mean by pain? fremdom or what?

[Anonymous]

Couple of months or less depends how many times we have had sex yet

[bubblly]

Arnd how many

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe 10, everyone's different

[bubblly]

owky