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It makes life extremly difficult for a good guy like me if you don't answer well considered or not 100% honestly. It is not at all reprehensible to be attracted to criminal thugs, because you have no influence on that! There is no morally right or wrong with sexual preferences!
I swear to god, I‘ll definitely never become a bad boy! But i really want to know what gets women sexually most aroused. I know that a confident, successful, assertive, manly good guy is very attractive. I am only interested in finding out wheather a confident, successful, assertive manly bad boy is even more attractive.
If that is the case, i will fake the bad boy image. I know that many women think it won‘t work, but in a club, it‘s enough to look like a bad boy, because the woman can‘t figure out your character anyway. It‘s just a matter of giving the woman the impression that you are a bad boy.
So i had this conversation on GaG with a woman.
I shortened it a lot to focus on the essentials. You can read the whole conversation under my question: “Does every woman feel sexually attracted to bad boys at least in one phase of her life?“
If you disagree with this woman, please don‘t talk bad about her! I am glad that she told me her honest opinion.
her:
tbh every guy i‘ve ever been attracted to was a bad guy. They have all had the worst personalities. My first crush was involved in a gang. Some were not that bad but still rude.
me:
Do I understand you correctly that these guys would have seemed less attractive to you if they looked the same and were just as brave, manly or whatever, but had a good character?
her:
Yes they would have seemed less attractive
me:
1. Is it attractive if he starts brawls that aren‘t necessary?
2. would you consider yourself an exception, or do you believe there are quite a lot women that are attracted to the same or a similiar type of guy altough some of them do not admit it?
her:
1. Yes.. def.
2. I think there are many more
Ladies do you agree with this woman?
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32 0I think women like the idea of a bad boy who’s only good to them. It makes it feel like we’re special to him but everyone else can fck off. Ya get me?
Honesty blame the disney movies for this...
As for me, I would only get into a passionate love affair with a guy like this but I wouldn’t see him as marriage material
@kupkakes "I think women like the idea of a bad boy who's only good to them It makes it feel like we're special to him but everyone else can fck off. Yes, I know. I've heard that a lot. It's sad. Because a manly, confident, assertive etc. good guy will never treat another good guy badly. No matter how extremely superior he is to him. Not because he couldn't do it, but because he himself believes it's wrong to do so, and it's a sad thing that because of this he appears less attractive to women. But if he is not just confident, assertive, manly etc. but also smart, he will simply fake the bad boy image. For a very manly-looking man, it' s a breeze to fake it. Thanks a lot for your honesty!
The assertive confident manly guy will get a lot of female attention too. But women will want to marry that guy as opposed to the bad one
The badness is not really what attracts us. It’s the confidence he has. If he was a bad boy with no confidence thar would be very unattractive
@kupkakes "As for me, I would only get into a passionate love affair with a guy like this but I wouldn't see him as marriage material" Ok so you find the bad boy (as described in the question) purely sexually more attractive than the good guy (as described in the question) but for a marriage you prefer the good guy. But in a marriage you surely want to be satisfied sexually as well, don't you? Or is it not so important to you anymore? "The assertive confident manly guy will get a lot of female attention too. But women will want to marry that guy as opposed to the bad one" That's exactly what I don't understand. If you women prefer the bad boy for sex but the good guy for marriage, what do you do with your sexual preferences in marriage, provided you don't cheat with a bad boy? Is it true that you don't find the good guy as sexually attractive as the bad boy, but you find him sexually attractive enough? Do you accept in marriage that you will not be sexually satisfied to the same extent as with the bad boys with whom you previously had "passionate love affairs"?
@kupkakes „The badness is not really what attracts us. It’s the confidence he has. If he was a bad boy with no confidence thar would be very unattractive“ But according to this you should find the good guy sexually as attractive as the bad boy, because the good guy as i described him is identical to the bad boy as I described him, only without the badness! I assume, that there is something about „badness“ that appears somehow mysterious and therefore attractive to women. am I on the right track?
No I didn’t say it was sexually more appealing to be with a bad guy. Wait a second you’re making too many assumptions lol Would you marry a girl who has sex with a lot of guys? A promiscuous girl? No? Exactly lol
Oh I see why you’re confused. We can be sexually satisfied with both, but the bad guy makes our heart flutter more often, which in the end can be a bad thing because the relationship is therefore unstable and we can’t rely on him. We just like the thrill of the bad guy (and sex of course) but we can also be satisfied with the good guy of course
The good guy = more stability and reliability so definitely the good guy for marriage. But he has to be assertive and manly and good in bed
@kupkakes „No I didn’t say it was sexually more appealing to be with a bad guy.“ Okay, you didn't say it. But it is. Right? „We just like the thrill of the bad guy (and sex of course) but we can also be satisfied with the good guy of course“ You can be satisfied with a good guy, no question. But sex is even better with a bad boy. because just knowing that he is bad is somehow appealing. Right? 😉 „But he has to be assertive and manly and good in bed“ He can be all that, but the sex with him is still not as good as with a bad boy. Right? 😅
@kupkakes The idea of having sex with the bad boy is more appealing than the idea to have sex with the good guy. Provided both being strong, manly, assertive, dominant etc. Am i correct? Please just stay honest 🙈
No, sex isn’t necessarily better with a bad boy. I don’t even know where you got that from. I believe you’re starting with an assumption and then trying to prove it, instead of listening to what I’m actually saying. I am being honest. You just don’t like what I’m saying.
As I said before, the badness isn’t really what makes us attracted to him. It’s the assertive, self respecting nature that he has. People think a man is an asshole if he defends his boundaries but he’s actually a confident man. That’s what we girls love and find attractive 😀 If he had no confidence but he was an asshole... NO woman would find him attractive just because he’s bad
@kupkakes "I am being honest. You just don't like what I'm saying.“ I like anything if it's 100% true. I only ask critically because some women lie on the subject because they think it would be morally reprehensible to admit that the bad boy is more attractive to them. Or maybe they think that I like the answer that the good guy is equally attractive better, and therefore claim it. Whether women prefer bad boys for sex or good guys, or whether the sex is equally good, it makes no difference to me! I just need to know. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not calling you a liar. But is it possible that you are not 100% conscious about why exactly a man is attractive to you? That would be quite normal, sometimes I don't know precisely why a woman is attractive to me. I also know that it varies from woman to woman and many women like the good guy as much as they like the bad boy, so I don't have to play the bad boy image. But even if all women preferred the bad boy: I'm the good guy, but faking the bad guy would be a breeze for me. If you promise me that there is absolutely nothing attractive about the bad boy that the good guy can't have, I believe you. And if there is one little thing, just tell me. There's nothing wrong with it, because nobody controls their sexual preferences. They're created subconsciously and we cannot control them. So there's nothing to be ashamed of if one finds bad behavior sexually attractive.
@kupkakes "I don't even know where you got that from.", "As I said before, the badness isn't really what makes us attracted to him." Okay, but do you have any idea why the whole world is talking about "bad boys" being so attractive? Why the term "bad boy" and not, for example, "confident guy" or "leader guy" or whatever? The term "bad boy" suggests that it must be something with bad behavior that makes women sexually attracted. "If he had no confidence but he was an asshole... NO woman would find him attractive just because he's bad" I know, but I think if he has confidence and is an asshole, he looks more attractive sexually (for example for an ONS) than if he only has confidence but is not an asshole.
I know why. Because bad boys are actually men who respect themselves and don’t worship women. People call them bad boys because they don’t like how they focus on themselves so much instead of focusing on the woman. Lol if it makes you feel better I promise. I’m 100% aware of what I like in men and what most women seem to find attractive. The problem is, sometimes women confuse assertiveness with abuse and so they fall into a bad relationship with the guy. What we like is confidence and assertiveness. If the guy also adds in some criminal aspects into the mix, many girls will still find him attractive because of his confidence, not his crimes or abusive behavior.
If you fake the bad boy persona, it’s unattractive and you won’t meet the right girl for you. My best friend (who is a guy) does this a lot, but has gotten into bad relationships with women. This usually happens because he feels he has to wear a mask to attract women. But the thing is, sure you attract women but you’re in danger of attracting an abusive woman. Why does this happen? I’m not sure. But it does. And it does a lot
@kupkakes “My best friend (who is a guy) does this a lot, but has gotten into bad relationships with women.“ I am not talking about relationships. In a relationship, I don't want to pretend. Besides, it's too much effort for me to fake the bad boy for more than one night.
confident, successful, assertive manly all good
bad boy, nope
exactly i think society often mixes up these two as if assertive was synonym for asshole. it isn’t 😆
We like masculine men who enjoy taken lead
I think she was either trolling you or she's crazy.
@rose004b Unfortunately, I don't believe that. I don't blame you women for anything! Sexual attractiveness is something one cannot influence! But I honestly believe that most women find it attractive on a purely sexual level if a man beats another man to a pulp without him behaving wrong. Evolutionary it was certainly beneficial to be very selfish and aggressive. For example, if a man beat up another man to take away his resources, then it was preferable to procreate with that man because he was more likely to ensure the survival of the offspring. Moreover, his physical superiority shows that he can protect the woman. That's why I think it must be that women generally find thugs attractive. And if you ask women, most of them say that they like bad boys. I also think that most women who say that they don't like bad boys are either lying or they are probably just not aware of it. But if there's a bad boy in front of them, I bet they find him attractive too. I guess it makes absolute sense in evolutionary terms to prefer men like that sexually.
fighting is only attractive when they fight to protect someone (and it was actually necessary to protect that person, like when one of their friends is getting beat up or something or someone is robbing a person)
I don’t like bad boys. I prefer a guy who is sweet and nerdy. in my opinion innocence is an adorable trait.
@seeingdouble my English is not very good. Does innocence means that the guy is a virgin?
I have never ever understood the attraction towards bad guys. Why do these women like to be treated like shit. This is not a preference, it is mental illness
I will think from the perspective of this woman. Because I believe that many people actually have some bad ideas or ideas. I'm actually attracted by bad guys, doing things I dare not try. But most of them actually rejected these people, because they would feel that he would affect themselves. To put it bluntly, it is actually a process of self-knowledge.
I recently found some young men dating in Cougr, （cougr. net）maybe this is also an experience
Thanks for your opinion!
I do feel that most women go through a phase where they are extremely attracted to bad boys. I dont even know why because honestly, being treated like shit and being treated like you are replaceable is a horrible feeling. Been there, done that and wasted 7 years of my life on him. See this "bad boy" helped me make 3 children. This "bad boy" also sat on his ass all day and did nothing but play video games, smoke pot and "rap" (because he's going to be a big rap star when he's older, HA!). He doesn't even see his kids now. So in conclusion, yes, most women go through that phase and yes, most women regret it.
Wow. Thanks for your story/opinion!
There's absolutely nothing about bad boys that I find attractive. Even as friends, their personalities aren't appealing to me at all.
Thanks for your opinion! I will marry you one day 🙂