Ladies & Gentlemen, what tips/advise would you give your partner to improve their oral sex game? What advice/tips did they give you?

There is always room for improvement, if you ask me.
My boyfriend asked me to moan while he was in my throat & it changed the whole game for him.
I asked my boyfriend to eat me like an ice cream cone & it made all the difference to my experience.

What advice/tips do you have to make your experience better? What advice/tips did they give you?
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  • I doubt there's anything Earth-shattering here, but:
    -Give feedback. Sure, if they do something and it DOES turn out to be Earth-shattering, they'll know, but subtler stuff can pass unnoticed. Mention it afterwards.
    -Bad oral sex is better than no oral sex (with obvious exceptions at the extreme), and improvement can really only come with practice; don't get discouraged!
    -Remember that there's no one right way to it; fast or slow, long or short, intense or relaxed. Different techniques and ideas work better for different styles.
    -For that matter, remember that oral can be a complete form of sex in its own right, not necessarily a part of anything bigger. I've seen a disappointing number of people overlook that possibility.
    -Remember that despite the name, it's okay to bring your hands into play; sometimes that can help give your mouth time to rest.

    Male-specific:
    -Immediately after ejaculating, the glans becomes VERY sensitive, to the point that further stimulation can actually be uncomfortable. That doesn't kick in until after it's finished, though; you usually want to build up speed until it fires, then slow down- don't stop, though! Stopping too soon cuts the sensation.
    -Don't forget the balls. Evolution was clearly not thinking straight when it decided to put internal organs outside the body, but you can turn that sensitivity into a positive; temperature, moisture, vibration, and pressure can produce some very interesting sensations. Just be gentle- it's always better to go in too soft and add more force than go in too hard and hurt him. Also know that some guys have never experienced it and may freak out a bit; offer some reassurance or ask beforehand.
    -The frenulum is the key to going from an enjoyable experience to a "lose control of your leg muscles and melt out of your chair" one. For unfortunate political reasons, you won't often hear this mentioned, but if it's there, make use of it.

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  • When I was 24, I had sex with a 36 yr old woman. I learned so much from her because she told me exactly what she wanted: faster, slower, add fingers, a little higher or lower keep going, longer, softer etc. The best advice ever: is for each person to help train the other person how they like it. To "train" someone sounds odd, but... make it fun... each person is so different we (men) need to learn how the girl likes it. I promise, most all of you enjoy something slightly different, so we (men) need to learn how each girl works. Honest communication about how the girl likes to receive oral has amazing results. Both of you will enjoy it more... you just need to learn that persons preferences.

    Consider this, if a girl fakes cuming, the boy will think he did something right, and he'll keep doing that same thing. He doesn't know.. he is just acting based on the clues. Ladies, don't fake it because then the guy will continue to do the wrong thing. Rather than send us guys the wrong message, please give us specific guidance. Make it fun. Show us & Tell us what you like, give us a chance to practice (no pressure), and we'll get good at exactly the technique you like.

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  • Well the guys gots lots to say and are very demanding lol. For me id say for them… to try diff positions (like flip me on my stomach) make sure its sloppy, use your entire hand or mouth & focus on my Clitoris or g spot. Also i don’t think guys understand how much of a turn on moaning is if they can dirty talk and moan while doing all this its amazing… its such of a turn off when the guy is sooo quiet.

  • Well my ex boyfriend showed me a porn video he liked of a girl giving oral so I studied it a lot to try and do it like this girl - it’s always (pun intended) gone down well! If you’re interested it’s called Mouth Meat 4 and the girl is Nicole Brazzle. Tacky names but it’s a cool video you should check out!

    • Same for me! He showed me a porn video he liked and made me focus on what one of the actresses was doing.

    • @Stellarskyheaven oh cool yeah it was the kind of thing that I wouldn’t have expected to enjoy watching - blowjob porn I mean, cos it’s clearly intended for the male gaze - but some of it is great and I like it when the actress is 100% into it, or when she’s doing it for loads of guys one after the other. Also knowing what my boyfriend watched on his own weirdly made him seem more masculine to me, I don’t know why though!

    • I think it's because blowjob porn is so masculine in itself and imagining him touching himself (probably) to that is hot!

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  • I'll list them in numerical order for your reading pleasure.

    1. I also love it when she moans or talks when she's sucking me off. For some reason that I cannot explain, the vibration from her voice box is actually quite stimulating.
    2. Don't forget the balls. Playing with them while sucking feels heavenly. Don't forget to rub, fondle and play with it, if you're comfortable, lick it. Try pulling down on his balls when he's about to cum and he'll have the most intense orgasm of his life.
    3. Use your hands! Who said you can't incorporate hands into a blowie? Stroke him off into your mouth as you're giving sloppy head.
    4. Rub and\or lick his taint. This is the area between the balls and he anus. It is packed with tons of nerve endings and indirectly stimulates his prostate.
    5. Lick and stimulate the frenulum with your fingers and tongue. I would compare this spot to the clitoris - it's also packed with loads of nerve endings and it really brings out waves of pleasure.
    6. Whatever you do, don't stop! If your jaw is tired or aching from going too fast, try something else - try going slower, stop and use your hands instead, lick and stimulate the head of his penis while you rest your jaw etc... just don't stop or he might get a ruined orgasm!
    7. Touch and rub his body as you go down on him.
    8. Don't forget eye contact and dirty talk!
    9. Go as fast as you can when he's about to cum. Use your hands to stroke every last drop into your mouth as you continue that tongue action.

  • I think feedback on what you like and dislike are important. We can't read each others minds. I have asked previous girlfriends to stroke/play with me while giving me a bj and it has been wonderful.

  • About blowjobs.
    1. Do not stop or slow down. Either can cripple a rise to orgasm.
    2. The penis head is the center of pleasure. Suck and bob at it until ejaculation starts, but stop all motion when it does.
    3. Combine rapid hand stroking the shaft with sucking the head for the best outcome.

  • Learn to love the smell and taste.
    Just enjoy being there.
    Get a feel for how she reacts to suction or gentle nibbling of every square millimeter of her whole area.
    See how much of her lips you can suck into your mouth.
    Add fingers.
    Add a toy... as you continue to lick and suck.
    69 with her on top, put a pillow under your head, keep your right arm over your head when she sits on your face so you can use ur right fingers.
    Massage the area around her anus with no penetration. It engages the nerves in her anus and augments the sensation of her orgasm without having anal sex. Make sure she knows you're not going to surprise her with a finger inside. Don't do it. Or she'll never relax.

  • What oral game? The only thing I get is right hand rosie

  • I like ice cream

  • Well that's pretty damn simple. No teeth EVER. And be ENTHUSIASTIC.

  • Please increase visual appeal.

  • Listen to direction while going down on them. The same moves don’t work for every girl.

  • Tips for my lady lovers:
    - Humming while deep throating is awesome.
    - Rub the tip to the inside of your cheeks
    - Make eye contact
    - Show him before you swallow

    Tips i received:
    - Don't just directly attack the clit, stimulate surrounding areas first
    - Use fingers to stimulate the g-spot while giving oral
    - Suck on the clit gently only if she is not super sensitive otherwise gently stimulate with your tongue
    - Some women prefer pressure on the clit, you can provide that by pressing your lips on it
    - Use alphabet movement with your tongue while stimulating the clit

  • I'll do her. I don't want her to do me

  • keep practice and dont hesitate to be so open as much as you want.

  • I would say when you tasting it make sure to stroke it medium speed while u doing it.

  • I Assume your boyfriend was the one who hit on you

  • My SO is really good at it