Ladies, how do you feel about dominance in the bedroom?

[Anonymous]

One of the most surprising things I've discovered at this site is the number of women who enjoy their men being dominant in the bedroom. Since my wife and I have a more 50/50 arrangement in this area, I'm not sure exactly what they mean. In what ways does this manifest itself? I listed some things in a poll (because I like polls), but since there's such a wide range of dominant behavior, I'd like to hear what dominance means to you. I appreciate your input!

[AustinMan]

Interesting question. I'll be curious to see how many responses you get. I'm probably gonna run up against the 2K limit as I'm going to explore this a bit. Dominance is more about the psychological than the physical. The physical flows from the psychological. For me, dominance is about decision making during sex. I decide who does what to whom when. I'm also a bit of a sadist, so some of those decisions are driven by that kink. She knows that once the clothes start coming off, her ass is mine literally and figuratively. Now that doesn't mean that if I try to take her over my knee to spank her naughty bare bottom that she can't resist. Wrestling/struggling sex is very, very hot. Probably the most important thing we have is the safe words so she can say no and stop but unless I hear one of her safe words, stand by 'cause I'm all over her.

As for some of the specific kinks you listed, we're into impact play (with hands, paddles, crops, canes, straps, hair brushes, and rulers (I especially like the steel one but one has to be very careful with it) among other things, a little hair pulling (she's quite tender headed, unfortunately), rough breast and nipple play/torture, genital torture, bondage, blindfolds, and all things anal (save scat).

On a related topic, we also both find role play sex the hottest sex there is. One time she showed up to buy my house to flip it. She comes in, walks around criticizing the place, sort of insulting my taste, and then has the audacity to make me a ridiculously low offer. That was the last straw. I grabbed her, yanked off her clothes, turned her over the dining room table, and gave her a hot, long, and hard bare bottom spanking while scolding her mightily for her rudeness and hubris. She wasn't sufficiently repentant for my for my taste so she got roughly, savagely sodomized and made to swallow the whole load. It was great!

[Anonymous]

well i like all of the above, the best is when my guy ties me to the bed/desk/wherever and maybe blindfolds me. then he will tease me but never let me cum, he will be commanding and order me to do stuff like go in certain positions or to do particular things to him or myself. he will spank/punish me when i don't do it well/fast enough or if i don't do it at all and he will physically move my body to the right places which can sometimes be uncomfy but in the end it is fun. we also use sex toys including the obvious like dildos and vibe's but also handcuffs and whips etc.

[PrettyBama]

I like everything up to D. If the guy is cute and I really like him but he's not dom material. I'll settle for physically controlling my body.

[losergirl66]

I see dominance when he has the "I want it and I'm taking it now attitude" when he wants it right then his way.

[Anonymous]

All of the above. Basically I don't want any control at all when I am in the bedroom with a guy.