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Ladies, those of you who enjoy anal sex, can you give us some advice?

My wife and I want to give anal intercourse a try but want to go about it the right way to ensure it is a good experience for her. I know it can sometimes be painful at first. What can a guy do to make it as comfortable and enjoyable as possible for a woman?

We have been enjoying some anal play for a while, things like me fingering her ass while giving her oral, and she does enjoy that a lot and has strong orgasms when we do it. We also have a small vibrating anal toy that she really enjoys. So we both think she will enjoy anal intercourse too, but we want to approach it the best way possible so it's a positive experience for her.

Any advice you can share would be great. Thanks in advance.

PS - what lube do you recommend?

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I meant to mention, please don't respond if you're just going to give me reasons not to do it. We've decided to, and are aware of the risks and negative aspects, so please don't bother if that's all you're here for.
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  • Get a longer lasting lube we usually use astroglide x

    do not use any anal desensitizer or number as it is easier to cause damage from not being able to feel if something isn't right

    Once you get the tip in give her time to adjust the initial entrance can sometimes be painful or uncomfortable at first I'd recommend maybe letting her control the depth and speed of the anal sex until she gets used to having anal sex.

    Playing with her body, kissing, sucking, etc prior and while you enter her also helps as it gives a bit of a distractions and distracts the nerves or nervousness she might have

    It helps if in her head she tells herself she wants this and it is going to feel good... it helped me a lot thinking this way when my husband I first got together as he is bigger than previous partner

    Loosen/open her butt up with fingerings and or a toy in there also helps

    Lube lube lube is very important especially when she isn't used to it... now after we have been having anal sex frequently we can do it using just my vaginal fluids and without lube sometimes

    • Thank you, this was very helpful! We ordered a butt plug from Amazon earlier today that I think will help prepare her. I just searched Astroglide X and found it on Amazon and will order that too. We have been using KY personal liquid but it hasn't been great. Hopefully the Astroglide will be better. My wife wanted me to tell you thank you as well, particularly for the advice about me paying attention to her body and her having the right mindset. Thanks again, really appreciate the advice.

    • You're welcome... it an amazing thing if done right and with patience and right mindset

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  • Pink anon 30-35 gave some really good tips. Before you start it does help a lot to use your fingers or a plug to gently relax her first.

    The part about stopping once you get the tip in is really important. It always feels like a little too much at that point and it takes me a minute or so to relax and open up to where it's comfortable. It's also helpful if she pushes out like she's trying to have a bowl movement. I know that sounds weird but it triggers her body to open up to allow something to pass through. It really helps a lot. Once you start pushing in, go really slow at first until you get all the way in, and once you're there, stay still again for a minute to allow her to relax and open up. At that point you can start moving in and out slowly and work up from there.

    Tell her to be honest and let you know if it's uncomfortable and she wants you to slow down or stop. And do it immediately. If you want it to be something she wants to do again, it's in your best interest to make sure she's not in pain or she may decide it's not something she wants to do again.

    It helps me to rub my clit during anal. It distracts from the initial discomfort and I can have really powerful orgasms that way.

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  • Honestly any water based lube is good. Make sure you put lube inside her and on yourself. Wear a condom. Before you do it she has to be relaxed and turned on so I would say you gotta get her to the point where she's fully enjoying herself before you do it. Start out with fingers and go up to like 3 before you go in. Encourage her to play with herself while you're doing it. Most of the time rubbing the clip will make it so much more pleasurable. And go painfully slow when you first enter until you're fully in. Then stop for a minute to let her get used to it. Then start gentle and work your way up to a good speed.

  • Treat it as normal sex just slow it down a bit. There's no magic formula but lube helps

    • Thank you Ms. Poppy.

  • If you type "anal sex advice" in the search box you'll see previous questions and answers that will tell you all the things you want to know, and some of the things you don't, about sticking your penis in your lady's caboose. That'll keep you busy reading for a while. I personally don't indulge in the act myself, but going the wrong way down a one-way street appeals to some ladies, so you'll find plenty of input.

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