Ladies: what would you do? Men: should we not tell you? Why do this?

He broke up with me last year, we decided to still see each other intimate wise. Neither thought we could have kids. I started feeling sick and throwing up. Took two clearblue (pregnancy tests) both were positive. I did the right thing and told him. Now he told a mutual friend he thinks im so in love with him im trying to trap him and no way could it be his. I haven't slept with anyone else in two years.. I can't believe he thinks I'd lie to him..
Ladies: how would you handle this?
Men: should we not tell you and keep it to ourselves?
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  • You did the right thing by telling him. Do you want to have the baby? Do you want him to man up? If so, in the end he will know it's his child. The courts will order him to have the blood test and will garnish his wages if necessary to support your (plural) child.

    • I dont want support from him. At this point I'm second guessing keeping the child. I went to planned parenthood this morning. Another positive test but nothing else they could help me with

    • Good luck to you. I'm sure this a very stressful time. You'll get through it and be wiser.

    • God I hope so. Thank you

Most Helpful Guy

  • It’s probs because men have no right to not be a parent if the girl gets pregnant. Where as women do and it seems that your seriously considering keeping the kid despite him clearly not wanting it which will likely force him into pay child support loans for the next 18 years. This post really opened me up to not sleeping around with most women anymore especially without a condom. Porn is looking better and better less risk for me lol.

    • I asked him what we should do together. His words were " up to you."

    • Society says he has to say that or he is an asshole.

    • Why r u considering keeping the kid? There’s something wrong with u that u would even consider keeping this kid tbh.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I think if he can think like that of you, you would not want your child to have a father figure like that.. you can be a single parent and love the child and make him/her a better person.

    • I really don't want that for my child and it disgusts me thats he's acting like that and he is the father. I'm tempted if im able to carry full term to keep him away from the baby and give them my last name. Thank you ❤

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  • I would want to be told.
    i also don’t think most men act like that. He’s obviously immature

    • God I hope not. It broke my heart honestly

  • I'm really sorry, but I can't answer that question because I would not carry on seeing a woman I broke up with!

    • His idea to see each other on an intimate level as well. If you didn't break up with her and in this situation, would you do the same thing he is?

    • No, he's being a selfish obnoxious prick in my view.

    • Thank you, I appreciate your opinion. Do you think im a horrible person if I no longer want him involved because of his behavior?

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  • He is obviously an asshole, so don't judge men on him. You should definitely always tell the guy, except perhaps if you are certain you want an abortion no matter what, than I guess it could sometimes be better not to tell.

    And for the love of god, stop having sex with people who have rejected you romantically. Nothing good can come from it.

    • Thank you. I completely agree.

  • If you're still having sex, you didn't break up. Sounds like you still have feelings for the guy. Maybe you're not intentionally trapping him but...

    • I'm definitely not trying to trap him. I don't know how I feel about the pregnancy but I thought he deserved to know

  • u should tell and let him took the responsibility

    • Thats what I tried to do.. im so mad im absolutely disgusted he's the father. Im tempted to give birth and give the child my name.

    • yeah.. u can't do anything else

    • Thank you for being kind ❤

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  • I would rather be told. But I'd probably ask for a test to be sure its mine.

  • You can't hide it forever

    • Hide it?

    • Pregnancy

    • I'm trying. The dad knows. My dad knows. Just my mother doesn't.

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  • Blows my mind how these a-holes even get women. He just wants sex nothing else, doesn't even think of the consequences. You should tell him, but seems like he asks like a adult baby.

    • He really does. I didn't think he was like that at all. Im extremely disappointed and really hurt

  • Honestly if you fck before getting to know someone and trust someone… then no. If you’re planning to terminate don’t tell him. Of course if you keep it, then yes.

    But men in the one night stand arena are pretty scared of getting “trapped”.

    • We've been off and on for two years. Last time I had a scare he was pissed I didn't tell him

  • It doesn't sound like he would be good father if he won't admit the child is his. You could just cut him off completely and see what he does. But it's better to forget about him and move on.

    • My thoughts exactly thank you

    • You're welcome good luck :)

  • Now you know why it's such an IDIOTIC THING TO DO

  • As a person who wants to have children, I would love to hear that I'd passed my genes on assuming you have the baby.
    I'd even be willing to raise the child.

    • The girl in your life or your future or very lucky.

    • That's good 😁

    • That was supposed to be a smiling emoji...

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  • Thats why we have DNA tests

    • If able to carry full term yes. I doubt he'd pay for one.