Honestly I don't understand this concept and on the poll there really wasn't a choice to select from other than to see the poll because neither apply to me.
Honestly this topic annoys me to no end for many reasons
1ST
I have a huge issue when men (or woman) start whining they are being denied... WHEN they don't have a leg to stand on and in truth the woman (or the man) honestly has a LIGIT reason to not want to be touch by their partner.
2ND
with that said sex is a PRIVILEGE not a RIGHT for a man or a woman! Men or women who believe sex is something that must be given just because you're in a relationship need to get over themselves and get a much needed reality check!
3rd
If sex is being withheld by a woman or a man out of LIGIT spite and ACTUAL manipulation then of course thats wrong. Especially if it's being withheld with out just cause and I'll get back to what I would consider just cause. If the woman or man being denied are a good parnter doing their best to please their SO but they get put down mocked belittled and denied THAT'S WRONG this behavior in my opinion borders on abuse and is plain out hateful.
And this is something I never have done nor would I stand to have it done to me in order to control me (and dont come and tell me men dont do it too... Some men have just as SOME women have)
4th
I need to exclose though I have never used sex as punishment I am guilty if using it as a reward system or as a form of getting what I desire through the act of seduction... In other words the man will be getting laid and I get reward too because he yields to what I want due to me sweetly begging for whatever it is I desire from him as I deliciously love him in every which way as I thoroughly '$#k him senseless.
5th
NOW RETURNING TO MY 1ST issue.
When sex is denied not because of malice nor manipulation but for legitimate reasons emotional reasons or physical reasons. If an individual is ill not feeling well or medically cannot perform then this is not by any means considered withholding sex now if an does want to have sex for emotional reasons whether they are depressed or their partner has done them wrong and has been emotionally upset this is not manipulation this is a legitimate reason not to want to have sex. and if their partner can't understand that and whines complains threathen to leave then this individual is the one in the wrong and they are the abusive one.
The best example I can give for this situation was when my ex gambled over $9,000 which he took from our savings account which was meant to pay the house taxes to remove the lien off our home which we were at risk of loosing and I then angry hurt betrayed wanted nothing to do with him I did not want to be touched by him I was not in the wrong to not want sex from him. Its not me punishing him. It me revoking his privilege to MY BODY. MY BODY!
Sex is a privilege my body is a privilege if he broke my trust and he broke my love I had for him and he's not getting my body he has no right to it my body is only going to be given to a man who is doing right by me my body comes with being in love with someone and with someone treating me correctly with respect. my body will only be given over when there is love respect and trust in the relationship. If a man Abuses me breaks my heart and my trust then he can go to hell. He is not getting sex from ME! IN FACT THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER PRIVILEGES TO MY LOVING BODY IS REVOKED! HE CAN F&$K OFF!
My point sex is a privilege a gift not a right! Its also NEVER to be used as a weapon to hurt someone. It isn't something to be used to abuse a person by withelding out of malice and manipulation. Sex is love respect and trust only!
So very well said!
@krakenattackin Thank you 😉
I've never done this, but when my parents were going through everything that happened before the divorce, my mom mentioned doing something like this. It didn't end up doing anything good for her, it just ended with them both ignoring and avoiding each other and doing things to try and hurt each other. Like, my mom liked to do the morning crossword puzzles in the newspaper and my dad would throw them away before she could. So instead of talking to my dad and trying to figure out how to fix whatever was bugging them, she just got another newspaper delivered. Withholding sex, in the long run, doesn't help any relationship.
Last woman that tried that shit with me. That utterly and completely childish manipulative thing... She found her self kicked from my home and in the streets.. She had to move back in with her parents. This was before i met my wife and i set the ground rules that sex was never ever to be used as a bargaining chip..
Good way to get dumped lol
Unless you were stupid enough to marry her.
Lol I'm taking losses and dumping
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!So I voted no because not having sex is never a result I want. Why would I withhold sex in the first place the idea seems stupid.
I don't use sex as power to get what I want, that is the perfect way to make it not romantic and as act that means little.
I've known people that did this, then wonder why their man suddenly isn't interested in sex and they lost their power.
Either he is getting it somewhere else or he gave up on it.
Any time someone tries to get power over someone else, the other person, usually will try to find a way to remove that and to be free of their control.
That tactic creates resentment that removes a lady from consideration as a permanent partner. It just makes me want to fnd a way to use her, in return.
"See poll."
Heh.
She knows I could very well go to someone else, so she never used that tactic.
sounds like someone can't get laid
at the end of the day he could just cheat so what is the point and I can always do the task my self or pay someone to do it
I once dated a Chinese girl who tried witholding sex before we were even a couple.. After three months of dating - no sex, no physical contact of any kind, including a high five, she tried to pull that stupid stunt. She said she wouldn't sleep with me until a got a place towards her end of town.
I honestly cuoldn't believe it. She had been single for 4.5 years, was lonely as hell, had little social life. She liked me and was planning a relationship with me but blew it with that one comment.
She didn't get the guy, despite having a wide open shot for three months. I have never seen a woman blow it with a man like that before.
That’s never a good idea, some guys might even cheat and go elsewhere
I'd dump a girl who did this. Not acceptable, good bye.
Doing this will only result in anger and resentment.
It works really well in Western culture, because of the simp mentality. I've lived in East Asia, and they don't have simps there. Most all men have "little wives" (mistresses) Is this good or bad? It's not up to me, and I don't care.
So husbands actually prefer when their wives don't want to have sex with them. The wives accept this, but they certainly aren't in a position to use it as a weapon to get what they want.
I was in a bar and I saw a bar girl (hooker) crying. I asked her what was wrong.
I'll tell you the crazy answer if you ask.
Fire away.
That's not just in Asia, in some part of Europe it's considered normal for men too, at least the ones of old wealth. My grandfather and my father had mistresses, their wives just shrugged it as them "being men".
Krak, you won't believe it. She said she just wished that her husband/boyfriend would fuck her once in awhile one-on-one. He refused. It was either a threesome or nothing. Wow! Don't believe me or anything you read on this site or any other site. Save up for a plane ticket and go see for yourself. I'm only telling you this because I think it's absolutely pathetic to use sex as a weapon. Arguing and fighting are normal in a relationship. Take some time to cool down. Later you two will work it out and everything will be fine. But weaponizing sex is the beginning of the end. Just get the divorce.
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