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Last Day of Asexual Awareness Week: My Reflection

This week exists to spread awareness about asexuality and I will do my job to spread more awareness. Here are some common questions and myths about asexuality:

Last Day of Asexual Awareness Week: My Reflection

"What's definition of asexuality?"

It's the lack of sexual attraction. It's not the lack of a sex drive. It's possible to masturbate but not be sexually attracted to anyone. I don't think when I masturbate.

"What's the difference between celibacy and asexuality?"

Asexuality is not a choice. Celibacy is the choice to abstain from sex even though the person wants it. Celibacy is similar to abstaining from the cake that you want to eat but won't because its calories are too much.

"Can you find someone attractive?"

I can find people aesthetically attractive, but never "sexually" attractive.

"Why are you like this?"

It's because I don't experience sexual attraction to anyone. It's how I naturally feel. I don't know and I don't care about what caused me to feel this way. There is that nature vs. nurture debate when it comes to sexual orientation, but it doesn't matter why someone is asexual, homosexual, bisexual, demisexual, sapiosexual or etc. It's not important.

"You think you're too 'good' (or 'bad') to have sex with someone"

Nope, I never felt I was too perfect, handsome, important or whatever to be with somebody. I know for a fact that if I wasn't asexual, I would be getting way more sex than the average man does.

"You need to get your hormones checked"

I did and my hormones were in normal levels. I also exercise which increases my testosterone but it doesn't make me sexually attracted to anyone.

"You're gay and in denial"

Nope, I don't think there is anything wrong about a man being gay and I believe that no one should repress their true feelings. If I was gay, I would've knew it by now and I would've dated guys. Just how a straight guy knows he's straight and a how a gay guy knows he's gay; I know I'm asexual.

About Me

My first reaction to hearing about sex...

#EW #YUCK #GROSS was my first reaction.

How long I knew I'm asexual...

I always subconsciously knew that I don't experience sexual attraction. The idea of me having sex with someone always disgusted me. But, due to the lack of awareness and visibility of asexuality, I never heard of the word "asexuality" until I was eighteen. I was consciously aware of it and accepted it when I was nineteen. It's been almost four years I claimed the label.

Views and attitudes toward relationships...

I'm not interested in relationships or romance, but that doesn't mean that I'm not aware of things like leagues, gender roles, etc. I'm aromantic but there are asexuals who are interested in romantic relationships. They are called romantic (heteroromantic, biromantic, homoromantic) asexuals.

Last Day of Asexual Awareness Week: My Reflection
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  • Great take, thanks for posting. Very informative. I thought I was asexual for a few years but then realized that I'm actually demisexual. It's physically impossible for me to see someone as sexually attractive unless I have feelings for them.
    Maybe I'll write a take on that at some point, seeing as how many people often go "well doesn't that mean most people are demisexual since they prefer having sex with people they have feelings for?" <- completely missing the point and not seeing a difference between "preference" and "this is something I literally can't feel" lol.

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  • I'm asexual, panromantic. I didn't know about the word asexual until two years ago, but i always knew how I lacked of sexual attraction for people. I meant to do something for this week too, but then i had a death in the family and i forgot all about it. Thank you poster for sharing this.

  • Ok. Cool. Does this make forming and maintaining friendships with the opposite sex easier?

    • Damn. Accidentally hit the submit button before I finished. #2. Is it hard to stay aroused during masturbation since you are not thinking about anything sexual?

    • 1. The answer depends on how attractive you are. For me personally, it makes forming and maintaining friendships with the opposite sex harder. Girls can't be friends with me without being attracted to me at the same time. 2. It's not hard for me to stay aroused during masturbation. It's hard for me to stay aroused if I think about anything.

  • Just another new-fangled description of dysfunction. Don't make it a 'thing'.

    • Still not over it, lol. Asexuality is here to stay. I hope you can get over something the has zero impact on you, lmao

    • It is a thing, and it always has been, whether you like it or not.

  • Since when was there an asexual awareness week?

    • Since 2010

    • This the first reading or hear about there being an asexual awareness week.

  • Nope. I dont buy it.
    I dont think men can be asexual.
    I think that there are maybe a few women who can't be sexually aroused unless they are emotionally attached to a man.
    But guys not wanting to fuck anything?

    No, either they have negligible testosterone and other related hormone levels, or they just never developed the sexual attraction part in their psyche.
    Im sure thats pretty rare tough, so im going with " some guys just can't approach women or get laid so they just claim to be asexual".

    • I have a guy friend who gets hit on by girls and he's asexual. He isn't attracted to girls or boys or any other gender. He could get a girlfriend if he wanted to, but he doesn't want to. His hormone levels are fine, everything is fine, that's just how he was born

    • It doesn’t matter if you believe it, you are not important, you have heard of it and that’s all that matters. One down still more to go.

    • @RachelleDraws " He isn't attracted to girls or boys or any other gender." That made me chuckle a bit, what other gender is there? If you are transgender, you are still either a girl or boy. Anyway, you say his hormone levels are fine, im taking he is somewhere around the 16 age range (as you are, and him being your friend). Did he have his levels checked? Becaus most healthy people at 16, have no reason to check their hormone levels. Anyway , i saw a mice experiment thing wgere mice were allowed to grow and populate with unlimited resources and no predators in a limited space (similar to humans are now). They blew up in numbers, till finally they started showing first, deviant sexual behaviours, and later asexual behaviour. I. e , male mice not wanting to mate. If this emergence of asexual men is a real thing, similar like in the mice experiment, then this is a real problem

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  • Why should there be an awareness month over something so asinine as asexuals? Woo-hoo, you don't like sex, who gives a sh**?

    Somewhat recently I saw a pamphlet about "dwarf" awareness month. It's so stupid..

    • Because people don’t know we exist, including a lot of asexuals. Which is a really shit situation to be in, the asexual movement will roll on until everyone has heard of us

    • @shessoheavy Google exists, people can look it up for themselves. And why do you want people to know your sexual preference?

    • If other groups of people can have an awareness month, then why shouldn't asexuals be allowed to have one? It's there for many reasons such as: ☻Promote the realization that sexual and romantic attractions such as asexual, aromantic and similar exist, ☻Help people who fall under these categories understand that they are not broken or alone, ☻Help other people understand what these sexual and romantic attractions are to help dissolve misunderstandings, ☻Promote the understanding that love and sex are not intrinsically linked and that the lack of one does not make the other any less meaningful, ☻Promote the understanding that aromantics can still experience non-romantic love, ☻Spread the understanding of the discrimination and violence that people who fall under these attraction categories face, ☻Help decrease the violence they face such as corrective rape, ☻Help people understand how they can be supportive ☻Advertise support groups for those who might need it

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  • Asexy?

  • I'm Asexual

  • weird orenitation.

  • Do you have any idea what percentage of asexuals are aromantic?

    My impression is that asexual males are more often aromantic? Or perhaps they're not, but asexual males aren't motivated enough to face the rejection of dating, so don't do it much, while romantic but asexual girls get hit on more?

    • 25% of asexuals are aromantic. Being aromantic has nothing to do with how often you get on hit on.

    • That was my point. Asexuals get hit on as much as anyone else. My suspicion was asexuals may do less hitting on others. Since males more often are required to take initiative, my speculation was more romantic asexual women would be dating (having been hit on) than romantic asaexual males (who most of the time would actually have to approach to make it happen).

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