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No, this myTake isn’t a lesson on the birds and the bees (I sincerely hope that anyone reading this take already knows the basic mechanics of sex), nor is this about Salt-N-Pepa’s 1990 hit song by the same name. No, this myTake is about good ol’ fashioned screwing, banging, f*cking, getting laid; Sex.
Sex Differences in Sex
Lets address some important gender differences between Men and Women when it comes to sex. When it comes to "doing the deed", Men and Women are on different pages (heck, even different chapters!). Understanding these differences is key resolving conflicts in the bedroom.
Sex vs. Love: What comes first, love or sex? For Men, sex leads to feelings of love, but for Women, feelings of love lead to sex. This may be why women often feel hurt when the man they have slept with does not reciprocate her feelings, or why men think women become too “clingy” after sex.
Arousal & Satisfaction: This is a major issue for men and women in the bedroom; they are aroused and satisfied at different speeds. Men are quickly aroused and satisfied while Women are slowly aroused and satisfied.
Tension: For Men, The best part of sex is release of tension, but for Women, the best part of sex is the buildup of tension.
Simulation: Lets face it, our bodies and erogenous zones are also different. While Men want immediate direct stimulation in one place, Women want to be touched everywhere, delaying direct stimulation.
Relaxation: Men want sex in order to relax. This is why Men typically need to get-off several times a day. Women on the other had must relax in order to have sex. When a Woman is stressed-out, the desire for sex and the ability to enjoy sex is decreased.
Sexual Prime: Men are in their sexual prime in their late teens to early 20s, while Women hit their sexual prime in their 30s and 40s.
Desire: For Men, desire is dependent on constant hormones, while for Women, desire is dependent on changing hormones. This usually causes issues with libido and ability to perform as we get older.
Orgasm: Men are capable of a single orgasm, while Women are capable of multiple and varied orgasms.
The Difference Between Sex & Making Love
Sex is a biological need for pleasure and/or reproduction. It is a desire for physical contact with another person’s body, irrespective of emotional bond or connection. It is seeking self-gratification; fulfillment of one owns sexual needs. Sex is a sort of appetite; once the appetite as been satisfied, the partner is no longer needed or wanted. In this sense, partners can be seen as objects in a means to an end.
Here is where things get confusing; making love involves sex, but sex is not necessarily making love.
Making love still involves a desire for physical contact, but involves a deep emotional connection and a shared bond that develops between two people; it is a confirmation of love. It is a mutual desire for a unity without partition. While sex is self-gratifying, making love is selfless.
Don't get me wrong, sex is still a necessary part of a couples life, but in my opinion making love is far more fulfilling.
I think this comic by College Humor, illustrates the difference between Sex & Making love very well…
What Girls & Guys Said
6 20About the relaxation part - we need to be relaxed too or we're not gonna perform too well.
And we can have multiple orgasms too if we're really really turned on. It's just not as common as women.
Sex with feelings is better
Im pretty sure women aren't in their sexual prime in their 30s and 40s. Biologically speaking surely it would be in their teens? I think youve put f*cking in a bad light here. Even in a relationship its important to have a balance of both. For example if I've had a particularly stressful day f*cking my girlfriend is a great way for me to relieve that stress. And its the same for her too.
You are incorrect regarding the sexual prime of women. It is in their 30s and 40s. What to you is "biologically speaking" because that is exactly why there in their prime in their 30s and 40s as the hormonal balance changes and the increase in testosterone relative to estrogen occurs. This sexual drive increases. In addition the psychology of sex changes as they get older there is more acceptance of their sexuality as a natural and normal occurrence whereas women in their teens and 20s may be able to run the 400 m dash but they still are relatively insecure regarding their sexual desires as being right versus wrong. Numerous studies support the position of the writer. I do agree that today's woman uses sex as a stress reliever. The misconception mentioned in this take stems from studies long ago when women did not reach orgasm with the frequency they do today. It is not the act of sex, it is the orgasm that is stress relieving
Great take. But that "woman need to be relaxed to have sex" is total BS. I want it when I'm stressed as well and am sure as hell I'm not alone.
You are correct but I believe that both you and the writer are taking this out of context. First of all her information comes from older studies which emphasized the fact that a woman needs trust, acceptance from her guy not being uptight about having the sex. That was interpreted as being relaxed – relaxed about the act of sex, not ashamed or uptight. But that was in relationship to having sex not using sex and the orgasm as a stress reliever. I hope I clarified this and did not make it more muddled.