Link texted to boyfriend’s phone with a sexual screen name link a. sexi. girl?

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

My boyfriend leaves his phone out in the open unlocked. Sometimes he’s left it on text messages or even Instagram messages. I saw a text from a 240 number area code sent to my boyfriend’s phone. 240 is also the same area code as my boyfriend’s phone. It was just a screen name that you could click on. When I clicked on it, the link was broken from being expired. The screen name was a. sexi. girl with a number I can’t remember the full screen name. I actually wrote the number down and the next day called it but there was no answer and I can’t remember if it had a voicemail. I told my guy friend about it and he called it and it did the same thing. I texted the number hi and there was no response. I didn’t ask him what it was. I made the mistake of not telling him and this happened months ago but it’s still bothering me. I think I was scared of the truth. He has had tons of screen shots of other girls in his phone - including porn and real girls like their profile photos and pictures that were normal also. Some were only fans. I did one time confront him about the screen shots of other girls but he didn’t take ownership just said it was in the past before we are daring and they were old pictures. I saw this once accidentally when I went to take a photo of him and my dog sleeping on him. They were cute so I didn’t want them to move. His phone was closest. So I went back to look at the photo I took and I saw tons and tons of photos of other girls and I even saw a girl in there I knew. So with his track record, I wondered what that was.

[ShiftingMonke]

Not to say he is actively cheating, but only throwing this out there..

It's not uncommon for sexual spam mail and texts to be sent out to folks who've not done a good job securing their browsing history. I've got an ancient email address that is a retired burner, and I get plenty of emails from accounts or with subjects like "Sophie💘 want 2 FUCKK" or "KaREN snap nude noW" and while I'm clearly not interested, the foreign men still send them regardless. I've even gotten texts on an old burner phone, with links that redirect me to Nigerian princes or some other scam artist.

Again, not saying your partner is a Saint, just adding that little caveat for the specific situation you cited. Having an OF picture and pictures of women you know is kinda hard to dance away from.

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

Yeah but there’s a reason why he would get a link like that in the first place. I don’t get texts like that. I don’t look at porn. I’m not judging anyone who does. If he looked at porn from time to time but still made me feel truly desired and was committed to the relationship and showing up, that would be different than keeping screen shots and being reclusive from me. But he’s like that with his family he spend a lot of time alone on his days off and I feel neglected he doesn’t what to spend time with me but wants to Jack off to other girls. If I see him once a week I’m lucky. It’s once or twice a month. I’m breaking up.

[ShiftingMonke]

I think you're making the right choice to separate; there's just too much evidence otherwise. I wish you luck and hope things move forward for you. My inbox is always open if you need to vent or otherwise get a second opinion on something. Good luck and godspeed.

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

Thank you! Love and Gods blessings

[CharlieDMX]

It was spam. Your boy likes to look at other naked women and you don't trust him enough to make your relationship work. Bail now before it gets worse

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

Yeah it’s hard to trust someone who has tons of screen shots of other girls in his phone

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

And there’s more to it, he doesn’t want me to know where he lives and there’s a lot of space between us when I hear from him next. I broke up with him. I didn’t tell him I saw that

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

Yeah but there’s a reason why he would get a link like that in the first place. I don’t get texts like that. I don’t look at porn. I’m not judging anyone who does. If he looked at porn from time to time but still made me feel truly desired and was committed to the relationship and showing up, that would be different than keeping screen shots and being reclusive from me. But he’s like that with his family he spend a lot of time alone on his days off and I feel neglected he doesn’t what to spend time with me but wants to Jack off to other girls. If I see him once a week I’m lucky. It’s once or twice a month. I’m breaking up.

[CharlieDMX]

Glad you'll dump his ass

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

Haha

[JJ092003]

With that track record, I'd run girl.

[Iron_Man]

You need to talk to him now

[In_Trance]

Did you ask him?

[JessicaRabbitxoxo]

No. Last time I confronted him about stuff like this, he made me feel like I was the problem. He blamed me for not trusting him and being insecure. I will admit I am insecure in this relationship and that is broken so I do not fully trust him. It’s an appropriate response to mistreatment. I am not sure if I can ever trust him. But I want to know what that was.