Living without Sex?

[parkjlee]

Are there benefits? Oh it’s just crazy

[Xoxocutekitty]

Sex is usually a long standing debate. You dont really need it to survive (think about the many years you were a virgin, wasting oxygen to complain about a lack of sex lol). Sadly, many people feel entitled to it once in a romantic relationship or base their self esteem on their ability to 'get' it.

I think it is natural to want sex (mentally and physically) but sex is often a source of power dynamics where one person may feel that their desire for sex outweighs someone elses desire to 'give it.' Depending on the outcome of the experience for both parties it may end up being, a my pleasure is more important than your discomfort. Or depending on the desire for sex, it may be, if you dont do this, i will act like a child and punish you for your lack of sex.

I guess it all depends on what your definition of sex is, and consent, and how much you value your partner being an enthusiastic and voluntary participant. If your only definition of sex is P in V, then it may clash with someone who is looking for an emotional expressive bonding experience.

Either way, i think we can live without sex. Thats what nuns and monks do. They seem to be okay as human beings

[SueShe]

There are more benefits to being without sex than without.

* extremely high risk of STD/STI infection
* very high risk of being cheated on
* messy
* stinky
* unhygienic
* not very ecological (need to take more showers than usual, thus waste of water)
* need to perform even when you are not in the mood for it
* need to have to deliver/be ready whenever the other wants it
* potential damage to your body (tears, rips)
* having to do things you are disgusted/don't want to perform
* expensive (need to buy condoms and/or female BC with potential deadly risks like thrombosis)
* risk of unwanted pregnancies with associated abortions

There are certainly another number of associated negative issues that all speak against being physical and intimate.

[Agape93]

Hey I was always wanting to know something. May I ask you something personal, or would you rather I not?

[SueShe]

@Agape93 Go ahead

[Agape93]

Are you asexual?

[SueShe]

@Agape93 That's all you want to know? I thought you were going to roast me... It is true that I do not have any sexual relations because I am not interested in them. That's all.

[Agape93]

Why would I roast you? Thats ok :) I was just curious, so thank you for clarifying.

[SueShe]

@Agape93 A lot of people are putting me on the grill because of my opinions :-)

[parkjlee]

Oh nice 👍 opinion

[Agape93]

Hey I won’t judge you for that:) you don’t have to do a damn thing you don’t want to do, and you’re welcome to any beliefs you hold dear. :)

[SueShe]

@Agape93 Thanks, appreciated :-)

[Agape93]

Anytime hon :) if you ever want to talk, I’m just a pm away. No judgement :)

[SueShe]

@Agape93 Thanks

[PrudentGuy]

"Are there benefits?"

Girls replies are almost all about pregnancy; guys about no worry about getting girls.

What an irony of life!

Neither are benefits. Both are worries and excuses, reflecting their insecurities of life.

To me, if one can get a partner that responsibily shares the concerns of life and intimacy, then sex has a lot of benefits, not the lack of.

For example, if the guy is committed and assures her that if she were to become pregnant, he will share the responsibility, like to say the least, marry her.

This will ease her fear and sex will become pleasurable for her.

And when pleasurable sex turns into lovemaking, both will become closer in relation and a partner to share the mundane of life.

This will remove loneliness and make life more productive than a depressed one who needs medication.

These are just a few benefits of having sex, not avoiding it. Hence the efforts to remove the obstacles to sex are worth it.

[justaguy5612]

I sometimes wish I could go without it for simplicity but alas my drive motivates me far too much.

[Agape93]

I mean, you don’t need to worry about pregnancy or stds usually

[Purplemonkey24]

not really. No commitment, no worries of pregnancy or STDs.

[newfreshstart]

so true

[parkjlee]

True that

[In_Trance]

It's a basic human need, so, yes

[Anonymous]

I’ve gone 22 years without it and I could go 22 more.

[SueShe]

... and there is intelligent life here on G@G. Well done :-)

[Opinion Owner]

Yep, thank you 😊

[parkjlee]

Wow 😳 that’s awesome