Long post, but please help? He had sex with me 5 times in a week then stopped?

[Anonymous]

So this guy had been coming into my work for awhile and was always really nice to me and we'd had conversations before. The week of Christmas, he asked for my number and I gave it to him. He is 10 years older than me and I thought he was hot. We texted for a few days pretty much constantly and he was so sweet to me and complimented me and made me feel good about myself. So finally on Christmas eve after I did my Christmas with my family, he asked me to come over. I wasn't doing anything and we live in the same town, so I went. We had a few drinks and talked all night. Then we had sex. I know, I gave it up too soon but it was amazing. And he said I was perfect and tight and just what he wanted. So we continued to keep texting, hanging out, and having hot sex all that week. He had a break from work that week since it was the holidays so I guess he just had more time on his hands. The last night we hung out, he asked me to stay the night with him, and I did. We had sex and immediately fell asleep cuddling afterwards. We woke up still cuddling. It was amazing and I had to go home. When I got home, he immediately texted me and told me thanks for an amazing night and stuff. But after I stayed the night with him, he still texts me good morning and throughout the day, but he hasn't asked me to come over again. He says that since he is back to work, he's busy and there's a situation in his life where he may have to take another job out of town and he told me that he really likes me, but doesn't want to make me feel as if he is using me and he needs time to figure out what he's doing with his situation first before he starts a new relationship. But he still texts me everyday and we still have sexy conversations, like sending pics and videos and stuff. I'm not mad and I'm completely understanding with him, but I can't shake the feeling that maybe the sex wasn't good enough for him and now he's letting me down easy?

[Reece12345]

Please don't worry about this. It's not your fault.

This guy was more about rushing in and getting sex than taking the time to get to know you for who you are and like you as a person.

A lot of the time a guy who just wants to use you for sex will quickly move on after he's got what he wanted.

To avoid this I think it works better if you take the time to get to know a guy and see if he really likes you for those things about you that make you special? If he hangs out with you all the time before you have sex, then you can be more confident that he is interested in a serious relationship with you, and he is less likely to leave you since he likes you so much.

[SnowedIn]

I think that @jpresidente said it exactly right. This guy's into you. Keep texting him and stay in contact with him. Work is so big and that infringes on our ability to connect but I think he's also being smart. It sounds like you both connected on an intense level and the sex was amazing but this guy is smart and is looking at his feelings through non horny eyes -- that's a good thing. Keep connecting with him, and keep ensuring to him that you're not clingy or needy but an awesome woman who gives great sex and underlining to him that he didn't use you -- you wanted and enjoyed the sex.

[Asker]

He ended up telling me he didn't see it going any further and we have not spoken in a long time. Guess he found better pussy. :(

[JPresidente]

I think you're fine. Look at it from his perspective. He likes you, has sex with you and enjoys your company but he has a work issue. If a guy is putting in that much effort, it means he likes you... a lot. I wouldn't overthink it or question it. Take his response as truth but also guard your feelings and don't reveal too much until you have more to go on. You're likely on the plus side of things instead of the negative.

[Asker]

He ended up telling me he didn't see it going any further and we have not spoken in a long time. Guess he found better pussy. :(

[SlavicThor]

He enjoyed the sex, and enjoys you.

I hate to break it but he is seeing other women. Guys like him date women to find the right one to lock him down because we know if we give one woman too much of our love and time at once they loose interest quicker because women love the mystery and high value men. He's probably testing to see how much you like him before he commits to anything

[Asker]

Does this mean that he is seeing other women to see who. he has the best sex with then? He ended up telling me he didn't see it going any further and we have not spoken in a long time. Guess he found better pussy. :(

[peterrezeeek]

probably he is honest and he loves u,