Lost my virginity to my dad's best friend?

That was almost 5 years ago. (Yes, I was 18 at the time) Since then we've kind of been dating, on and off, but my dad knows nothing about it. Recently he's expressed that he wants us to be more "serious", which I'm fine with. But I think we need to tell my dad if we're going to do something like that. It would be hard to hide if things end up working out with us. Don't you think? Any advice? Opinions? Thanks.
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  • Follow what your heart tells you about the guy, you had sex with him at age 18 which could been a hormonal thing caused this to happen. It's been 5 years if you still are seeing this guy on dating terms than this could be a good sign, if you two are just meeting for sexual terms than it's not a good sign but you need to follow what your heart tells you. If your age 23 now your pretty much a adult so you can make your own decisions but it's up to you , if you want tell your dad.

    If the guy is serious as much as you are than he will commit to you, i feel this has just been a dating thing with sexual activity but i could be wrong, really if your into this guy tell him if you are going to be in a relationship than your dad has the right to know where things stand since this is his friend but than I think you made adult decisions when you first two had sex your going to
    have to think this one over.

    • No it hasn't been a strictly sexual thing.

  • How old is this guy and how old are you now? What is your dad's relationship to this guy? If your dad learns that this guy took your virginity at age 18 and that you have been dating for 5 years, he will be hurt that you have been sneaking around behind his back.

    • I'm 23. He's older. They're pretty good friends. My dad helped him out a lot when he was younger and they've been close ever since. I know my dad will be hurt but I'd prefer to tell him now. The longer we wait the more upset he will be.

    • Your father will question your attraction to an older man and will think his friend wants you just so he can have a young sexual partner. That is how most daddies think.

    • Yeah, but I'm an adult. He can be upset all he wants but he cannot stop me. I've tried to stop seeing him several times, but I always go back to him. I think it would be a shame to not try it out, honestly.

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  • It Looks Like the Past that has ended up now to be a Blast, is Flourishing Here, dear, and you and Dad's bud are Having... More in Store.
    I believe that with you both Nursing and Nurturing Something Special, you should Continue for awhile Longer to make Sure it Stays Stronger. No use in Jumping the Gun, hun, by opening up a Can of worms by Bring Daddy Dearest into the Picture, until you Know that you and Joe are Truly into this Real Relationship that Dad, who may get Mad, will just have to Accept or Forever Hold his Peace Pipe in his Hand where he Stand.
    Good Luck. xx

    • Thanks for the Vote of Confidence. xx

  • I imagine it will be a shock to your dad and he might be a bit weird about it but you are 18 and you both want to try so I don't see the problem with it.

    • Well I'm 23 now haha. But yeah.

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  • How old is this man?

    • Older than me. It's irrelevant, really.

    • I'm just curious

    • Like I said, it's irrelevant.

  • HE should have approached your dad BEFORE ANYTHING, now... well... your dad's probably gonna cut off his friends dick or kill him... or both

    • No he isn't, you don't know my dad.

    • don't need too.. ANY PARENT would feel similar

    • Hahaha. I'm telling you, you don't know him. He might be mad, but he isn't going to be violent. That's not him.

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  • Let your dad beat the f out of him then ur good.

    • He's so nonviolent. That would never happen.

    • Well that's what happens when ur a snowflake, your daughter gets deflowered by ur friend bc he doesn't fear you

    • I'm not super violent, but my friends kno I've killed people, have ptsd, and can be a sociopath; so they'd be better just hanging themselves

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  • Go ahead and date him. You're grown and it's none of your dad's business. And if he brings it up, tell him that.

  • Its going to have blood and shit.. what if their friendship got destroy?

  • Yeah tell him.

    Maybe don't mention it's been going for 5 years. Act like it's a couple months in lol.

    • Yeah that's what I was thinking too.

  • Age is just a number as they say. Just curious how old is he?

    • ... older than me.

    • How old? I wouldn't judge

    • Older than me, younger than my dad.

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