Love languages are bollocks, agree?

[purplepoppy]

We've all heard about love languages but i say they're a load of bollocks.

Giving gifts = buying love. You just know any girl impressed with this is a gold digger. Best keep giving us stuff until we find a richer man.

Quality time = doesn't have a job and clings to you like a limpet on the sofa to hide he can't afford to buy you dinner.

Acts of service = ass-kissing. Win our love by taking the trash out. Be our slave in exchange for pussy.

Words of affirmation = can't afford to take her out and shit in bed? No problem just say "I love you" a lot.

Physical touch = hold her head down during BJs and smack that ass in public. Don't forget to show the world your love by groping them tits in the street.

Whole things a con. If you lack attributes girls want like wealth, status and a big dick you can cherry pick the easy ones like 'words of affirmation '. Fat, ugly, tiny dick? No problem just splash the cash and say it's your love language.

Thoughts?

[caring__1]

Love languages are to help you understand yourself better, not to imply you're entitled to anything in particular. Hopefully, we can see our patterns and understand how certain patterns impact us. Nothing is carved in concrete, but this is where we're at right now. Knowing something is important to you and expecting others to change to meet that need will quickly destroy any relationship.

We're more likely to find others respecting our preferences if we feel they're respecting our preferences. Just because I prefer a particular flavor of ice cream, that's not saying others should prefer the same flavor. Knowing a person's preference allows us to do something special when we choose to do something special. If you buy me your favorite flavor of ice cream, that'll be seen as a slap in the face to me.

Once you know what works best for you, stick to those who value the same thing. Knowing I appreciate simple country living, I'm not going to seek out city dwellers who are always seeking the next extreme high. Knowing I don't value material gain, being with someone who feels the only way she can show love is to buy me endless gifts will only lead me to frustration and disappointment. Knowledge and understanding can make life easier. If someone shares their love language, never minimize it by saying that's nothing but bollocks.

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

I agree very much and I think if you really think hard and philosophically about it, a lot our interactions (inside and outside of dating) is motivated by biological evolution to survive and procreate (which is survival of the species). Furthermore nature puts excuses in our minds if we start to question why we do certain things.

For example: People want sex mostly for orgasm. If people only had sex to make children, the human population would be way down or completely gone. Nature TRICKS and BRIBES us into doing things like procreating, even sometimes POSSESSING us. And we are overpopulating because that’s a safer bet for survival of the species than moderating and maintaining a set population. And it really pisses me off because I can’t get mad at nature because it isn’t a being that can receive and register my anger, but clearly nature is also a thing that concerns itself with growing itself as a whole at the expense of the individual beings.
An analogy is our own bodies. We are made of cells, which are living “creatures.” We sacrifice them every day. If you scratch an itch you are killing thousands of skin cells. This is unethical on some level, but it’s nature’s twisted way of maintaining a cycle.
I don’t want to be depressing so, just realize the truth of things and try to improve your quality of life, for reasons that are truly yours and not nature tricking you.

[Leapfrog00]

I never believed any of that myself. Every love is different, and every person is loved different. doing nice things for that special someone should come from the heart. People always have certain type of stereotypes.
I did date a girl before that was a gold digger, and she was happy as long as I bought her things, but that was her. Another girl I dated, when I bought her things, she never expected it, nor did she ever ask for anything. She always felt bad when I spent money on her, and would tell me I could be using the money on something I really need.
Anyway, love someone on how you want, that's what I say.

[BoobSlayer]

You don't go to France and speak English every where you go! It's rude and makes you look stupid.

Similarly, everyone should learn a love language for when they travel to places where women value time, money, touching, and gifts.

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[Potteplante]

I disagree.

[Lliam]

ROFL I agree. It had to be said.
What you said about each one was funny af. Especially physical touch. I can't stop laughing.

[Gent207-2]

You are one sad, miserable human being. On a list of Things to Be Mad about this couldn't rank any lower than one of the Teletubies not being your favorite color.

Have you even read the empirical articles on Love Languages or the book? I did both for an essay during my undergrad for Psychology.

You need to re-evaluateyour positinerary ASAP before you explode at the cashier for not taking your expired coupon, Karen

[richardcory]

I think the "love languages" concept is important. The same thing (say sex, or gifts or whatever) may hold a very different meaning for the two people in a relationship. This can lead to all sorts of communication problems.

[coachTanthony]

They can help create dialogue between partners that allows them to express their emotional needs. Will Love Languages save a marriage or a relationship? No but for couples who aren't in sync these can help bridge a gap and allow a couple to share what is important to them.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Not really.

Everyone shows his love differently, some people buy gifts, others talk a lot, some will spent a lot of their time and most people will do multiple things to express their feelings.

The categories are just a thing to sort different bahaviours into.

[SaoirseS]

Agree.

[Guffrus]

No, I think its quite insightful actually and your tough girl act doesn't fool me, we both know you can't get enough toiling and troubling over your cauldron full of love broth for the right sized golden dick.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

There is no such thing as love language, so of course it is nonsense.

[strateguy632]

first and third about women are true and some lady say it visibly. two depends how many hours per day.

[AviatorTom]

As usual, your insight is correct

[FilmGuy93]

I firmly disagee with your take. I have seen the love languages to be very applicable

[Luopio27]

You are a legend.

[PointTaken]

Your point of view does make sense. It seems would be if the guy had a small dick, he can give the woman lots of money to rent a guy with an actual dick. What's wrong with grabbing a woman's ass or tits to show affection? Words of affirmation come from the poor guys with small dicks? There are some loopholes. Most women it seems like that cash. Lol.

[Mangospacho]

Yes, for the most part they are just excuses to act like idiots. Like when one person is complaining their spouse is lazy and then tops it off with “they know my love language is acts of service”. The guy literally just wrote a book about something he’s seen in counseling and people treat it like it’s the Constitution.

[Ptrmbrs88]

Yes, bollocks! :D

[Tonitos]

Love language is classic example. The owl has a bigger eyes but you my dear have the biggest eyes, I can see the flourish moon twinkling like a star coming from your love shooting my heart with a nipple.

[Anonymous]

I think what a woman wants change on the instant of any type of amount of an emotional change. So it really doesn't matter what she says she wants, just don't buy into the bullshit