Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Do you want to build anticipation and chemistry in your relationship? Do you dream of making him fantasize about you? Do you want him to be crazy with the thought of you even when you are not next to him? Believe it or not, all of these things are not only possible, but simple. You CAN make your man obsessed with you, no matter how long you have been together. Try some of these tactics and wait to reap the rewards.
1. Confidence - There is nothing sexier than confidence, but many of us struggle with feeling confident all of the time. If you want to make your SO obsessed with you, it is vital that you feel confident. If you are struggling with this, I strongly suggest you buy yourself some sexy lingerie, clothes that you feel great wearing, and work on your hair and makeup. It is also important to remember that he does not see all of the flaws that you see in yourself. Most men are so happy to see a woman undress or seriously flirt with him that he only sees the prize in front of him. Remember this, because if you cannot exude confidence, you will never be able to drive him into obsession.
2. Flirt When He is Away - Let's face it... If your relationship resemble that of most modern couples, you spend more time apart then you do together. That is why if you want him to be obsessed with you, you have to occasionally engage him while he is away. The key to this one is a little bit of subtlety. Call him just to say hi and when he asks what you are up to, let him know that you have been trying on something special to surprise him with later, or send him a text message asking him if he prefers lacy briefs or thong underwear. These types of suggestions will intrigue him and spark his imagination. Using these types of tactics often, will keep him constantly thinking of you, whether you are together or apart. The key is to be a little inventive and remember to keep it subtle. Mystery and anticipation are sexy!
3. Eye Contact - When you are together, be sure to keep eye contact with him. Science can even back me up on this one. Numerous scientific studies have shown that prolonged eye contact promotes attraction (see https://coopervision.com/blog/look-love-role-eye-contact-human-connection ). With this in mind, use those peepers to your advantage and get eye to eye with your man as often as possible. Doing so will create both attraction and attachment, both of which play an important role in driving him to be obsessed with only you.
4. Compliment Him - Everyone loves a compliment, but men especially love hearing that they are strong and masculine. Take the opportunity to tell him how he rocked your world in the bedroom, or how his strength is a turn on for you. The better you make him feel, the more he will think about you and associate you with feeling great.
5. Encourage Him to Objectify You - Please understand, I do not mean that you should act like a bimbo, nor that you have to become a beauty queen, but you do need to let your man know that you like it when he thinks of you sexually. Many men feel dirty about sexualizing their significant other because society has taught him that this is wrong. I believe this is the reason why many men who are in long-term relationships with absolutely gorgeous women still turn to pornography. Let him know that you want to be at the center of his fantasies. Better yet, ask him what he fantasizes about and offer to fulfill his fantasies. You will be shocked at how much this turns him on. Finally, be sure to dress sexy in something that is not for you, but just for him sometimes. You don't have to do this all of the time. Satin negligees and sweet little baby doll lingerie certainly has its place in the bedroom, but occasionally, put on some crotchless underwear and a garter belt. He will appreciate the variety and it will give him permission to think of you carnally.
6. Show Your Sweet Side Often - Though lust is an important part of driving him into hysteria for you, showing your sweet personality is also important. Sex is great, but lust alone will not keep him obsessed with you. Be sure to show off your sense of humor and caring nature. Also, keep it classy when you aren't in the bedroom. This will not only help you keep him intrigued and make him eagerly await when he will see your naughty side, but it will help him to be proud to introduce you to his friends or take you to a work function with him.
If you consistently do these things, not only will you have a great time and build your relationship, but it will only a matter of time before he is wrapped around your finger and constantly thinking of you. I know, I have been in my relationship for 13 years. We still have great sex and he still can't wait to see me every day. So have fun tailoring these to fit your style and enjoy driving him wild!
What Girls & Guys Said
15 41If me being me can't make him obsessed I ain't trying too hard tbh
My Take from the different side of the coin:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30642-12-steps-to-seduce-your-girlfriend
The key is to take the initiative and make an effort to keep things fresh and flirty. That goes for both genders.
Nice article, thanks
What can guys do to make girls obsessed with them?
1. Always keep your word. 2. Romance is important, buying us a flower or giving us a card "just because" will almost always be appreciated (Warning: Do not do this for the first time to apologize or you ruin it). 3. Be Confident! We like a man who knows what he wants. 4. Make us feel secure. Tell us the things you like about us. When in a public place, put your hand on the small of our back to show that you are only interested in her and are a little protective of her. 5. Show us your smile and sense of humor! 6. Be assertive when needed. Show us you can take charge in the right situation. I had a mechanic try to rip me off when my husband and I were dating. He left work, came to the shop, and totally handled the situation. Since I literally have no clue about cars and he does, it was awesome. I was left in awe of his take charge attitude and could not wait to show him my gratitude.
I meant to impress girls I don't know or just met, so they give me a chance and I can get to know them.
Be nice and approachable and show confidence. That is about it. We are really rather simple when it comes down to it. Most of the time, if you strike up a friendly conversation with us, we are going to notice you much more than other men in the room.
How do I stand out from other guys that already tried being nice and confident? Complimenting her looks is too general every guy does that, I could strike up a general conversation but that might be only be a friend zone situation at best. What tells a girl this guy is really into me, and gets her wanting to know more about me instead of me looking desperate.
When a guy I don't know strikes up a conversation with me, smiles and makes eye contact, I know that he is interested. It is up to him to show during that conversation that he is interesting. It is also up to him to read my signs (i. e. If I don't make eye contact back and don't smile, it either means "Go Away" or "I do not see you as dating potential."). If a girl gives the right signs, to me, the guy should close the conversation by providing himself with the opportunity to talk to &/or see me again. This can be accomplished by asking when I will be around, asking for my number, or asking if I would like to have dinner some time. If you are friend-zoned after that, it is either because she is not attracted to you (which cannot be changed) or she did not find you interesting enough.
What is interesting to a girl, besides asking her about herself? Like if a guy isn't working or has no friends what should he talk about if job and social life is out? What about guys who don't read signs well (like me), pretend I'm blind, how else can you tell if a girl likes you or not, will she say that in some way?
One word answers with no elaboration are usually a dead give away. You can talk about almost anything. If you are striking up a conversation at a restaurant, you can talk about the service times, food, other great spots in the area, etc. The key is to be friendly and pause to ask her opinion as well.
Ok, yeah I've had the one word answers happen to me so much I was starting to think all girls act that way towards guys. I'm not the best with conversations but I'll have to try harder and hope they don't ask me about negative things.
In marriage yes, outside of marriage is no.
"Encourage Him to Objectify You"
If I love a lady, I wouldn't do that to her UNLESS she asks for it.
But this is quite good :) This will entangle most men to a lady :D
Great take!
Thanks for the feedback!
Obsession is never a good trait it doesn't matter what your obsessed over. It just isn't good. Mentally or physically.
i dont think those "tactics" would work on me. maybe in other men
by the way from where did u come up with all those itens?
Over the years, I have seen my relationship, and then marriage, go through peaks and troughs. I have seen my husband be crazy for me and seen him become very complacent. When he became complacent, I felt like there must be something wrong with me... maybe I was not as attractive as I used to be, maybe after becoming a "mommy" I wasn't sexy any more. Instead of accepting that my marriage would always be that way, I tried various approaches to change it. I tried many different things to reignite the spark, but the things that I listed are the the things that I have consistently experienced a positive return with. In fact, I talked to my husband about the myTake and asked if he felt the same. His response was an undeniable, "Yes!" He said that when I do these things, it makes him not only crazy for me, but more confident in himself and our relationship because I make a special effort to keep things interesting and to connect with him on a different level.
i see. it's nice that u try to make new things ir order to reignite the spark. but age comes and there will be a time that no tactic will ever work to make you sexy for him anymore, except true love
I agree, but to me, part of what builds a close bond and deepens love in a relationship is when you take the time to do things for one another. There is no question that effort goes a long way with me. This is one of the many ways that I put effort into my marriage. I want my husband to know that he is worth the effort it takes for me to acknowledge him and his desires, and occasionally cater to him.
" I want my husband to know that he is worth the effort it takes for me to acknowledge him and his desires, and occasionally cater to him" >> i see. this is the point that is worth in your tactics. this is what u need to mean and make clear to him. it's not those tactics per se that will save ur marriage, but what those tactics really mean, that is, acts of love
excellent
And they wonder why men are going MGTOW... talk about man-ipulation...
Thanks for your feedback, Tony. You actually share my husband's name and are almost his same age. As I have stated in several of my replies, I believe there is a difference in doing something to manipulate and doing something with intent. We want our SO to be intentional about many things... most of us would not like it if our SO showed up for a date in pajama pants every time, but it feels great if they intentionally make an effort to look nice. I do not think that being intentional in keeping a man's interest and attraction should be any different. Manipulation is dishonest, where as doing something with intent is not (unless you are being intentionally dishonest, but I digress). All relationships require work to be successful. A woman making an effort to be nice, have confidence, look nice, flirt with her man, and occasionally indulging his fantasies is not in any way inherently manipulative. I appreciate you sharing your point of view.
Asheslee, I agree with your premiss but there are many articles in women's magazines that are all about manipulation and control. They espouse much of what you do but their intent is highly questionable and seem to be about domination, subjugation and control. I generally stay away from women who wield their sexuality as a weapon. In this day and age the intent doesn't seem to be about love/relationships but mindless self-indulgence and self aggrandizement. You keep a man's interest with your heart and mind. Your body is just a body is a vessel for the soul; it truly is what's on the inside that matters most. Sex is nice but nothing without a deeper connection and meaning. IF you had included that in your post, I wouldn't have much of an issue with your Mytake. "Try some of these tactics and wait to reap the rewards." Lines like this make the intent appear highly questionable and manipulative. Words convey meaning...
Yes, but these tactics include giving heartfelt compliments and showing your genuine self and sweet side. I also never encouraged anyone to use sex as a weapon, so I am uncertain of how this entered the discussion. I only provided some ideas for how to keep a man interested in the bedroom, based on personal experience. Using sex to gain anything except a close bond as a couple and pleasure is always wrong. I never suggested otherwise.
You do have a many good points, my issue is with the general overall tone. Mutual respect and accommodation should be stressed. Many of these same principles can be applied by the gents also. Sex is a feed back loop BOTH can use to increase their connection to a deeper much more intimate connection. Regular sex leads to happier and healthier couples.
I completely agree. I chose not to write about things a male can do because I, honestly, can't give a take from the perspective of a male. I can only provide information on things that I personally have tried and worked to enhance my relationship.
Your tips are great. However, the general tone of your article implies you're somehow manipulative and feel proud of it. You sound like a great villain or something.
Thank you for your feedback. I definitely do not see myself as a villain. I believe there is a difference between being intentional and being manipulative. Being manipulative implies that you trick someone into something by using dishonestly or omission of the truth. Doing something with intent is just that - doing something with or on purpose. We want or significant other to be intentional about many things... buying us a gift, remembering an important date, considering our feelings. Why then, is it wrong to be intentional when it comes to maximizing attraction? If I never did this in my marriage, I am certain that after a certain number of years, we would be in a routine that included very little romance or sex. This is only my take, but I certainly appreciate you sharing your opinion with me.
That woman in the pic is hot.
I'd like to add a spin on the confidence thing yes we guys love confidence but i personally find shy girls just as intriguing and it brings out my desire to 'save them' i'm not saying play the dumb blonde but sometimes let the guy 'protect you'
Tactics? It's like your insulting our intelligence and trying to be sexually manipulative. I can understand what your trying to say, but this seems really disingenuous, and you are only doing these "acts" for some personal fantasy.
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@Felinegirl lol, thanks bitch
You're welcome ;p
Thank you for sharing your point of view. I would like to challenge it, however. We use tactics to get ahead in the workplace, tactics to make our lives happier, tactics to become a healthier person, and tactics to become more financially secure. Why then, is there an issue with using tactics (meaning doing something on purpose, for a purpose) is it problematic to use tactics to increase attraction and attachment in our marriage or relationship? As I have said in other replies, there is a different in doing something to manipulate and doing something with intent. Relationships require effort to reach their full potential. I would Much rather be intentional in tailoring my efforts toward something that will make my husband feel good and be more attracted to me than to simply place effort into the relationship with no thought. This is only my take, however, and I appreciate you sharing your opinion.
I understand that your saying it takes work to sustain a relationship. But you are saying it in a way that is insinuating that you need to prey on men's biological weakness to women's sexuality in order to keep his interest. We aren't stupid, and if you are using planned strategies, it will push us away cause you are trying to use our sexual urges to get us to desire you, but not because you want to fulfill our needs. You shouldn't require any "tactics", we will naturally fall for you if you are genuine and care about our needs. I'm not saying you shouldn't think about ways you can improve a relationship, but this take just screams being fake and manipulative. Your methods may not be wrong but your mentality is, in my opinion.
Nice try. Your manipulation "tactics" won't work on me.
Awesome take
Great overall, but I keep in mind that the guy still has to do some effort to maker HER crazy about him!
I completely and totally agree! A one-sided relationship is never a good thing.
I love this mytake!
That's a brilliant take