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Isn't "making love" just another euphemism of "having sex"? On the surface, it seems to be. But there are huge differences in emotions, intentions and possibly circumstances and settings.
Let's compare and contrast them.
Lust vs Love
One fundamental motivation for sex is lust. Defining positively, "lust" is the motivating force that moves us to desire the opposite gender. It also creates the "initial spark" that ignites the fire of romance, which in turn leads to the desires for physical intimacy and eventually sex.
Love, on the other hand, is an unselfish instinctive principle within us human to be kind, compassionate, understanding, patience and forgiving. Love defiles the "survivor of the fittest" theory because love can motivate a person to die for another, hence separate us from beasts. It also create the concept of "moral", setting us humans above and beyond all other creatures on earth.
With the definitions for "Lust" and "Love" above, "having sex" could then be as crude and mechanical as thrusting a penis in a vagina, which often results in one or both feel used and objectified; or (when motivated by love) is an act of intimacy which binds not just their flesh, but also the hearts and souls of the couple.
The same mechanical acts of thrusting a penis in a vagina now motivated by love becomes "lovemaking", a process where the couple manifest care for each other and look intently at satisfying the desire of the mate than oneself. It is the manifestation of the Giver's caring spirit, the willingness to share, the desire to please and the unfailing commitment to the Receiver. The Receiver, in turn reciprocates by being vulnerable, desire to give back in kind, and accepting the Giver as a lover.
To this end, the act of having sex and making love are the same. But the former merely satisfies the flesh and possibly objectifies another; while the latter enhances love, creates stronger bond and trust and promotes greater intimacies between the couple.
In short:
Body vs Mind and Heart
Having sex is very physical: The guy needs a release and the girl needs an orgasm. So they f***.
A couple may have sex anytime, anywhere - in a car, inside a toilet, when one is sleepy, when one just need cash, when they may not even know each other's name......
Making love, on the other hand, is romantic and full of emotions.
The location is meticulously selected; flowers, scent, lighting are carefully set; wedding day, birthday, or Anniversaries are planned; the couple know each other deeply and love each other dearly; It's not just for the sake of getting a climax, but enjoying the process - the process of stimulating each other, touching and kissing each other, delicate intimacy with the loving intent of satisfying the other. The climaxing sex is not the journey. Instead,
How to Make Love?
It's easy to have sex. All you need is to watch some soft porn and obtain a copy of the Kama Sutra.
For a guy, you just need to know how to put on a condom and then use some lubricant and where to insert your penis.
For a girl, if you're a virgin, just lie on your back and open your legs. Tell the guy you're a virgin and if he's experienced, he'll know that to do.
To make love is a lot more complicated.
First, there is a need for love and affection. The manifestation could be a home cook meal, or a candlelight dinner. Kissing, hugging, caressing could be some form of intimacy, but may simply be a manifestation of lust. True love waits, true love endures.
Next is the showing of trust and vulnerability. The manifestation could be the putting away of shyness and overcoming body-image related inhibitions. It is not about being slutty, but about trusting and reliance on your sex partner.
Finally, making love involves commitment. When two hearts join together, breaking apart is very painful and may result in severe depression, some even suicidal. So the level of commitment is absolutely exclusive. The "just you and me" kind of feeling will result in the feeling of security and comfort, removing much awkwardness when the bodies are bare.The manifestation is not about saying a lot of "I love you", but about being honest and sincere and believe that the relationship is for a lifetime rather than a short time.
Conclusion
Lovemaking is the super-set of sex. It's not about carnal pleasure, although sex is the physical climax of lovemaking. It's all about joining two souls as one, where the thoughts, emotions and flesh of the couple are bond in true intimacy over a lifetime. Although today's "liberated" world overly exult sex, wise individuals seek out the super-set of sex and find contentment in life, not just momentarily, but lifelong. Sex will grow stale with age especially when the body fails and carnal acts no longer bring about carnal pleasures. But love will endure, no matter how much wrinkle a person has or how incapable the partner's physical body refuses to perform.
This is the difference between having sex and making love.
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