Making love or Fucking?

What's the different between these two types of sex? I ask because many people use one or the other and I wonder in what context they use it in. Is there a difference to when your making love to someone compared to when you fucking them or do both things essentially mean the same thing? Also which do you prefer and which one do you use when like do you make love, when your with someone who you are emotionally connected with and fucking for more of a physical/ sexual thing?
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  • Well, okay... way back in Chaucer's day and for a few centuries thereafter, "fucking" referred to full vaginal intercourse until the man climaxed. "Swiving," in contrast, referred to vaginal intercourse where the man pulled out before climaxing. Taken together, both verbs were rather a veiled reference to the Rhythm Method.

    In modern times, "swiving" has loosely morphed into "screwing" or "shagging," though the coitus interruptus significance has largely evaporated.

    Also, today "fucking" has become associated with a more vulgar sense of sexual coupling where lust is in the motivation and emotional involvement and relationship commitment matter little or not at all. But "making love" is associated with the precise opposite... where love is the motivation and both emotional involvement and relationship commitment are of the essence.

    Consequently, making love should be thought of as a leisurely paced, personally romantic and intimate expression of emotional connection for each other by a couple, whereas fucking should refer more to the basic animal sex act that may be rushed, wanton, indiscriminate and often impersonal.

  • The other folks said: making love is when there is a deep emotional connection, and you are doing it in a way where you are very "connected" with the other person, often looking directly into their eyes, being very sensual, and usually a bit more slowly and gently.

    Fucking is raw, hard, animalistic sex, when you are doing it purely out of lust and for the sake of the pleasure it brings the two of you. It's often faster, harder, more extreme, more "dirty" (in a good way), and more hedonistic. Because there is less (and sometimes no) emotional connection, you don't need to worry about that aspect of things, and you can focus on the more primal aspects of sex, and the raw pleasure.

    Both types of sex are good, and most people enjoy both - there's a time and place for making love and for fucking. I definitely like doing both, choosing one or the other depending on the mood and the circumstances.

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  • making love is love... between lovers. its hot, intimate, deep feelings, lots of orgasm... its just a whole different thing...
    fucking is just like hooking up... usually there are no feelings... just drunk sex...

  • To me, making love is slow, sensual, connecting on a spiritual level in addition to a physical one. Fucking is the raw, animalistic sex... good for releasing pent up frustration. Usually the pace is faster.

    I like both, With a slight edge to making love. Both are used for women I love on a deep emotional level. I can fuck a girl and love her deeply.

    To me, sex is a term that can mean being emotionally involved or not.

  • Making love is when there's also an emotional connection. i. e. they actually love eachother. Like a good Christian marriage, for instance. It's the difference between sex in a romance novel and sex in a p*rno .

  • Fuck the bitchy ones, make love to the wife material ones

  • Making love occurs at the Hilton where you get a late checkout and snuggle. There are rose petals on the bed, and you take a break to go downstairs and have a leisurely breakfast. Phrases like "I love the way you feel" and "I love you so much" are in the air. Each session lasts over 45 minutes, and most of that is foreplay.
    Fucking occurs at the movie theater where you get a ticket to a shitty movie on a Tuesday afternoon. There are M&Ms on the floor, right where the butter stains are. At least you hope that sticky stuff is butter. You take a break to laugh at how bad the movie is, and then round two is during the credits---hopefully you come before the usher does. Phrases like "ride that cock baby" and "I am gonna cum in your ass" are in the air. Each session lasts less than 3 minutes, and most of that is cleanup.

  • I can define three categories of intercourse - lovemaking (sweet, slow, passionate), sex (everyday, general positions like missionary etc) and fucking (animalistic screwing, trying new/kinky things). They all depend on moods.

  • Making love is softer, quieter. More intimate

    Fuxking is harder, faster, furious