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Over the course of several decades of observation, sexual and non-sexual interactions with many women, countless conversations with both men and women, and lots of education and learning, I have reached a few conclusions about the concepts of Male/female gender roles, Dominance/submission and gender equality. I will begin by sharing my conclusions and then I will explain how I came to them.
To begin, it is my experience that most males are naturally dominant and most females are naturally submissive. There are, of course, exceptions, but I believe this is the norm. I also believe this norm is what nature intended. As for gender roles and equality, let me just come out and say it - males and females are not equal. Now I know that some will, no doubt, take issue with this comment, but try to keep an open mind and hear me out. So here is how I came to these conclusions...
As a general rule, when males and females are born they are not equal, but different. Males are born with over twice the muscle mass of females, while females are born with over twice the fat cells. Males are also born with denser bones, a larger skull, and a larger brain. All human embryos begin with the same “equipment“, and that equipment is essentially female at the start. It is the Y chromosome that causes the embryo to go a step further and develop into a male. What would become the clitoris becomes the penis and joins with the urethra. What would be the ovaries become testicles, and what would become the outer labia of the vulva forms into a scrotum and seals together down the middle, which forms that little scar down the center of all guys’ balls called the scrotal raphe. So, even from the very beginning, inside the womb, males and females are not ‘equal’. Beyond that, generally speaking, males are genetically and physically larger, stronger, faster, and far more physical and aggressive than their female counterparts. From a brain standpoint, males are inherently more adept analytical thinkers. Whereas females are far more skilled at intuitive, multifaceted thinking. Obviously, there are exceptions to all this, but again, generally speaking, this proves to be the norm where men and women are concerned. It is my conclusion that the reason we men and women are made the way we are is for the sake of procreation. The design of our genders is on purpose and goes back to the beginning of our evolution as a species...
Primitive Sexuality
In order for us to propagate, the primitive male needed to be strong enough and fast enough to “overcome“ a primitive female for the sake of breeding. Another propagation characteristic of primitive males is the primal need for the male to “breed“ with more than one female, thus “spreading his seed“ and further propagating the species. Whereas the primitive female was imbued with the “homing/nurturing“ instinct, for the sake of protecting her offspring and, again, helping to procure the propagation of our species. These inherent physical characteristics remain with us today. What has changed is our intellectual social norms. In my observation it is this “primitive wiring“ that often conflicts with these social norms that expect or require sexual monogamy. This is why over half of all marriages fail, I believe. Many men ultimately fall prey to their internal, primitive wiring for propagation and wander outside of their monogamous relationships. I also believe this inherent conflict creates a fair amount of sexual frustration for many men. So, to reiterate, from the beginning of human evolution, to our beginnings in the womb, males and females are not “equal“. So, this is where I need to make a clarification. I am not at all implying that men and women should not be treated as equal partners in modern society. They most certainly should. Men are not better than women and women are not better than men. Each gender deserves equal respect, while also understanding the reality that the two are not equally made. Men and women are not the same. We are different. And that is natural, and intentional. This is where public social gender roles, and biological, genetic, and physical gender roles diverge. And this is where the concepts of sexual dominance and submission come into play. Let me elaborate...
The Art of Sexual Attraction
The modern social norms that require “equality“ between the sexes ignore and belie our primitive wiring for propagation. Thus, a woman who, in her public life, wields significant power and perhaps, even an alpha personality, often secretly desires to be “taken“ sexually by an assertive, dominant man, and rendered submissive. I have encountered many women who find that they are most sexually aroused when they are in the submissive role with a man. Sexually dominant women are the exception to the rule, and it is my sneaking suspicion that many are mostly entertaining a “kink“ as opposed to experiencing their naturally submissive sexual nature. I should say here that I do not view female sexual submission as an admission by a woman of her inferiority to men. On the contrary, I see it as a natural and beautiful expression of acceptance of her female sexuality, and I find that women who embrace it feel, ironically, sexually liberated. Another vestige of our primitive sexuality is the inherent desire in women to attract male sexual attention. That, again, is part and parcel of the female wiring for propagation of our species. Primitive females, like their male counterparts, wanted sex. They wanted to breed. As such, the female wanted to attract male sexual interest. That remains with us today. You can see it in the myriad of ‘tools’ our society has constructed for women to attract the highly visual sexual attention of men: colored lipstick, makeup, high heeled shoes, plunging necklines, pushup bras, revealing swimwear, short skirts and shorts, lingerie, thongs, fishnet stockings and so on.. all things women don and wear to make them look more attractive. It is significant to note that most of these items are not entirely “comfortable“ for women to wear, but most do it anyway. The ultimate result (and subconscious intent), is male sexual attention. Again, the primal urge is still with us.
In Conclusion
In conclusion, it is my assertion that the majority of males are sexually dominant and the majority of females are sexually submissive, naturally speaking. And when men and women interact sexually in that way, we are tapping into the most primitive and pure vestiges of our sexuality. In modern times, we may certainly experiment and play with sexual roles and role reversal. This is all part of the fun of sex! But I believe we are most true to our inherent gender sexuality when the male is in the dominant role and the female is in the submissive role. Speaking for myself, I can tell you there is nothing more sexually exciting to me than expressing myself dominantly with a sexually liberated submissive woman. And I do not look down on her as “inferior“ for being true to her natural sexual submissiveness with me. On the contrary, I find it incredibly sexy and strong! And lastly, I want to reiterate that, by stating that males and females are not “equal“ I am not implying that one or the other is inferior. I am simply stating that males and females are unique and beautifully different in their innate sexual gender roles and that what we think about gender equality in public society does not always align with the inner truth of our natural gender sexuality.
I would love to hear articulate thoughts and comments from members of both sexes about this ‘My Take’!
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