Male friend alway gets a boner when we hang out?

It's probably not because of me but what are some things that can cause a guy to get a boner?

We've been hiking, shopping, the movies, the beach, driving around, walking etc and he's always shifting and I see his bulge getting bigger. When he thinks I'm not looking, he tries to adjust it.
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  • It could be one of these reasons:

    # Explanation 1
    He hasn't had any sexual release for a long while. One way or another the build up sperms has to come out. This sometimes leads to unexpected and involuntary penile erection. This phenomenon explains while some guys experience wet dreams.

    # Explanation 2
    He finds you sexually attractive. The sight of a woman's hips, butts, breast, cleavage, face, and smiles can cause involuntary penile erection. It's for this you probably have heard guys are too visual when it comes to attraction. The theory that guys are too visual has been proven invalid (see explanation 3).

    # Explanation 3
    Guys do not choose to crave sex or to have sexual urges at the sight of a woman. Your male friend like any guy is biological programmed with a sexual tendency to compel him to initiate sexual advances towards a female. It's nature design to compel the male to mate with a female in order to preserve the human race.

    • Honestly I think it's because he hasn't had a girlfriend for a couple months now. It seems like he's kind of sexually furstrated. One time he sent me a picture of his stomach on his bed at 2am

    • By the way thank you for the advice :)

  • I only see one common denominator in those situations and it's you. If it's happening when you are walking around and moving I would say he is very turned on.

    • But like don't some guys randomly get boners

    • yes some guys do get random boners but it stops being random when it's every time he hangs out with you. At least for me if I'm walking around I need something to turn me on before i get hard. Is it a problem for you? Do you want to be more than friends?

    • I don't see him like that at all. I guess I'm indenial about him being attracted to me. He has never denied it when people ask if we're dating or when they say we make a cute couple he stays quiet.

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  • When you say it probably isn't you I would suggest that it most likely IS you, lol. Guys do get random boners from time to time but not constantly around the same person. I'm guessing he is thinking about you in certain ways, particularly if you are up close to him at times.

    • Well especially when we're hiking, it's harder for him to hide it since he wears basketball shorts. Maybe it is.. thanks for the advice

  • I'm guessing it's exactly because of you. Just ignore it.

  • Are you offended? I think he finds you attractive.

    • It's not that I'm offended like I try to pretend I don't see it but he always has one. Like if we hang out he gets about 5-10 boners every single time

    • Seriously, you should be flattered. I'd take it as a compliment. You must be attractive!

    • Hahaah thank you. Okay really awkward how he just texted me 😂

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  • Yea he probably gets turned on by you but values the friendship too much to make a move. Sounds like a really cool friend.

    • He does get touchy a lot which I don't like and he knows I don't see him like that which is probably why he doesn't try to do anything more. I just assumed he's a touchy guy

    • Well he's either a touchy guy or that's what he needs to sort of get enough of his "fill" I don't know does that make sense to you? Like if you spent all your time around someone who you thought was really attractive and you COULDN'T kiss them or even bring up the idea, wouldn't you want to just grab them sometimes? Just to hold you over? I think it's probably harmless and you really shouldn't think that much of it. It sounds like you keep the perfect distance from him where you can both be satisfied with the relationship you have. Eventually he'll get a girlfriend and he's either gonna stop or you'll find out that he really was just a touchy guy after all.

    • Yeah I'm not trying to think too much of it. It's probably just a guy thing. Thanks :)

  • When a guy is around a female friend, he may get a boner, just from looking at her as she is in a certain position, or talking about something that is somehow arousing, etc. That doesn't mean he wants in her pants. It's just a normal male reaction to certain stimuli, and it doesn't need to be intended stimuli. He can still see you a friend, but he's also a man. What makes things different in what you describe, is that he is 'always getting boners'. Occasionally getting a boner is one thing, but very frequently is another. He is apparently physically attracted to you, and is beyond being just a friend. Bottom line. If a male friend occasionally gets a boner around you, it doesn't mean much. If he gets a lot of boners, he looks at you as more than a friend.

  • It's you...

    • But don't u get random boners sometimes

  • He might just get random boners often but there is a possibility he is highly attracted to u...

    • That's so weird how guys could get random boners... but it's possible

    • Yea there not fun lmao. If u see he has one let him chill there for a moment. If he walks around with abiner the pants can actually stimulate it and make it harder to go away

    • Yeah I never point it out but I guess sometimes it gets pretty hard that it bothers him. He tries hiding it while we're talking face to face or gives up and puts a jacket on top of it.

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  • I don't know what to think about that. But every time I met with a girlfriend, if she had hard nipples, i'm leaning towards compliment. But, that can also be very awkward in either situation. In public, that could be embarrassing. You can't exactly turn that off... I would confront him with it and say that it makes you uncomfortable.

    • I am also assuming that you know for sure that he has a boner.

    • Yeah I don't want to confront him about it. It would just make it awkward. He can't help his boner. It's just annoying that he always gets one whenever we hang out

    • well it will happen eventually, it can't stay hidden forever and at some point somebody else is going to notice. Hopefully that will be less awkward if it comes from someone else

  • Obviously he's into you... all the "reason" you need!!

    • But don't you sometimes get random Boners sometimes

    • If he's getting them this often... they aren't random. Random boners are like one you get in class for no reason.

  • He must really like you.

  • Do you flirt with him or tease him, that may cause this?

    • Nope I don't. He knows I don't see him like that. One time i was fixing my jacket around my waist and I looked up to see him looking at me. He was drunk and he has said he gets touchy when he's drunk so that was probably the reason why.

    • Guys can also see something sexual in almost any situation, too... plus, being drunk would have helped (or warped) his perception of reality, too...

    • Yeah that's probably it

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  • He wants to smash OP

    quit cucking the poor guy

    • Haha no he's just a friend

  • Just the things you say and if he thinks you look sexy

    • But don't you get random boners sometime?

    • Yes, but if it's happening regularly when he's with you then it's highly likely that it isn't random in this instance. BUT this does not necessarily mean that he thinks any less of you or even that he wants to sleep with you.

  • maybe your wearing less clothes?

    • Nope. I'm fully covered

    • then maybe he likes you and he thinks about sexual stuff when he's hanging out with you

  • why do you think it's not because of you?

    • I don't know. I just can't see him like that. He's my friend. Has been for a long time now but, now that I'm thinking about it, he is really touchy

    • being friends doesn't mean that he can't be sexually attracted to you. Guys fantasise about their friends too. People always say "guys get random boners"... but if I look at myself, boners without any visual or physical stimulation or any special thoughts are extremely rare. Yes they can happen, but if they happen regularly when he's around you then I'd assume that it might have something to do with you. in my opinion more likely than just random boners

    • Honestly you're right. I was indenial about the whole thing but , now that I'm reading some comments, I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me. Nothing wrong with that. You can think a friend is cute and not want to date them. Hopefully that's the case because I don't see him like that. people have said that we make a cute couple or asked if we're dating and he's always quiet about it. I always deny it. It's annoying.

  • You keep asking about guys getting random boners. It does happen, but not real often in non-sexual situations. So if it happens a lot around you, then I'd say it's not "random."

    Why is it you always seem to notice it? You have to be looking for that in order to see it, don't you?

    • No my friends point it out and he makes it obvious when he tries to hide it.

    • That is a little weird I guess. I don't recall ever seeing a friend have a boner in any situation. But maybe boners are more accepted nowadays compared with back in my time? lol

    • Yeah I don't point it out or make him uncomfortable. It's normal

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  • Guya get random boners. Its natural

    • Hah yeah I figured

  • take it as a compliment.

  • LMAO.. i get boners all the time.. the question is... do you like it when he gets a boner?

    • It's kind of flattering to know that you can make someone get a boner but i don't know. Like I'm hoping it's just a random biner

    • *boner

    • What are you doing when he gets a boner? ever rub against it?

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  • So what? Are you jealous that you can't have a boner?

    • Haha no I was just wondering if guys can randomly get boners from time to time

    • Duh that's natural in fact boners are not controllable.

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