Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
As I’ve attempted to explain before, males have a very specific behavior. So when it comes to female behavior, that constantly proves itself to be in the opposite direction, baffles men and leaves them feeling either frustrated or disappointed.
One of the things I want to analyze a bit more specifically, is something that I’ve seen a lot here on GaG, which is men paying (what a female would think of) too much attention to the number of dates, casual sex partners, and relationships of a woman they might feel attracted to.
Sex history is simply something we as men pay close attention to, and it should to an extent. At the same time, we need to understand why we shouldn’t compare ourselves to the number guys the girls we like have been with. Either that be sexually or in relationships.
So one thing needs to be clear, and I know I’m repeating myself over and over, but men need to know a woman’s nature conditions them to be very directional, and every decision they make comes out from achieving (consciously, or subconsciously) their biological imperative.
Now, not every man a girl is with will drive her to her destination, and those men I’m talking about are the guys they have casual sex with. So why do girls have casual sex with, then?
OK, so I mentioned this in one of my previous takes, and one of the female commenter's felt attacked when I said the following: Girls need to be developed sexually, and emotionally. Yes, it sounds a bit harsh to say that, but it is accurate nevertheless.
Not all girls engage in casual sex, but a large number of them do. Some women simply haven’t experienced great sex with a man, and many of these girls don’t even see men in a sexual light. Some even go to the extreme where they pick their partners, specifically for committed relationships, and never even consider either physical appearance or sexual prowess from their man.
These girls are fully capable of seeing/dating men who they don’t even find physically attractive, at most think of them as OK. These girls I’m talking about, of course, are sexually underdeveloped girls.
This is the girl that meets a man, and then gets to know him, and realize he will bring utility to her; Remember it doesn’t mean necessarily money, could also be something a bit deeper as emotional fulfillment to her, to something incredibly superficial like having a car and drive her on the weekends, to even something professional, he stimulates her professionally or is able to open her career doors, etc. And after she sizes him up, then and only then she has been developed to have sex with him, whether she is actually interested in having sex or not.
Other girls, though, are very developed sexually. And these girls are the ones who engage in casual sex, because they are fully aware that a man can actually give them great sexual pleasure. These girls don’t go around living thinking sex is overrated and that good to great sexual pleasure can take them to either healthy relationships or simply one-night stand fun.
There might be a middle point to girls that are sexually developed, but are aware they might get clingy or develop either an emotional, or sexual addiction towards a guy fast, and she will guard herself for guys in relationships.
They may not see sex as pure pleasure, like other sexually developed women do, but they might look something more than that because they might be aware sexual enjoyment won’t get them very long, and they must protect themselves from not getting to their direction.
These things are related to personality, and their willingness to open that side of themselves to men.
But as I mention before, men have a bigger part in being able to develop women, and give them great sex. Unfortunately, many men just hop like dogs on girls and do their thing without ever showing passionate lovemaking, or without having the ability to translate emotion and strength, and all these things that make sex as an intense experience, towards a woman.
In very, very crude terms, some men just thrust their dicks in and out from a pussy, and make the sexual experience as something empty, and they are simply masturbating inside of a hole.
OK, whatever; So why then, the number of guy’s girls have had sex with doesn’t matter to them?
As I mentioned previously, guys usually get validation by getting female attention. Guys who brag about having sex with many women, or brag about all the girls that give them the time of the day, whether they think it’s because it may give them a good social impression (which to an extent, it does), it goes down to females validating their masculinity, from a biological point of view.
These men definitely have enough confidence and are physically attractive enough to attract females, so they are successful in validating themselves that way. Whether they ever show interest in long term relationships, or a desire to settle down in the future, that is their current way of feeling validated without attempting to receive love, or without going to the process of loving, offering protection and security to a woman.
Not all men are able to be with many women. In fact, the majority of men, as we have seen, have a low or moderate number of women they have slept with, or be involved in relationships with. To these men, generally, the number of sexual partners her loved or potential loved one has had is more important.
Now, a lot of women tell these men they are “insecure”, and to their defense it’s partly truth. Personally, the number of failed relationships a woman has had is very important, and the reasons to why they didn’t work may tell a lot to any man what kind of woman he has on his side.
But the actual number of sex partners, though anyone can freely ask for that question, shouldn’t be as much of a concern to you, because from a woman’s point of view it simply doesn’t matter.
Many men project some sort of porn fantasy into the women they are with, in which he wants to be her favorite fuck, doesn’t desire to be compared, or wants to be “her first one”. Other men, have a more romantic fantasy in their head, in which they want to be “her only one”, and the only guy she has invested an emotional situation with.
But to their surprise, and disappointment, women do not care about the quantity, they care about QUALITY. As I said, women are very directional creatures, and they DO NOT get in relationships because of giving love, and being romantic to their men, whether they can actually develop love or not once they are IN a relationship may be debatable, but that isn’t the reason why they get involved with men.
“What is his name again?... John, Patrick, Bryan, Stewart… Doesn’t matter, what can he do FOR me?”
The things they consider about their men is the only thing that crosses a woman’s head when she gets into these relationships, and even to a lesser extent casual sex; Because after all, they’ll be getting the pleasure they were looking for at that time before deciding to settle down.
So the answer is that, precisely. What did/do that man gave/give her during that period or moment in time. That’s all what matters to a woman.
To them it’s indifferent because whether she has been to a hundred guys, or merely three or two guys it means EXACTLY the same to her. It’s not about quantity, because their biological imperative drives them to look for SECURITY for her, and her potential offspring. The quantity of men who she has been with does not validate a woman.
Men are wired, biologically speaking, to spread around their seeds. Find as many females as they can possibly get to mate, so numbers mean a whole different thing for a guy. So men are focused on variety of women, not very differently than sitting at home, and stream many porn videos, complying many sexual fantasies with many different girls. But women, because of their systemic and directional nature, only see quality, and features that equal success in a man.
So next time you meet a girl, please take this in deep consideration because for women "the past is the past", and that’s the exact line she’ll say, because they know quantity will reduce her sexual value in a man’s perception, and because she actually means it.
They don’t care how many men they’ve been with, but what did they offer them, and to what point did those men take them. All until the next step is finally clear, and the best possible option (the man) is available to them, and lead them to that other objective.
What Girls & Guys Said
15 15Women can sleep with who they want to a degree. Many average girls have hooked up with very good looking guys with ease. Men who aren't in the top 20-30% looks wise have a more difficult time. If I found out a nice girl i was dating used to sleep around with all the so called 'alpha dudes' all the girls are sleeping with... yes that would lead to me likely ending it. You can judge women easily based on their sexual history.
And that's fine, everyone has preferences. 😊
Someone else asked a question concerning the whole difference between men and women when it comes to number of sex partners. I'll copy a part of what she wrote: "Back in high school, there was this bully, big ugly fella, who fucked a girl. Knowing he did that apparently turned a lot of girls on, since about 7 other classmates (including me) suddenly thought he was nice and gave our virginity to him. Another example, at my cousin's wedding, there was this guy, a colleague/friend of the groom, who had this group of guys laughing, high fiving him while a picture of the bride and bridesmaids was taken. I thought he was an asshole when he first winked at me, but then I asked why he and his friends were laughing. Apparently he fucked all 6 bridesmaids in the past year and the bride a couple days before the wedding (yes it actually happend and I know that's pretty fucked up). I hated him but I just couldn't ignore that knowing that turned me on big time. At the party, suddenly all the girls were trying to talk to him, and yes, I got a little too drunk and let him into my hotelroom that night. I of course felt ashamed and hoped no one found out. Too bad the entire hotel heard us. So how come this turns me on? Is it something instinctive? Or like the forbidden fruit kinda thing? Because you know it's dangerous and "naughty"?"
Thought it was kinda interesting.
great take
this is why I can't trust women
Ah, but what happens when a man gets with a sexually undeveloped woman who isn't very attracted to him... And the sex never becomes developed to a satisfying level for either of them? I read that a lot on GAG.
Thinking that they will definitely have the chemistry together for her to "unlock" sexually because he offers her security or convenience is a far fetched fantasy.
I'd suggest for no guy to try to make a woman a long term mate who he needs to "convince" to be sexual with him - with the exceptions of religious coupleswho may need time to grow sexually since its been forbidden.
Right, then it will become a problem because male seek both validation and satisfaction through sex. If he isn't able to develop sexual chemistry with her, and she either keep repressing herself or simply isn't getting pleasure from it the relationship will not be sustainable. "Thinking that they will definitely have the chemistry together for her to "unlock" sexually because he offers her security or convenience is a far fetched fantasy. " Many women do not have sex or ever develop a wish to do so even, unless their partners commit to them. Where is the fantasy there? "I'd suggest for no guy to try to make a woman a long term mate who he needs to "convince" to be sexual with him" I'm not advocating that either. I'd suggest men to date women and evaluate themselves the sexual chemistry and their sexual views so they can be satisfied with them.
Do that many healthy women not have a natural sex drive? I don't think I've known many. I'm always skeptical of that. As far as commitment - I can see those who wait for full intercourse, as it causes babies. But passionate kissing can be an indicator of sexual chemistry and desire. And is perfectly safe! :)
A lot of them don't, I've come to realize. If we want to get very personal here, a girl I was with even cried because it was the first time she ever orgasm with a man. And she admitted she had no idea how was that even possible. Not to throw flowers at myself, but fuck did it felt good. Talk about validation, huh? Yes, that is understandable to do so, too. It is certainly a deciding factor on girls not being able to take the risk, but it goes hand and hand to "is it even worth it to sleep with him?", so they don't take the chance because they also don't think it will bring her anything, anyways, in terms of sexual pleasure.
This is why I'm not interested in long term dating, women only use men
In very, very basic terms, men are a vehicle that will drive a woman to her desired destination. Even though women claim they enter relationships for love and love only, we well know that isn't the reason for it.
How many marriages involving women with high partner counts last for a lifetime without divorce or cheating? I've never heard of one.
You may have a point, in the sense the men need to know the reasons why past relationships with his woman failed. Numbers aren't indicative as reasons to why the long history of boyfriends didn't work.
I think it can be summed up pretty simply...
Women choose who gets to enter the gates... If anyone can enter the gate then the club is a pretty shitty club with no standards.
If it takes a certain type of person to get in, and only few can reach that level... then the club is special, has standards, and is a place worth fighting to be part of.
But your analogy breaks down when you get in the club... empty clubs are no fun.
@TakeMaker A club full of scum is no fun either. Being a part of a special group of elite members gives anything more value.
I don't agree. And women who have been very thoughtful and wary of the men they are with will only choose him because she thinks she found a man closer to her standards that will drive her where she wants to go. This principle applies to any woman. Not to say you can't have your preferences, though.
I guess they also want her to be more dirty with them. Which I think is fair. Good take.
I think a woman should be dirty and dirtier with the guy she really cares about.
Can u help me out on my take?
Thank you. Sure, what do you need help with?
Thanks, this one? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what
Oh and if you whatsapp message someone, what would they make if your last seen was about 2 weeks ago despite you just having texted them?