Male vs female orgasm

why is it that virtually every time I have sex with my bf..he has an orgasm but it doesn't seem as important for me to have one? and every time he is finished all is over..not matter at what stage I am? has anyone else experienced this before?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • The same thing happens with me and my boyfriend. We always try to make me finish first that way we both have a chance to. Sometimes he finishes first, but unless he has enough strength and whatnot to stay hard and keep going, he'll get soft and then I just have to deal with it. It isn't very often so it's not a big deal but maybe ask your boyfriend to slow down and let you catch up so you two can finish together or so you can finish first and then he can keep going once you do.

    Hope this helps ;]

  • I think that's mostly because that (with most men) once men have an orgasm, they have no drive to keep doing it.

    • Yes very true. but if it was me I would want to make sure that the girl comes as well..maybe if not after then at least before..just makes me sad sometimes as I feel it is not worth his time...and then again there are times when he does focus only on me..unasked..coz he wants too..need to talk to him

    • Tell him to do other things to you if he can't go no more ;)

Most Helpful Guys

  • Men experience a refractory period after orgasm (the length varies man to man, for some mere moments, for others hours), during which further stimulation is either uncomfortable or painful. This is the reason that it's over after he orgasms, he is simply unable to continue.

    Other than that, he is rather inconsiderate, and should be making sure that you are also satisfied, even if he cannot continue with the actual sex.

  • have you talked to him about this? If my girl told me you know I think it should be a 50/50 thing then yes I would make sure no matter what I would make her cum. I am not one that is apposed to going down on her after I finish. It is actually a huge turn on for me to see a girl come watch/feel her p**** pulse and all that. but some people are takers not givers.

    • I like that.. well I know about the fact that some/most guys don't have any interest in sex anymore once they had their orgasm...but at least before hand..will talk to him again. that should work

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  • Yes everyone has experienced this before. It is a very common thing. Most men can only come once in a session and after that they have no energy and need to recoup.

    Tell him to make you come by fingering you and then have intercourse.

  • Your man is selfish, selfish, selfish. He owes you some orgasm, and needs to get caught up. No sex until he does.

    Women come first.

    • I see what you are saying..only problem with no sex until he does is that my sex drive at the moment is through the roof and his is not so strong just now..

    • Stick his face in your pants and say he can have sex with you after the fifth orgasm. Everybody wins, and he learns something.

  • Make him drunk before sex but not too drunk

    • Funny coincidence..bought him some beer today..:-)

    • Get him something stronger then a beer:)

    • LOL..but the beer worked last night...might move on to vodka tonight then..

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  • I feel it is important for a woman to have a couple of orgasms before intercourse! Then in intercourse the male can finish and the female can get more!

  • If the guy cums sex is over. Guys can't do it more than one times. He can lick you or finger you but sex is over

  • ask him to give you oral after he orgasms...that may help to satisfy you more. it's really not his fault that he loses his erection after he orgasms...but he could do other things to make you happy.