Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I was talking with this guy on a Q of mine, and he said if he had to pick, he'd <3 not orgasming from sex! So I asked him to explain, and he said that not orgasming from sex would mean that he could totally enjoy the sex. He said he'd just want to cum after.
Then I saw comments from a few anon girls saying they loved getting off after sex too, by themselves. I was so surprised by this. So now I want to try myself.
I do think it could be really relaxing. Like we can do short sex, or long sex, or anything. He could do whatever I wanted, and I could do whatever he wanted. Then after sex was over, I could tell him to rub on me to get me off.
I also really prefer he pullout for less pregnancy risk, so he could also jack himself off too. Or I could give him a handjob. It'd be really short, but I would <3 this most of all since I could easily see his face when he came, if I wanted to.
I think this would be a cool idea. No stress or pressure for anyone. Also in my case, I need friction on my clit when to orgasm. So that could be fun too. I wouldn't have to be totally naked and could put my underwear back on...we could have fun with that. Or of course I can give myself a handjob and he can just hold me during it.
I would want to be open with him about this. Like the comments from the anon girls looked like they hid it from their bfs. It's true guys can take it personally, because of how they perform during sex, but I think it's all in how you explain it. If he still doesn't like my idea, then we aren't a match. I'd rather sex be as intimate as possible, instead of him being so focused on his skills or me being unhappy. And instead of me worrying I won't cum from foreplay or sex, and focusing on him not being happy either.
You can get her off before or after sex with foreplay, but it can still be pressure. Not as much, but nothing's perfect. I've only rarely not been able to get off from masturbation though, so I feel like this is just really easy and could be really fun for both. I feel like doing things this way could be really cool.
What Girls & Guys Said
10 26As long as I get my nut and you don't bother me after, then you're A-Okay in my book 👌🏻
naaah, i'll pass
There is nothing wrong with masturbating after sex
I guess it's cool if the gf/bf want a bigger orgasm
I think it is hard to get it up as up but it is cool.
Masturbating is always very weird it doesn't matter before or after sex. I am a virgin and never masturbate.
Its fine, better if she lets me lick her clean afterwards
I would like it if I could hold/cuddle with the girl while she masturbates and I am kissing on her and feeling her up. Then she orgasms and I lick her clean before we have sex.
I would like her to explain to me that I am not enough to satisfy her on my own so she needs to do that first.
Yeah, he'd hold me and help with the masturbating.
That sounds good then.
Masturbation is a form of giving your soul to Satan. Repent now and find Jesus before you masturbate your soul away.
Don't feed the troll.
Well it was me, and i think that would be fine. That said, what i actually do most is rub her clit with my fingers during sex, maybe not right away, but to make her orgasm. After her orgasm i might keep thrusting or might switch to something else.
This can work too! I wanted a foolproof way though. And need friction on the clit myself.
She doesn't always need it but usually does. But she definitely has better orgasms (and is more turned on) if i'm basically masturbating her while having sex with her. Rear entry is easier for that (if i'm doing it). Sometimes in missionary she will rub her clit while i thrust. Do you or your partner not do that during sex?
I haven't tried this yet. I do know for me that I'd need friction. Plus pressure changes. I like how this idea makes sex simple. Like long or short or multi round, the masturbation idea means I can cum no matter what.
I understand that you need friction... but... i'm not clear why someone can't be doing -exactly- what you like to your clit while a penis is in you? It's not that i think a penis has to be in you, it's that i think you might like the combination better than either on its own? That's the missing piece between how studies show most women need clit stimulation to cum, yet most women like sex more than oral. How can this be? answer: someone's rubbing their clit during sex!
Yeah like I said your idea is good. But it could also require long sex... I like this since it's so flexible. And easiest to focus with too.
Yes, and no, though it's important to note that it has the advantage of splitting the speeds... by that i mean if the guy is not close to cumming he can thrust fast while rubbing her a little or even not much, but if he's closer than she is, he can thrust very slowly while rubbing her quickly. He'd probably focus more on her till she cums, then both could focus on him. I think it's -healthier- to be happier either way and not view it as an issue if he cums first.
That's what I mean. Regular sex can have a lot if stress or accommodating. This idea is so simple. If I cum after it's no stress or even extra effort with foreplay.
sex is enough for me
Not cool for your partner. They would think they're not enough
Not at all! If he wanted to pullout and cum, that'd be fine with me. I'd tell him this is just my preference, and he can get me off using his hand too. Better than faking Os.
And not much different from oral or fingering after sex, since it'd be directly after sex and with him knowing.
i have never orgasmed from sex before. i have always masturbated myself afterwards when i was home.
Masturbation=Body abuse. It's not stress reliever it's a form of abuse that often link to depression.
How is masturbating body abuse?