Men can't really use sex appeal to get girls?

[Anonymous]

Any half decent looking girl in tight clothing will have most men immediately attracted. I don't see how a guy can use his body to attract girls unless maybe he was in good shape and at the beach. It seems like women aren't very attracted to the male body. The male aesthetic is not really sexually appealing to girls.

[MercySoleil]

I'm very attracted to the make body, but more for function over form, if that makes sense. What his body is capable of, and if his vibe matches up to it. For example……strong hands alone can turn me on, but not if he has a baby face or just looks lazy because it doesn't match up to my expectation of what those hands should do😂 It's hard to explain, and most of the time it's not something a man can control or change. That's why it's always best to do you and be confident about it, because that's sexy as hell.

[Asker]

What about a muscular guy with little girly hands?(me! I am serious, I go to gym frequently and play a lot of sport, I am taller than average with average size feat, but my hands are small. Which is very noticeable next to my muscular forearms).

[MercySoleil]

I'm sure you can make up for it in other ways😊 Sometimes that's an age thing also.

[Asker]

They aren't going to get any bigger unless I take HGH.

[MercySoleil]

Maybe not the growing part, but they may not always be so "girly".. there's plenty of other women who could care less about your hands anyway😊

[snowangle]

Yeah true, there's not much natural opportunity for guys to show off their bodies. If we happen to see a fit guy without his shirt off, or lifting stuff and showing off his biceps, then we can get turned on from it.

[Asker]

You mean without his shirt on?

[snowangle]

He can lift stuff and still wear a shirt. My coworker did it the other day and I got a little hot haha

[Asker]

Would you prefer that to his shirt being off?

[snowangle]

Nah I'd prefer him to have his shirt off lol, but that's not always possible.

[Asker]

You once posted this though "Because the appeal in girls' bodies is more visual while men's appeal is more in their function/how they make us feel. So while we're attracted to men, their bodies simply aren't that aesthetically pleasing. Think about male lions, peacocks, etc. They are more visually appealing than the females of their species. That's how human women are." In response to a question about "straight" women being more attracted to the female body than the male body. That makes you seem closer to being lesbian than straight.

[snowangle]

Um I probably posted that years ago.. stalker. 🙄 It's true that women are intended to be the more ornamental sex. Objectively, the average woman is more aesthetically pleasing than the average man. That doesn't mean that heterosexual women aren't attracted to men. We are. I see a muscular guy with his shirt off and my breath gets taken away. But, again, women are generally more mental when it comes to attraction, so more often it's a guy's personality and emotional connection that attracts us to him.

[Asker]

Personality and emotional connection aren't even gender specific. In the comment below that answer you even said that men where not physically remarkable creatures.

[MrOracle]

Unless you are in that gifted Top 5% (or maybe even 2%), then, you're right.

Guys have to have other qualities to attract women:

- CONFIDENCE
- success
- talent
- uniqueness
- status
- access/popularity

Anyone not fortunate enough to be in that "male model"-looking group needs to have at least some of these other things going for him, with CONFIDENCE being the most important.

[Asker]

Shows women aren't really sexually attracted to the male body

[Asker]

And those things aren't even gender specific.

[MrOracle]

No, it shows that (most) don't enjoy CASUAL sex - they're only sexually interested AFTER they've established an EMOTIONAL connection with someone. Once that's in place, they can be VERY attracted and aroused by that person's body. Yes, it's quite different than they way men work, but most men would be perfectly happy to have casual, or even anonymous sex. Most women have no interest in that at all.

[Asker]

How can they be straight if they aren't sexually attracted to gender specific traits? All the things you listed can be possessed by women too.

[MrOracle]

They're attracted to them - but not in the DIRECTLY sexual way that men are, because women have that prerequisite (having an emotional connection) that they need to have satisfied before their raw sexual desires kick in.

[Asker]

Sexual attraction defines sexual orientation, if this is not achieved through gender specific traits, I don't see how they can be straight.

[MrOracle]

That's fine - but realize the problem is a comprehension issue on your part, and not some failing of 3.5 billion women on the planet. I have no trouble understanding it, and neither do most people.

[Asker]

I understand it opens opportunity for sexual attraction to the same sex, female sexual fluidity is well documented. Look it up and many scientists claim most, if not all women are bisexual. Considering in tests women are more aroused by the female body than the male body pdfs.semanticscholar.org/.../...ff8f3421b2fe55.pdf and lesbian porn is by far the most popular genre to the female demographic (pornhub statistics), while the male body in and of itself doesn't arouse sexual desire in them, it's very hard to consider women straight.

[TheCunningLinguist]

That is because most guys have no standards and will fuck anything. Sadly any more women are starting to follow that lead. But hey you know, equality.

[jacquesvol]

Some exceptions seem to do it.
But I'll not be immediately attracted to any half decent looking girl in tight clothing.

[Asker]

Maybe because you are old, a young guy would be attracted.

[jacquesvol]

I've been young too.